Diamonds--if you got one like this, how happy would you be?

Question

I asked this first on a fashion forum, not realizing that there was a more appropriate one... I will try it here.

Ok, so first of all, I know the person you get it from is most important. I just wonder if you think this would be too small of a diamond to get as an single solitaire engagement ring.

First, the diamond has some excellent qualities:
Color is highest quality at Color Grade D
Clarity is quite high at VVS1
Cut is a Brilliant Rose

Now, the carats--only .43

So the question is: would you be secretly disappointed the diamond wasn't bigger, even if you know the good color and clarity?



I should add that I am the giver of the ring, not the recipient!

This is what guys have to think about when they decide to pop the question--how big to make it, whether to sacrifice size for quality, is she going to be proud, or secretly wish it were larger, etc.? There is a whole host of insecurities alongside as you buy an engagement ring!

Actually, kittyrogers, I think it is a beautiful ring, and I like it, and I think she likes it. My question is: Would YOU secretly wish it were larger?

Answer 1

This question totally depends on the individual person. I've seen what you described in 1/2 carat and whole carat. I like the 1/2 carat bigger, the whole carat ring is so big it's kind of tacky. My personal favorite is 3/4 carat, not too big, not too small. The ring you bought sounds great. Quality over quanity applies to this situation.

Answer 2

I strongly urge you to read some 'how to buy a diamond' online tutorials as you poor thing are lost like most guys when it comes to the all important 4 C's of buying a diamond.

CUT- the most important..this is what makes your diamond sparkle. A poor cut no matter how great the colour and clarity are, will still be dull, if poor cut. Ideal cut is what you should be looking for. Some shapes sparkle more than others and the best shape is a round brillant. A Rose cut is an older style cut diamond...the round brillant is better for sparkle.

COLOUR- since D to at least H is white, why not save money and get a F? You could even go lower than F, remember women don't go around holding their diamonds against a D colour diamond so what difference will it makes as long as it's white right?

CLARITY- You have gone for VVS1?? do some searches of diamond prices and compare the same carat size, cut, shape and colour but change the clarity scale and you will see just how much you are paying for clarity alone. Do you know how much you could be saving if you went down on clarity? Go for VS2 or even SI1or S12 if you can find a good one as inclusions aren't visable to the naked eye at those grades and I highly doubt your woman or her friends will be carrying around a jewellers loupe.
Unless you have gone to one of the two grades below the S12, there could be some risk of cloudy that would effect the sparkles but if the diamond is not that low in grade and not cloudy, it has no effect on the way the diamond peforms.

CARATS- how big is her hand? Is her ring finger kind of thick? dainty rings don't look so good on big hands or fingers whereas a smaller stone can look even bigger on a someone with thin fingers, small hands.

Does she wear dainty rings or does she like more chunky rings? Hard to say what her expectations of an engagement ring are. Maybe she has none and would be happy with anything you gave her because it's from you.

Me personally, I don't expect a engagement ring off my bf but would be happy to wear whatever he wanted to give me.

Good luck, hopefully I have saved you some money. Cut is most important, remember education is the key ok.

Answer 3

In my opinion, size isn't the only thing that matters. The clarity & how clear & sparkly it is matters! I've seen a girl who had a big diamond but it looked crappy because of the clarity. She should be happy that you gave her a ring & if she is unhappy because of the size then she isn't worth giving the ring to the begin with. It's not the size of the ring but the special meaning behind it...the person you love is asking you to marry him!! Good luck!! I'm sure she will love it.

Answer 4

There have been girls posting that they want the big bling, and want to choose it themselves, but I think on the whole, that shows their immaturity. A mature woman, in a loving relationship with a mature man, accepts an engagement ring as a symbol of the promise, the betrothal. Size doesn't matter, neither the clarity, color, or all those other marketing gimmicks. I think it's special if the guy chooses what he thinks the woman will like, and trust that she loves him, and not only the ring he offers her. --- and beware of women who think of "upgrading" their engagement ring after marriage - if they want more jewels, let them buy their own!

Answer 5

Asking if a girl would want a bigger diamond is like asking if you want more ice cream, or cake. Of couse the answer will be yes.

But a stone that's of good quality and almost 1/2 carat sounds nice, and is better than what I have now. None.

Your girl should be happy with what she gets.

What cut is the diamond? (Just curious. I personally prefer princess cut, but round is nice too.)

Answer 6

If she is not totally thrilled by the fact that you've asked her to marry you, then don't do it.
Any woman who is truly in love won't care about the size of the ring - it's the size of the heart of the man giving the ring that matter the most.

Material objects can become lost, tarnished or broken. Love is designed to last forever. Good luck to you and don't worry about the ring size or its qualities - the symbolism is what matters.

Answer 7

When you give it her and ask the question and she starts crying then it shouldn't matter. As long as there is a yes. Any girl would be happy with whatever their guy picked out because he picked it out just for her. Hollywood has just ruined the image of what an engagement ring should be. These days girls want the biggest rock no matter what the cost. Just because so-and-so has one that size.

I think your girl will love it knowing it came from your heart. I'd rather have quality over quantity.

Answer 8

There are gonna be soooo many answers to this question.It's good that you ask ,but maybe you should know the answer B4 you give her the ring.Is she selfish or shallow?I'm thinkin NOT,if your marrying her.Women do love a nice ring and for some SIZE does matter but quality matters too.If she truly loves you,she'll love the ring...b/c it came from YOU.

Answer 9

The ring is coming from the man she loves. My ring is only.51 but i love it and wouldn't trade it for the world. If she needs bigger then the one that you got her then she is more of a material girl. The ring is a contract saying that you will marry each other. If she needs bigger tell her to go to hollywood. good luck.

Answer 10

Buddy, you have more to worry about than the size of an engagement ring. You have VERY LOW SELF-ESTEEM if you feel that the size of the ring you present to your fiance is not worthy. Actually, YOU are the one feeling not worthy and no diamond in the world - no matter how big - is going to help you in that department. Better look inside yourself before you worry about marriage. Any any woman who looks down on a small diamond, that woman you DO NOT WANT!