so this girl started working where i work, i thought she was good looking and a devolped a crush on her didnt really act on it ( dont know why, i thought it wouldnt go anywhere) a bit later on i found out that one of my good friends likes her, and this is right when i realized this girl did like me through people telling me and just the way we acted around each other. this friend of mine that likes her how do i break it to himm without him being mad at me ??
and this will be wierd because he is in this group of friends that always go out together,
whats the best way to go about this ?
2006-08-26 03:43:35 · 8 answers · asked by cool g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be straight with him, but I would confront the girl in private first and ask her out. if the guy is your friend, he will be happy for you.
2006-08-26 03:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a hard and fast rule, "Never get your meat where you get your bread."
That being said, if you pursue this girl, and it goes sour, how easy would it be for you to get a new job? Because working with someone with whom you were once intimate.
If you're at the equivalent of a McDonalds, then no worries. Why not just tell her you find her interesting (hopefully just beyond her appearance) and that you'd like to share some one on one time with her.
...or invite her to some event. Fortune favors the brave (except when it kills them). What's the worst that can happen? You get rejected. If that's the case, just move on. What's the best that can happen? I think you can answer that one for yourself. Don't be ashamed of your feelings and desire, but just be prepared to respect hers.
2006-08-26 10:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Mickey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I don't believe in romance in the workplace... too many risk factors involved.
You say he is a friend, well then just be frank with him that you're interested in this girl too... maybe have a few laughs over it and figure out of he is serious or not. Ultimately, if you want to risk dating someone you work with, she has probably already made up her mind who she is interested in.
Why not organize a night out with her involved, and tell her to bring some of her girlfriends along... maybe there is someone you will meet through her that you will be more interested in and will not have to work with you!
2006-08-26 10:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sue_Render_Urself_2Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have acted on it when you first met her and realized you liked her. To now do it, after finding out your friend likes her, you risk losing a good friend over a possible relationship that may or may not work out.
2006-08-26 10:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not going out with your friend and she likes you, than she should let your friend know, that she wants to be with you and that she wants to remain friends. She also should let your friend know, that she had no attention being more than a good friend and should apologize for any confusion. You don't know, how your good friend will react, he might be jealous. Therefor, its better if the girl talks to your friend. Also consider, is it worth it, loosing a good friend over a fling.
2006-08-26 10:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him, tell him you like her too. the best way to deal with this is that neither of you get her. or she decides between you two.
2006-08-26 10:47:18 · answer #6 · answered by Liliana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a jungle dude just ask her *** out before he doese. u dont got break it to him, besides do u want to be the guy he tells that he just @#$%@ her last night.
2006-08-26 10:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by septboy19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you like you like her and thats that or lhe took to much time to get her it's up to her
2006-08-26 10:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋