thanks for your replies,i may have been unclear.i am the father,my daughter is having her mom walk her down the aisle.i suggested both of us walking her but she said no.i do feel hurt(sometimes i feel like not going at all)but it's her day.if i can't take her down the aisle,do you think i should have that "special"father-daughter dance.i'm so confused,but don't want to hurt her.i'll suffer the hurt inside,yet make her day a great one.is this a good attitude to take in such a case.thanks
2006-08-25 22:15:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Her day...her call. I am hurt for you and she definitely knows what statement she is making to everyone and how hateful this will be perceived. Frankly, ask in advance if there is to be a protocol for the dancing and seating and what it shall be. If you are cut out of that too I would do the respectful thing and abide by her wishes. I would also attend the wedding in a low profile, go to the reception for a specified period of time and then have an indisputable excuse in advance to depart early with no fanfare. There is no reason to be rejected and to swallow the whole pill alone because someone is insensitive and wants to settle some score and be spiteful on the most beautiful day of their life.
2006-08-25 22:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by jodie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm guessing there was a falling out somewhere along the line. You need to talk to your daughter and ask if she wants to do the father daughter dance thing. You sound like you're the injured party but there is a usually a reason why a girl doesn't want her dad to walk her down the aisle.
2006-08-26 23:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.... It depends. Are you on good terms with your daughter? I didn't have my dad walk me down the aisle but that was because he is a selfish jerk who has never been a part of my life (or my 2year twin sons') and rolls around on holidays and special occassions to make himself look good to the rest of the family. (he only lives 20 minutes away, not like it is a long distance thing) But I still asked him to attend my wedding. He has a girlfriend who was (still is) causing a bunch of family problems (making up stories just to cause problems and what not) so I told him SHE was not invited, but I would still really like for him to come. He called me about every cuss word in the book and said he wasnt coming if she wasnt invited. THEN he had the nerve to show up at the ceremony WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND. I was so mad I cried.
The point is, that no matter how hurt you are, its her day. If she wants you to go you should go. If she doesn't, then don't, but try to talk to her about why she has made the decision. I won't ever talk to my dad again. It was my day. He should have respected my wishes.
2006-08-26 12:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by jen_customweddingsolutions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her "How can I help make this the happiest day of your life?" Down to specifics, if she has something certain in mind for you. Swallow that pride and let her know that you are supportive of any decision. Perhaps she will see your attitude and look past whatever happened in the past that led her to that decision. If not, just smile and be graceful--and be the proudest father in the room! She will be so happy to have one less conflict, one less drama, on the big day.
2006-08-26 05:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by jellyfishwich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is this because you dont have a very good relationship with her? I think you will have a father-daughter dance unless, your wife is already married to someone else and your daughter has a good relationship with him. But i could be wrong. Maybe she does not want to hurt your feelings or his. You have the right to feel hurt but maybe for your daughters sake, you can just take it with a grain of salt:)
2006-08-26 05:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to your daughter to decide what she wants. You should still go and have a good attitude on that day, but I would definitely let her know now how hurt you are by her decision.
2006-08-26 05:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so sad.i am so so sorry but sometimes you dont always make the right or best choices in life,maybe she just wants to do something diffrent.have you ever asked her y this is what she wants to do?you still need to be there for you as much as her.if you dont go you will hurt even more later.tell her how you feel but let her know you still love her either way
2006-08-26 09:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by tiffany_bare2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not going at all is the biggest mistake you could ever make. My father did not attend my wedding of his own choice and to this day I still harbor some anger at him. It is her day and her reasons may only make sense to her so just ler her have her moment. Enjoy your dance with your daughter.
2006-08-26 06:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so how can i help you sir
2006-08-26 05:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by TIMEPASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋