Hello to all!
I would appreciate any feedback, suggestions or responses
to the psych test that my girl sent me. I know
everyone has their own unique feelings on these words, and
I personally don't like to evaluate people with psych
tests. In any case, I also understand that there is some
value to these psych tests, and my girl is a (educated)
hottie, so I figure, what the heck do I have to lose?
Thanks!
EXERPT FROM HER LETTER:
I only try to find out if we can live together, share our
common life, don't you mind? This is a fun little exercise
that will help us learn more about each other. For each of
the words I write below you need to comment on them. Tell
me your attitude about them or what significance they have
for you.
Chocolate, Kissing, Cats, Mornings, Holding hands,
Fashion, Blonde girl, Diets, Morality, Politics, Romantic,
Sex, Forest, Tickling, Fishing, Winter, Shopping, Sports.
2006-08-26 03:03:58 · 7 answers · asked by MadlyInLove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all the great responses! I probably should add that, this is presently a long-distance romance.....
2006-08-26 04:30:42 · update #1
What the heck, go for it. I recommend being honest, and ask her to do the same thing for you by sending her feedback to you on those words before she receives your answers. You might find that you have a lot in common. Again, be honest, don't try to second guess what she is looking for. The more honest you are, the better chances of both of you having a wonderful relationship together. She sounds like a fun person. Have fun yourself and good luck!
2006-08-26 03:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by whitewolfpfv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're planning on moving in together I can see where some things would be important....for instance where you say "cats"...you might be alergic (and that's a big deal). Diets could be another if you plan to shop together, make meals so there is no wasting. If a couple are in two separate rooms where they can keep all their stuff that's fine, but when you have a livingroom and kitchen together you need to know if the other person is neat and cleans up after themself. You need to know if a person is a morning or evening person because of noise levels (if you have friends over, if you play an instrument or like loud music, or have the tv loud for sports or if you intend on having friends over...or having them over and expect her to help out with serving food).
Chocolate, kissing, holding hands, blonde girl, morality, sex, tickling are very personal things and you need to discuss those before you move in or somebody will be moving out quickly.
I have no idea at all why fashion, politics, forest, fishing, or winter are listed. Although some people are interested in knowing if you ever plan to move to another state.
Was this your psychological test. I don't see it as psychological at all.
2006-08-26 03:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
chocolate- fattening. therefore, bad(except when i've just cried. then it becomes an object of great importance.)
kissing- have never tried, but according to my friends, good.
cats- cute. cuddly. therefore, good. however, i prefer dogs.
mornings.-horrible.
holding hands- with friends or lover, ok. with unknown person or someone i hate, NOT ok.
fashion- hard to follow. doesn't have much significance
blonde girl- no feelings(it depends on the girl's personality.)
diets- again, hard to follow. has BIG payoff, though.
morality- important
politics- unimportant
ROMANTIC!!!!!- look at the capitalization and exclamation marks
sex- er....
forest-okay if its not on a mountain
tickling- am sick of it
fishing- fun! if i let the fish go or sell them, that is.
winter- again, fun! WINTER VACATION
Shopping - could do it for weeks w'o stopping if i had the money and time. period.
sports-baseball, soccer; great. the rest; not so great. volleyball and basketball; they SUCK!!
P.S. haha, this is the masterpeice i worked on 4 20minutes!!
you'd better thank me (just kidding :) )
2006-08-26 03:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by wordsofapoet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it could be fun and a neat "get to know you better routine" but I wouldn't look at it as any more than that.
If she is going to try to base your relationship compatibility on a simple game like that, something is probably not right.
I wouldn't really call it a psych test for compatibility. It just sounds like "word association". If she really wants to know how you feel about certain things on that list, she should probably ask you about them in person on your next date instead of just sending youa list of words in an email.
My response? I would probably reply to the email and say something like "Lets talk about that stuff next time we go out, it'll be good conversation over dinner"
Anyway... Hope that helps.
2006-08-26 03:09:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mandragon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It innocently sounds like a great icebreaker to get to know you, which in the written response is open to a whole host of interruption that may or may not reflect your true thoughts and be biased by her interruption.
I would suggest telling her you would like to do it but in person so further explanation could clarify your true feelings on these vague issues. The process of discovering someones true self lies in a personal relationship not a academic examination arena.
Alternatively it suggests that she is impatient to get to know you, (why?)judgmental in her expections of your answers(hearing what she wants to hear vs hearing what you are saying) Rigid in her thinking that this a acceptable way of communicating personal thoughts and feelings devoid of interaction.
Screening tools have been a valueable measuring device to project favorable outcomes but are not perfect. They vary due to the degrees of definition each participant has set from themselves.
2006-08-26 03:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by Outside the box 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 chocolate=too sweet ,cavities
2 kissing=happy, closeness ,foreplay
3 mornings=coffee, chaos, children fighting
4 holding hands=sweet ,closeness, happy
5 fashion=expensive, trends ,wishful thinking
6 blond girl=Paris Hilton, they have more fun
7diets=dangerous ,compulsions, perfection, pressure
8 morality=hypocrite's ,confusion ,churches
9 politics= liars, thieves ,war mongers
10=romantic=candles, vanilla, roses
11=sex=fun, happy, closeness, love
12=forest=green, Bunny's, beauty
13=tickling=not ticklish, children ,laughter
14-fishing =solitude, nature, wildlife
15=winter=hockey ,hot chocolate, rosy cheeks
16=shopping= hassle ,kids screaming, standing in line
17=sports =hockey, excitement ,son
2006-08-26 03:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1love it 2that,s so much fun 3good capanions4 i hate mornings 5ok sometmes6not my type7yes very nice8 ererer9i keep good morals10i hate politices11i love to be romantic12fun fun fun13camping14hahahah15boats r cool16snow men17show me the money18 football seson soon
2006-08-26 03:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by bubba 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋