I have no education on the field, but have read a lot on the subject. He has already done a lot of mental damage to many of my friends, and he keeps "attacking" persons I love and care about. I'm afraid to be falsly accusing him, but I fear for my friends. Also it's hard to stay away from this guy, seeing how he has an extremely magnetic personality. Any advice, please?
2006-08-26 01:21:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
By the way, I have cut contact with this guy a long time ago, and I have advised my friends to do the same. They wont, even though some of them even have been exposed to his dyssocial sides, not without damage. It's not possible for me to back out of this circle, seeing how it's my Christian Community (otherwise a great place to be).
2006-08-26 01:46:43 · update #1
How do you mean "attacking"? Like gossiping behind their backs, lying, backstabbing? And your friends all know what he does or just you? It's important that at least two others in your circle realize he is the cause before you say anything about it. Don't accuse, just compare notes, so to speak, on things done or said by her/him. But honestly, here's how I handled it with a person I know who I have to associate with anyway (at family reunions and such):
1. Because they often ARE charming...sit politely in their company and do not scoff, *tuh*, roll eyes or show any sign of disbelief. Do not pay more than average, polite amount of attention. Then no one will think YOU are the one with the problem.
2. If this person has done things to you too, be polite when you have to be around them, but mostly try not to be around them. Not only is this for your own safety and sanity, but also people will eventually notice. "Huh, So-and-so isn't here today. That's strange...." It works.
3. Try talking with the person, but know it might not help, might just make them smarter about how they do their deeds. Often they have a reason for what they do and if changing won't help them get what they want, then they won't. Some CAN though. You can suggest he get help if he confesses to anything.
4. Repetition of #2. Keep your distance. The less time you spend with him, the less he has to come up with stuff about you...Others will know it isn't true if you're not even around him...no matter what lie he comes up with. For a while at first there may be some doubt, but after a few months people will know it can't be true coz you're never around when they are with him too...and that will cause them to wonder about little things they thought they noticed themselves. Gets the ball rolling...takes away some of his power over you guys.
5. Hope he moves.
2006-08-26 01:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A psycopath is a person with no conscience. So his magnetic personality is fake as is he you need to stay away from him as he may become extremely dangerous and if he is attacking people then these people need to report him to the appropriate authorities for his and their own safety.
As you have already stated you are not a doctor and therefore cannot make a diagnosis of him he may just be a bully and you also need to take a long hard look at the circle of friends you are mixing with for your own safety. Good luck!
2006-08-26 01:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by angelle_76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he has done a lot of damage to you friends does not mean that he is a psychopath. Maybe he is just plain old mean. A psychopath will hurt anyone in his path and not think twice about it. I wouldn't worry much about it. If you are afraid of him then stay away from him even if he does have a magnetic person. If your friends were that afraid of him then they would stay away too. I wouldn't worry too much about him being a psychopath just a lousy friend.
2006-08-26 01:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would SERIOUSLY start distancing myself from this guy. Magnetic or not, why are you and your friends tolerating this type of treatment from someone who is supposedly a friend? No...run, don't walk away from him. There are plenty of people with magnetic personalities who are not a danger to be around. Even if this guy isn't a psychopath, he's obviously not someone it's healthy to be around!
2006-08-26 01:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should invite each of your friends out, separately, starting with the one that is most in danger. Find out who else doesn't trust this guy. Everyone may be afraid to speak up, but, everyone needs to be aware of the dangers of this guy. You also need to inform your parents and your teachers. There is nothing that can be done to him without proof of an offense, but, everyone needs to be aware of the possibilities.
2006-08-26 01:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the most charismatic guys in the world have been psychopaths, rapists, murderers, and child molesters. Their "magnetic" personality is what makes them so successful at what they do. Don't you worry about him having access to you because "it's hard to stay away" from him? Are you his next victim? He needs help but you aren't qualified to help so your priority must be your safety!! Do what it takes and STAY AWAY FROM HIM. STAY SAFE. STAY ALIVE!!!!!
2006-08-26 01:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm with the other 2, Don't try analyzing this Guy, get outta that Circle!
2006-08-26 01:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by trisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is anyone in your circle of friends even his friend if he keeps attacking them? that is not a friend.
2006-08-26 01:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
His magnetic personality is what makes him dangerous...Steer clear and go with your gut feelings, they are right on.
2006-08-26 01:32:23 · answer #9 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't sound like you are wrapped too tight yourself; why would you hang around a person if you believe they are dangerous? do you like to live on the edge?
2006-08-26 01:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋