HI their,
We are writing our own vows for out wedding, but I am having a bit of a hard time. How long is is supposed to be, and is it what you promis in the marriage, or about how much you love each other, any suggestions would be appreciated and no smart a@@es please. Thanks
2006-08-26 02:22:55 · 11 answers · asked by shrimpseys 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks guys, I know that their is so much history, its hard, their is sooo much I culd say, but I don;t want to babble either. Just for such an important event was getting a bit of writer block, the length helps though, and I think I have some ideas now. thanks.
2006-08-26 02:59:21 · update #1
Write down:
1. What you mean to each other
2. The promises you will keep forever
2006-08-26 02:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you each writing your own vows or are you writing vows together so that you both can repeat the same one? The library should have some books on the subject.
*Think about what you want to say.
*Talk to your officiant & see if he/she has guidlines you need to follow or ideas for you
*Keep them short & sweet. Your officiant/celebrant will have already asked you (usually by law) the Question of Intent, the "Do you take...." part; unless you use that as your actual vow.
*Usually you mention love, cherish, honor.
*Use a cheat sheet at the wedding. You don't want to stand there trying to remember what you wrote amid all the emotion.
I performed a wedding last evening. This is the vow that I used.
I___, take you ___, to be my _____; I promise to love you, with all my heart; to comfort you; nourish you & uphold you with my strength. I will cherish you, 'til the end of our days.
Need help & can't find any, give me a shout.
2006-08-26 03:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that for my vows, going through old letters from when we first fell in love is a must. It will amaze you at what you wrote so long ago. I am a poet and there are some parts of those letters I turned into poems and the actually turned out very nicely. Just write from your heart, draw inspiration from your past, and show raw emotion
2006-08-26 02:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by sam k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding day is your day - put the words together from your heart. Think about the things that are important to you both and what you are happy to commit to. Your marriage celebrant or minister should be able to know you both well enough to assist with this. I have a very dear friend who has married at least 1000 couples - if there are children involved, they are always included in the ceremony. If you would like so words that have been used preciously, please contact me and I will send them onto you. This friend of mine, the marriage celebrant is 83, still married and still deeply in love with her husband.
2006-08-26 02:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Red Robin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went to best wedding in my life, with a 50's something couple. they privately wed then repeated their own vows for the hundred guests. the woman spoke of comparing love for him to things she loved i think, like warm glowing sunrises, specific flowers, some was very metaphorical (sunrise meaning new beginings?) The guy was more simple, more nervous, but said "I promise to love you on good days and on bad days (there were a bunch of giggles from close friends) in summer in winter during laughter and during arguments. promise to love you and honor you by listening to what you have to say even when I disagree (some more snickers) promise to remember love is always changing and evolving and to cherish those changes ... stuff like that. isn't there web sites? like google 'write wedding vows"??? I think they each sopke for 3-6 minutes each. good luck.
2006-08-26 02:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by git along gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's important as to the length of the vows, however what is important is that the words come from your souls, only you can write them. Best wishes.
2006-08-26 10:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were doing this I would identify what my partner and I found most important. As for length, keeping it to your standard (whatever that maybe for you) religious type vow exchange (probably 3 minutes) might be more comfortable for everyone.
2006-08-26 02:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by Tristansdad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We took the traditional vows and put our own spin on them. Here is what we used:
_________, I choose you today in witness of all the people who love us. I choose you tomorrow in the haven of our hearts. I choose you in strength and in weakness. I choose you in health and in sickness. I choose you in joyfulness and in sadness.
I will choose you, over all others, every day for all the days of my life.
Relax. Everything will be great! Congrats!
2006-08-26 05:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you write you're vowes you should tell him/her how much they mean to you.and also put a promis in there that you will keep though out you're marriage. best of luck
2006-08-26 02:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I found this great website that might help you. Congratulations and good luck!
2006-08-26 02:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by KatheeVonE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋