I am 33 years old and husband divorced me a year ago. I am FINALLY getting the nerve to get back out there and have actually found my heart drawn to this really sweet, funny guy but things are VERY different, or so it seems in how guys approach girls they like and who they feel are just friends. MY Question is, He and I have gone out on friendship dates to the movies, dinner, over to my house, etc almost every week since we met. He told me in the begging that he had been hurt before and wanted to make sure that he was friends first before anything else and had things in his head straight. Ok, now here is the weird part, when we hang out he playfully tells me about all these other girls whos "day he made" by complimenting them. Or, this one girl who is living back in California who he is still OBVIOUSLY in love with but she is married and they are supposedly best friends still. but do I need to hear about it? Is this something a guy does if he is trying to get to know me?
2006-08-25 19:41:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is it possible that he might like me or he just wasting my time and emotionally draining me?
2006-08-25 19:42:26 · update #1
He sounds very confused as to what he wants from you. Personally, I like to know exactly where the dogs lay on my porch so to speak. He may be trying to make you jealous in a very immature way or he may only look at you as one of the "guys". I have not been on many of these "friendship dates" that you are talking about. When I go out with a woman, she knows exactly the nature of our date before we go out and there is no talk of other women or girls that get they're "day made". I find this very rude and inappropriate. My focus should be on you! You are a woman that I am courting and being that entitles you to a level of respect and nurturing that you deserve. But, as you can probably tell, I am just an ol' country boy and we tend to do things a little different than most. On the other hand he obviously likes your company or he would not spend so much time with you. I doubt I helped very much but I tried. Good luck.
2006-08-25 20:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by up all night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sometiems have the urge to talk about other women with the girls that I date. I do it sometimes to tease them.
I'm very careful to not make them feel 'bad' with what I say I only do it to build attraction.
What this guy is doing is gossiping to you about some other women. This is dangerous behavior. He is revisiting old memories that make him feel good. He's doing this with you because you are a women and he asscociates these feelings with women. he needs to have new nice expereinces with new women.
It doesn't sound like he's ready yet. I would have a talk with him about it. ask him if he'd like to find new moments with you when he starts talking about things associated with his ex. As soon as this 'patturn' starts break him out of it and make him start considering the great time that the two of you are having.
He doesn't sound like he's ready, he needs to get over this women. I had to wait a few years to get over the girl I fell in love with.
Do you find yourself talking about your Ex with other men?
-R
2006-08-26 02:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rustomji 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he sounds like a real winner…. He is just uncomfortable,
By bringing up things from the past (good things) he is trying to put his mind at ease and relax,
I’m sure he is a good guy just cant date so well, find something he like to do and do it, I’m sure he wont bring up any thing of that nature
2006-08-26 02:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am no expert but if he hasn't made his move now id on't think he ever will sadly i think your realationship with him is going no where. but if u really like him u should tell him make sure he knows your feelings and then he might cange his mind and see that he has something wonderful right in front of him.
hope it helps
-ben out
2006-08-26 02:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he was telling u about his other sexual episodes because he wanted you to know that hes good in bed and if a guy does that it means he probably wants you so i would say he like you alot and is ready for the next step but you should just ask him so youre clear. hope you and him work out.
2006-08-26 02:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by ACER 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is probably trying to get to know you and how you would react to different situations. Ask him if he is still in love with her. If he is, don't waste your time trying to change his mind love is love. If he is talking about her, he is probably not interested in you.
2006-08-26 02:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by mati 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you are more overly anxious for a roll in the hay than he is. LOL. but you're just friends right? so what's stopping you from seeing other guys while he's on the back burner. you're just friends so there's nothing to break off?
2006-08-26 02:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, I'm female but if you like this guy, tell him. Life is too short to play games. If he isn't interested, then you know.
2006-08-26 02:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is all about risks. You have to take this risk in case he is not messing with you. If it turns out bad your life will move on.
2006-08-26 02:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by itilian20_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer... he's using every trick in the book to get laid by you. No more... no less. He's rusing you.
2006-08-26 02:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋