It makes me feel good but I also feel guilty as hell!! I have kissed a couple of other guys but I have never had sex with anyone but my partner who i've been with for 15 years.I love the attention but hate the guilt afterwards.how can i change
2006-08-25 22:54:54 · 13 answers · asked by poptrash 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
attention helps 1 to know that she is still attractive & desireable but 1 must not overstep that attention if in a committed relationship-that constitutes cheating. allow yourself to be flattered by the attention by remind yourself every time u r tempted to respond to that attention why u have been w/ your partner for so long
2006-08-25 22:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by momatendofrope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your lips to yourslef for your starters. i know you wouldnt appreciate it if your partner was kissing other people. my seconbd suggestion is that you talk to your partner and explain your need for attention. ask them if they can make an extra effort to compliment you and what not. this might help you feel more satisfied witht he attention you get from your partner and make the attention from other men mean less. if you just have an insatiable need to be noticed and have guys pay attention to you you might want to see a counsilor or therapist because your problem is much deeper. but your enjoyment of the other attention migh tbe from the fact you dont feel your beauty and other attributes. is recognized enough by. try compliment your partner and in turn he/she might notice you more. thats all i got. Im not Dr phil after all
2006-08-25 23:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by oxenofterror 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, you're in the same boat as me.... I don't know what to say. People like us just love the opposite sex, even if it's only a passing interest. I think the best thing to do is talk about it with your partner, that's what I do: it pisses her off, but I don't feel guilty one bit.
Just tell him the truth about everything and don't deny your needs. Oh, and don't mess with any guy's heads, that should make you feel guilty. I know I feel like crap if a girl is interested in me and I can't follow up on it.
2006-08-25 22:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you shouldn't feel guilty in the first place, maybe that's why you cant get rid of the guilt. I mean kissing someone else isn't exactly faithful, but still as long as you didn't have intercourse you shouldn't feel guilty about anything. Its not your fault you look good right? i say bathe in the attention your receiving its good for your self-confidence.
2006-08-25 23:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same when i go out i get allot of male attention and i have a partner i love the attention but i always push them away.
2006-08-25 22:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i be conscious of what you're dealing with. I better very early and had a very good form of male interest whilst i become in center and severe college besides. It become extremely poor and embarrassing. i think of that it extremely is stupid of others at here to declare that she's fortunate she's getting interest and is no longer a loner, and so on. it extremely is ridiculous. no person needs to be oggled via the unusual adult males on the line whilst they're strolling to college. that would not make a man or woman "fortunate." regrettably, there's no longer plenty that she will do approximately it. She already wears modest outfits. A minimizer bra might help, yet i hit upon them to be extraordinarily uncomfortable. the main mandatory element is that she no longer permit it influence how she thinks approximately herself. I better a poor slouch from attempting to conceal my breasts. She must be pleased together with her physique -- no rely what it looks like, no rely if she is skinny or obese, massive-breasted or small-breasted, and so on -- and experience mushy in her very own epidermis.
2016-12-14 12:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to be satisfied, gratified and fulfilled by your partner's attention. In spite of your trials if you feel he isnt giving you the attention you need, to be "on high", make him give it. I know if you are getting attention, you also know how to get it. Once this is sorted out, the other attention you get just blurs out of focus.
2006-08-25 23:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by jCube 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lead the other males along. Be honest with your partner and quit semi-cheating.
2006-08-25 22:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got nothing to feel bad about...oh apart from kissing other men but i dont class that as cheating
2006-08-25 23:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have to as long as u r loyal to ur partner
2006-08-25 22:56:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋