my boyfreind said he wanted a break because he doesen;t feel the same way as the begining..we were so in love..i still love him..what should i do?should i try again to make him love me..or should i let him go...we have 3 years going..and he means a lot to me!please help me!
2006-08-25 21:46:08 · 25 answers · asked by Someone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank you for your answers...till yesterday everything was ok...he was a littel changed..i've noticed..but..yesterday..he was another man..i admit i did some mistakes..i didn't trusted him..even though i have no reasons..and he said he was tired of me not trusting him..and now i'm sorry i did that..but he said last night..that..he;s feelings for me didn;t go away..we just have to talk very serious..what do you think?
2006-08-25 21:56:47 · update #1
You can't make someone love you. It takes 2 to make a relation-ship work. If he truly loves you he will come back...Don't beg..
2006-08-25 21:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A boyfriend is not a fiance with goals to marry and become your husband. A boyfriend is someone who cant make a commitment for whatever reason. He's told you he wants a break (what does that mean exactly?)
Get clarity on that and you will know what to do.
If he wants to 'break up' for some duration only not permanently...you should ask what for and if he will be with other women. At that point, you might decide whether to wait it out on his 'break' or not. It doesnt mean you will get over him right away, but it may make it easier if you understood he's moving away from you instead of with you.
2006-08-26 04:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go, for now. this happens in a lo tof long term relationships, especially after three years. Congrats on that, but after three years, any loving relationship can seem routine and anyone could think they were missing out on something else, even you. Women usually dont make this mistake as much, but it happens really often. He'll go out, go to someparties with his friends, and relaize that none of the party chicks are worth his time and he'll get some perspective on his feelings for you.I have total confidence in your love and nope for the best for you guys
2006-08-26 04:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by chelsey c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he loved you based on his feelings alone.feelings pass, girl. so if that's the case then you cant win him back anymore. have you talked it over really thoroughly?are there things you weren't agrreing about?
you know love should be based on not feelings alone.it is a decision to say yes to the person no matter what. but if his love for you is dependent on what he feels, then maybe you should let him go. if he's like that then what's gonna happen when you're old?when the feeling would be gone?
maybe it was just infatuation for him.you know, infatuation can last until 5 years.you're lucky he showed that it is not true love as early as now.good luck
2006-08-26 04:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by snoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop blaming urself and start loving yourself
u r the best and thats it
u shud not change for him
and if this is the scenario that he doesn't feel the same love than wats the guarantee thet if u change urself than he wont say the same after some time
Move on and kick him up
u r the best-blv it
2006-08-26 05:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by its me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is missing something in you, .. you definatley have changed yourself during 3 years.... try to be the same ,, try to love him in the same way as it was the first time.. then he will be back definately.
2006-08-26 04:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by Naeemnaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on because he either likes someone else now or is afraid of commitment........You can only please him so much before it comes down to only a physical relationship with NO FUTURE..........3 years is a long time....did he ever cheat on you during this time..???? Maybe you just have not found the right guy to SETTLE DOWN WITH........GOOD LUCK, I hope you don't let him USE YOU...........
2006-08-26 04:52:10 · answer #7 · answered by PEDRO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. He will come back to you after he gives himself, repeatedly to another. You will do the same so just let it go. It's called life. Too bad, but its a fact. it is called life. And yes, it is painful.
2006-08-26 04:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by InternetPosterChild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry girl but it over so hears what u do have a big party and go out on a date with hes best friend
2006-08-26 04:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by OceanBlue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him go. It sounds like he needs to grow up. If we based all are relationships on how we first felt we all would be very lonely.
2006-08-26 04:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jesus_Loves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋