I am concerned b/c my daughter doesn't like school this year and usually she loves school and is extremely excited about learning. Last year she made many new friends in kindergarten but in 1st grade the school has 2 classes. All of her friends are in the other class and she is taking it pretty hard. I am worried that she will lose her love of school and her drive to learn b/c she is so bummed about her friends. She is having to adjust to new people, uniforms, routines, and a full day of class. I don't want her to be discouraged. Has anyone been thorugh this? Any suggestions?
2006-08-26 03:00:48 · 22 answers · asked by Suzanne 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
She will make new friends. I work at an elementary school and most of the time, by the third week of school they are happy. If you shown too much concern in front of her then that will help to set her mood too. Act excited every morning when she's getting ready for school and write her a nice note on a napkin that she can find at lunch. Ask her about other children in her class and she will start taking interest in them too.
2006-08-26 03:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the teacher about it, so she knows and can make some adjustments...She can do some activities.where the kids can get to know each other better or partner them up. Also invite some of her old friends over for a play date as well as a few new kids from her new class. Ask the teacher for a list of numbers, and call a few parents, and I am sure they would love for their child to have a play date and make a new friend. All you can do is encourage her to make new friends and focus in school. Honestly if the teacher knows how your daughter is feeling she will try to help her....She will be ok it will just take a little time. She has to learn to get used to changes, because life and school is always changing..Best of luck...
2006-08-26 03:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by misstikal311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is in 2nd grade. The school SHOULD work w/ you and maybe switch classes. Start talking about making new friends. every year is going to be something new. That's how they'll grow up. Offer a $1 surprise if she will be a big girl for you just to get her to give it a try and find out the other little girls are pretty neat also. My daughter didn't want me to leave from the daycare, didn't want to ride bus. Only on it for 3-5 minutes. God, I'd love to have uniforms! Oh the fights we had about clothes in 1st grade mind you. I can't be late to work anymore. This year she puts together several outfits on Sunday so no fights about matching, is it clean? etc. Working pretty well so far. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 01:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by dawn s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you invite one or two girls from her class to come over and play after school or on the weekend?
Encourage her to get to know her classmates. Ask her to tell you the name of two new kids each day after school.
Talk to her teacher. Let her know that she is having a hard time. The teacher will hopefully help her out with getting her playing with others and getting to know them during recess.
The adjustment from 1/2 day to full day is HARD! Full day is really a long day for a first grader! But she'll get the hang of it after a while. Have a protein snack and some quiet time for her to get home if she needs to rest after school.
2006-08-26 10:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My daughter went through the same thing last year in 1st grade. Have her talk to the school counselor about her feelings. My daughters counselor arranged a special lunch time with my daughter and about 4 other girls in her class. It helped a lot. Try to arrange a play date with a favorite girl in the class.
2006-08-27 06:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Padme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i can understand her situation,b/c who likes to lose friends,and it's kind of hard adjusting to change. Change can be scary sometimes, even for adults, so i suggest you sit down and talk to her , and try to find out are other kids bothering her, or maybe go sit in class with her a few times. I believe eventually she will come around, but right now shes just missing her other friends.. GOD BLESS
2006-08-26 03:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason your daughter doesn't like school this year is because all her friends are in the other classs. she felt safe and comfortable and she knew everyone in her class. now she is starting with children she doesn't know . as a parent all we can do is to reassure them that everything will be ok, and that it is alright to continue her friendship with the "old friends" but that it is also ok to
make new friends. Explain also that with each grade,
it will be different and that it can also be challenging for
her. you could also invite some of her old friends along
with some new friends over for cookies and milk/ or just some of the newer classmates.
2006-08-26 03:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by noseyandme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when I went from 1st grade to 2nd there wasn't a single child from the same class. I adjusted well..... just give her time
this can happens to any one My daughter freaked out when she went to high school........she knew all these kids all her life............just the idea of change can be unsettling to anyone when the routine has been broken. I did when I moved to a new town and did not know anyone there
2006-08-26 03:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by krayzmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll find new friends, just give her some time. I think some of the other ideas offered, like talking to the teacher or inviting some of the kids from her new class over are great ideas.
2006-08-30 03:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by djecse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that it may be hard at first but once she gets used to the routine and makes some new friends then it will be a peice of cake.. school used to be hard for me because i hardly had friends and the classes were hard... but once i realized that if i didnt hate school so much then everything wouldnt be so hard, if she ever needs help she can feel free to ask questions until she understands.
2006-09-01 07:07:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋