i have been dating this guy for two years and we also have a child who is nine months old. i really think i love him and the next minute i dont . we dont leave together , we aint married ,we still just boyfriend and girlfriend . i am 19 yrs and i am going to University next year. i have never reached climax during sex with him but he has almost every time we done it. i actually adore other guys who i meet but i am scared to leave him cause when he is angry he becomes violent and abusive . we argue a lot . iam scared to leave cause he says to me noone will go out with me because i have a baby. i dont know what to do ?i feel like i am stuck on him and i am also afraid to miss him if i dump him?what if i love him and realise later that he was not worth leaving ?,please help if you have any ideas.
2006-08-26 01:30:44 · 15 answers · asked by geebabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You still very young. I suggest you move on. This guy does not make you feel sexy and does not make you feel good about yourself. There is no point in staying with him....can you imagine 20 yrs later with this guy?
Also, he probably does not know what he is doing. Date other guys and reach your climax.
2006-08-26 01:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by kinito_2000_1999 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is he? It's harder for girls to climax than guys. It may be inexperience on both your parts. Try reading some books - whole section in the bookstore.
If he's violent and abusive, leave him immediately. Get a restraining order if you need to.
Nineteen with a baby. It may be a little harder for you but I know many, many women who had children already (some with several children) and found somebody. Some of the men had kids, some didn't. You may want to date men who are more mature.
If you really want to work at this relationship, get couples counseling. It does help, even if it's to just be better parents to your baby. Good luck.
2006-08-26 01:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by DeeDee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U still young a bright future waiting for u. U had to think abt your child future as well. Do you want yur child to live in a violent and abusive family? This is the Family Service Centre Helpline :1800-8380100/1800-2255372. (SOS) 24 hrs daily 1800-2214444. http://www.family.gov.sg/stopfamilyviolence. Just call this numbers when u need advise or help. Take Care & God Bless You and your cutie!
2006-08-26 01:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by Phoebe C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do hunny, is leave. An abusive guy is only a coward and does nothing for you. What you should do is find another guy and leave ur current one asap, dont tell him where u are going or anything, also get a restraining order on him so he cant touch you. As far the not climaxing...well if you want that...you need a guy that is commited to making you happy
2006-08-26 01:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Big Easy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to leave if you have a baby and he is angry, violent and abusive you don't need that and yes other guys will go out with you. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you do what is the very best for you and your child.
2006-08-26 01:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by jj&jslt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all if he is violent you and your baby hav no business being around him. Second of all if you really loved him you wouldn't be asking these kind of questions, and there wouldn't be a doubt in your mind that you love him.
Think it over carefully, can you see yourself spending the rest of you entire life with this man? If you don't picture yourself growing old with him then leave him. It would be worse for you and your baby to stay if all you do with this guy is argue.
2006-08-26 01:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anyway , you start changing your habits , always present your self charming and happy , no nagging , cook good food and feed him by becoming an good host . Allow him to sit in the house and have his drink after shower in the evening . Try to be with him with full energy . I am confident you will start liking him and he will start taking care of you and certainly he will handle you with tender hands .Try this small suggestion .
2006-08-26 01:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else, its obvious u deserve better. as for the violent part, have friernds near by to help u and to maybe call the police if necc.
a 4 nobody dating u cause u have a kid is bull, i personal adore kids and have no prob dating a gal w/ kids
2006-08-26 01:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there's a chance that you might really love him and that you might grow into a beautiful family, than you should open up a dialog with him regarding your sex life.Sex is like sports...some people need practice and coaching. And if it doesn't work out, their are many good men out there that could love you!
2006-08-26 01:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by ragesteen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it doesn't sound like sex is the problem here. If he's abusive and you're afraid of him you need to leave- if not for you- for your child.
2006-08-26 01:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋