I'm the shy type. Sometimes I consider myself a Plain Jane. And in the terms of finding Mr. Right, I believe it gets in my way. So is it okay to be shy and modest? Is there any ways to overcome, other than to be myself?
2006-08-26 01:14:42 · 16 answers · asked by Kristen H 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being shy and being modest are two different things. Modesty in women is determined many times by the society they live in. Modesty in Iran for instance is different than modesty in France. I believe that women demean themselves (and demean all women) by presenting their sexuality like its for sale. I know in alot of countries, that's what girl/women do, but do you really want a boy/man who is attracted to you because you resemble a whore? I think you have to consider the shallowness of the person who would accept that in his/her partner. Not that dressing sexy and elegant doesn't have its place, but it belongs in an appropriate place, not school or the work place. So dress conservatively for your culture, and don't worry what others think. Be true to yourself.
Shyness on the other hand can be crippling. If you feel that you are so shy that you miss opportunities of simply communicating with others, then seek out some counseling. You are not alone, alot of people don't know what to say in social situations and it takes some practice.
Just remember, if you are a good person and true to yourself, you will be attractive to many people but probably not the shallow ones who are looking for window dressing. You aren't losing anything by letting those types pass on by.
Good luck!
2006-08-26 01:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In being modest you won't have to worry about attracting a guy for the wrong reasons. You will meet Mr. Right and he will love you for being who you are, whether or not you think that you are plain Jane. Don't change, just be you.
2006-08-26 08:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Kristen, there is absolutely no problem with being shy and modest. A lot of guys find it cute. I know I personally would prefer that as opposed to a girl that is loud, rude, fake, or all of the above. Stay just the way you are, it's a good thing!
2006-08-26 13:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by THE DYNAMO FROM OHIO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever ever change yourself to get or keep a man. I'm the extreme shy type, and I've never had a problem finding someone to enjoy me and my personality. And since I'm currently engaged, I'd say shyness never got in my way. If a guy doesn't want to be with you cause your shy, then he isn't worth your time or effort.
2006-08-26 08:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is to be yourself. If that happens to be shy and modest, nothing wrong with that.
It takes all types to make the world go 'round. Some guys like skinny girls, some guys like fat girls. Some guys like blondes, some brunettes. Some like aggressive girls, others like shy girls.
Be who you are and the right kind of guy will notice you...
2006-08-26 08:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by Physh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to be you, as long as there is nothing pathological (harmful) in how you are. You are shy? I guarantee there is a guy out there somewhere who is even more shy.
If you wish to be less shy, get involved with community events, church gatherings, reading circles, school functions, etc.
Build on your strengths, do what you enjoy, and these will shine through. Be strong, be happy, and enjoy the beauty in the world.
2006-08-26 08:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are attracted to the shy submissive type, so long as you are happy with yourself you shouldn't change
2006-08-26 08:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by Amyl Nitrate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, yes... but others like to associate themselves with successful people.
So don't hide your talents under the impression of being modest.
2006-08-26 08:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Carla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound sweet OK to use mascara and lipstick. Keep up the good girl thing till you really fall for someone and then flirt like mad and keep him happy Good luck.
2006-08-26 08:17:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr.Rite will come to you and fall in love with you....spme guys actually lyk gurls hu r modest
2006-08-26 08:17:05 · answer #10 · answered by ∞¥¡¡ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋