My little guy is due to start year 1 in school next week (full days), my problem being that at home after going to the toilet he uses kandoo wipes,
but in nursery last term (9am - 11:30) he came home on several occasions with traces of poo on his boxers, my husband thinks that he may be in a hurry to get out to play or to class, but im worried that all day in school the other kids may make fun of him? please help?
2006-08-26 02:52:27 · 18 answers · asked by laurren davies 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I know the title is a bit weird - but i didnt know how else to ask it?
Also no rude answers please.
2006-08-26 02:53:36 · update #1
How are the other children going to see that he has a little poo in his pants? Unless it's a lot of poo it won't show, will it?
If it bothers you that you have to clean it off, why don't you give your son some kandoo wipes to take with him in his school bag so he can use them when he uses the toilet at school?
Also, have a talk with your son about proper hygiene and making sure that he wipes himself properly. Emphasise that is is not nice to leave poo on your bottom because it is dirty and he might get ill from it if he touches it by mistake and doesn't wash his hands. You can get good books from the library on keeping clean for younger children, try asking your children's librarian.
By the way, I'm very sorry if you thought I was being rude. I am absolutely genuine and I don't mean to cause any offence to you or anyone else.
2006-08-26 02:58:56 · answer #1 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Just keep reminding him to "wipe 'til it's clean", and he'll get it eventually.
Unless there's quite alot, to make a smell, the other kids won't even notice it.
The more important point is to make sure he washes his HANDS thoroughly. If you think it might be the case that he's in a hurry to get out of the bathroom, have a little talk with the teacher and ask him/her to encourage him to not hurry, stay in there and finish the job. It's not an embarassing question to ask the teacher, they deal with this all the time. It's a very common concern with kids this age.
Just don't make this a source of shame for your child, no matter what his boxers look like at the end of the day! Make it a positive thing for him to learn to get himself clean, to becoming a "big boy".
2006-08-26 13:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this conversation with my sister yesterday.Her boy starts nursery in Sept. He sometimes asks for help wiping and she's worried about the same as you.
Don't be worried, I can guarantee you that the majority of kids in his class will have skids...some will have even worse...bless them.
It takes time to wipe thoroughly and he'll eventually get the hang of doing it properly.
He won't be made fun of.....kids are too busy playing in the sand pit etc to even notice where they are, let alone notice if someone has dirty undies.
2006-08-26 09:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if you taught him how to wet the tissue, or try to talk to him and say he has to wipe good so no poop is showing up on tissue or he will stink. maybe if he took some wipes in his bag but then again kids are cruel, i bet others kids have the same problem, i watch a 6 year old who does this all the time cause he doent want to take the time cause he might miss something. actually i wouldnt even worry cause there are probably lots of kids with this problem....plus hopefully no one at school looks at his boxers those are private.
2006-08-29 16:35:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very common in children and both of my primary school aged kids still get poo marks from time to time. best advice is to draw his attention to it but not in a negative way. you do not want to increase his anxiety about it. sometimes they are in such a hurry that they don't take the time to wipe themselves properly.the other kids probably wont notice these things at that age.discontinue using the kandoo wipes as these will not be available elsewhere snf he's better getting used to regular toilet roll asap.don't worry!
2006-08-29 08:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by vonbon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By school age children should be able to wipe their bottoms properly so teach him how to use normal toilet tissue he has to learn sometime. Also tell his teacher about your concerns and give her a bag of spare clothes so she can keep an eye on him and change him if he makes a mess.
2006-08-26 15:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by brownsuga 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal. Dont worry about it. Wait till you find out what some of the other children are like - your son having a few skid marks is nothing and most children have the same issue.
Just cos other parents dont talk about it doesnt mean its not happening.
2006-08-26 10:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless him!!
No real answer to this. I only have one boy but do have 5 girls so my instinct would say, try and get him to use the loo before school or when he gets home. It won't work every day. I doubt that other kids would notice, have a word with his teacher, they always have spare boxers and s/he will be very supportive.
2006-08-26 10:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Nev 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird at all. My daughter is the same. All you can do is tell him to make sure he wipes his bottom properly with the toilet paper. I think all kids are the same, he will grow out it eventually once he understands hygiene.
2006-08-26 09:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend had a similar problem with her son when he started Kindergarten. She informed the teacher of the problem and made her aware of what was going on. She would send the wipes with him in a little baggie and tuck them in his pocket. Only he and the teacher knew that he had them. Made the day so much easier.
2006-08-30 06:45:34 · answer #10 · answered by dedee1127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋