ok, well me (16 yrs) and my boyfriend (19 yrs) have been dating for 6 months..and have a very good relationship..like we hang out everyday and accually spoke about spending the rest of our lives together.
But he has been friends with thisone chick and her brother since 7th grade. I understand that he doesnt get to hang out with them much, cuz he wants to hang out with me everyday.. but whenever me and him are hanging out with a couple other friends and her, i just feel like i absolutly hate her for no reason.. i think maybe i am jealous??? cuz they play around a lot and act goofy, and sometimes they act like they are dating ( just not touchy feely & kissing type of thing)or like brother and sister. A part of me doesnt want him to ever hang out with her but she is his best friend.. and another part of me doesnt care!! what is wrong with me???? am i jealous or what ??? i am soooo confused on why i feel this way!
2006-08-25 21:53:53 · 22 answers · asked by inked_06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you're jealous, you want your boyfriend to laugh just with you and never be happy at other's company. i know how you feel coz that's how i feel too.
what i did was i expressed it to my boyfriend and everytime i do he's hurt but then when things are okay he'll teach me how to deal with it. and im learning. he also adjusts,
2006-08-25 21:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sweet 16 year old. First of all let me say I'm a mom of 3. My 2 girls are in college and my son (who's 16 also) is still here at home. Because I raised my children to know I am all ways here for them, good or bad they can all ways depend on me to listen and do my best to understand & try to help. So I'd like to give you my honest opinion about your situation.First off, you are only 16. You have your whole life ahead. Do you want to marry & start popping out children now? If you were to chose that life for your self then I promise you'll be looking back and wondering how & why did you choose this life for your self so young. Now as far as your boyfriend, if he really cared and respected how you felt about his seeing her he wouldn't. He would just simply explain to the other girl how he felt about you. If she is just a best friend then she would want him to be happy & step back. Just because you don't see or hang with a person doesn't mean their not your best friend anymore. A best friend is allways there to offer a shoulder to cry on if needed. Your not being jealous your feeling betrayed. He's not giving you the confirmation and understanding you deserve about your feelings. Any girl no matter what age would feel the same way about their behavior. It's disrespectfull. It also sounds like the other girl is a spitefull, uncaring person. Afterall she's a girl too & should understand more than anyone how you feel haveing to wittness their behavior. She's flaunting her relationship with your boyfriend trying to make you feel uncomfortable. If you haven't told your boyfriend how you trully feel then do it. His reaction will tell you if it's time to kick this one to the curb. Now back to mom mode. Sweety your only 16. Enjoy dateing, dances, movies and prom night. Don't think this love is the only love you'll ever feel. Broken hearts heal. Think ahead & don't be forced to look back. I hope I helped you with my opinions & they give you some options to think about.
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2006-08-26 05:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nellers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's jealousy. If you never felt jealous in your life I don't think you would be normal. It's easy for people to say just trust your boyfriend, but trust is something that comes with time. It's understandable that you maybe feel a bit threatened by this girl if they've known each other a long time but one thing to remember is, if he's known her all this time and is not going out with her, then it's unlikely anything's going to happen now! The worst thing you can do is be horrible to her. Be friendly to her as turning against her is more likely to make her to something to upset you. She probably knows that the easiest way to do that would be through your boyfriend. I Hope this helps!
2006-08-26 05:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK jealousy is there, however you seem to be insecure and have this weird feeling about them dating. What you see infront of you tells you "God these two why are they acting like this, / hope theres nothing in between them" Probably you trust your bf but dont trust the girl next to him, it is very common. Just take it easy, got a problem, explain it to him nicely, make sure suspicion is not part of your relationship. You guys have been together for a long time; dont let suspicion ruin it.
2006-08-26 05:13:20 · answer #4 · answered by raj c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is completely normal. However I think you need not be worried about her. I will tell you why: yes, he hangs out with her like brother and sister, and of course that makes you jealous, it is another girl, in your territory, hanging out with your guy, a girl you know not as a friend. Still: bear in mind he has known her for more time than he has known you; the reason he stays with you is because he has love feelings for you, unlike for her. She is his buddy, but that's all to it.
I can relate, though I am a guy, with what you tell me, but only because other male friends would court the girl I liked right in front of me, and that like upset me! And seeing them with her, more time than she spent with me, made me jealous too. Still, not to leave the problem. I think you should accept the fact he has a she-friend and you should think about it as a cool thing. However: I think that it is of EXTREME IMPORTANCE that you learn the following:
The way she feels about him. Cause it is obvious the guy likes you..., but if the other girl likes your guy we are talking "problems". Not to scare you, but think about the friend: if she feels the way you feel for him, she may be FAR more jealous about the whole thing. And you don't want an enemy like that in your relationship. Think about it, the girl is his right hand, or well a close friend. She can use that to her advantage.
But anyway poor friend, I am saying bad things about a person I don't know, and the maybe is a far better person than me.
Anyway I hope I could be of help to you.
2006-08-26 05:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by JC 301186 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah u r jealous no doubt about that but u know they r best friends n there is nothing u can do about it i mean he known her first then u so u should try being her friend to n stop being like that in the back of your head your hating her cause your bf n her is playing around or what so ever but u should give it a try i mean come on face it hes not going to cheat on u with her theyre best friend n u know that just stop being jealous i know its going to be hard but it just take some time n yourll over it girl dont worry he likes u or love u or what ever but yeah just dont feel like that
2006-08-26 05:05:39 · answer #6 · answered by Maliboo562 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 16 and he has a best girlfriend. your destined to be jelous. I would turn into the gree ivy chick from batman. dont act on your jelousy. Try to discourage it as much as you can, bc if theres really nothing going on between them, you just have to take the mature route and accept it. Hell, if you all hang out so much,I'd try to make friends with her if I could.It'll make everyhting so much more comfortable with you two and thats how its gonna have to be if this thing has a future.
2006-08-26 04:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by chelsey c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want your relationship with your boyfriend to work, you've got to accept the fact that he has known his girl friend way back even before he met you. you feel that way because you feel jealous of her and you are insecure of the ties that they have as friends. Don't be. you are the one that he loves anyway.
As long as he does not go out with her alone, then I think it is healthy for both of you to hang out with other people. that could help you in missing one another.
2006-08-26 05:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah You Have A Lil' Bit Of Jealousy In Your System...Let Him Know How You Feel..
2006-08-26 04:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by iLL_TeK_NeekZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It good thing to feel "jealous", because if you didn't, that tell me that you really don't have feelings for your boyfriend.
If you feel like his girl "friend" is going over your boundries, then let your boyfriend know, if he's understanding, then he'll back off and not be as playful with his friend.
2006-08-26 05:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by roadrunner1977 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋