inspite of me giving her my full attention she has become insecure andextremely cranky.she simply doesnt seem to like me feeding the new one,what do i do?
2006-08-26 03:06:51 · 13 answers · asked by eeta 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i have a 18 month old and a 3 month old. Avery was 15 months when Ryan was born. It took her a little while but i give her equal attention. when i'm feeding ryan, avery will throw her fit, but i just let her. when i'm done and ryan is sleeping i go to avery. it's been 3 months and avery has adjusted to ryan being here and now knows ryan is her little sister and not going anywhere. she trys to help me out now and holds her bottle or just talks to her. it's alot of fun and will only get better. it will get better, just give her some time.
2006-08-26 05:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by ♥mommy of 4♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you feed the baby ask her to come sit with you too. Have her hold the bottle, and rub the babys back when you burb her. Have her get you a diaper and the wipes and help you out, with the new baby. If the baby is fussing have her shake a rattle for you or something, make her feel she is special too, cuz she is helping you, and that way you will be able to spend time with both of them. When the new baby is sleeping or even in a swing or baby seat you can read a story or just cuddle with the older one, or sit down and watch a cartoon with her like you use to
2006-08-26 11:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by krista a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Include your oldest child in the day to day actvities of your new born. Tell her you need her to be mommys special helper. If you are bottle feeding, allow her to hold the bottle. Ask her to get a diaper, baby wipes, etc. Just make her feel special and that her role in helping with the new baby is very important because she's the big sister.
2006-08-26 11:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was 4 when his sister was born. She as 13 months + 4 days when my next daughter was born. The third child was 2 years + 1 month when # 4 came along. #4 was 16 months when #5 came along. They all had their moments. Try to do somthing special. with the older child when the baby is a sleep
2006-08-26 10:14:03 · answer #4 · answered by krayzmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 2 when my newborn came home. It helped when she as my "helper". She would bring me new diapers, and throw away old ones. I would always call the baby "HER" baby. That made her proud and happy.
Feeding time, I nursed. My toddler would sit on my lap and hold my shirt to the side and say she was helping. LOL. It only worked at home, trust me. :) LOL. If bottle feeding, have her help hold the bottle and praise her.
It's not always about the full attention. But about the feeling important. Always praise her for everything she does that is good, even little things. :)
She will get used to it, trust me. :)
2006-08-26 10:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
soumds like your daughter was not prepared for the new baby. First of all let her think the baby is hers.Always use the words the words YOUR baby sister, if you bottle feed let her hold the bottle.,try sitting her on the couch and tell her she is going to help mommy hold the baby and then while you continue to hold the baby set the baby on her lap Give her the job of taking the dirty diaper to the garbage..She just needs to know that you need her and her baby sister needs her too and you love them both
2006-08-26 10:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, first off you are stressing too much, i know it will be difficult for you , but try to ignore the crankiness and ask her if she would like to help mommy, or if you are breast feeding she could help by "burping the baby" show her how to give the baby little pats on the back..instead of trying to divide your attention so much see if she is willing to make a joint effort..Then when the baby is napping give her extra cuddles and tell her what a big girl and a good helper she is
2006-08-26 10:14:40 · answer #7 · answered by CassAndra K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spend some quality time with her besides that she is just going to have to get use to the fact you can't deprive the baby of her needs and her sister is going to have to just learn that. She is young enough to forget what life was like with out her there before to long.
2006-08-26 10:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by rochelle s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i hope that while the baby was in your tummy, you introuduced it to her then!! read books about it, and told her that this is her little sister! it will take time, you can read all the books you want, but you will still have some problems. I hope that everything works out! Congrats on the babies!, they are so close together!!!
2006-08-26 10:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by vmbbfreak06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend equal time with them. Just as before. When the baby is sleeping or doesn't need your care, spend time with your older daughter to make her feel loved, like before you had another baby.
2006-08-26 10:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋