Muslims who can answer my question! Help about a muslim guy I want to date, please, see details.?

Question

I am looking for honest answers, you can message me and we can exchange my notes. I have all this information on Muslims. I am not completely ignorant in the religion. I just want to know about some things other than text. Have even thought about converting if I can get some more answers. The guy I like is not like the people from the arabic region, his family is from northern african region. He is faithful in his beliefs, except for dating because he is in America and has to change his views a little bit, he knows that he has to get a wife on his own, the best way is to date, that doesnt mean to marry me. If I date this guy and not like his day to day muslim life, I will change my mind. He is very faithful in Salat, and Ramadan. I am learning and I just want some help to better understand the religion. Please help.

To those who answered my last post. I am not wiccan. I consider myself to be christian, and understand the bible completely.

thanks for your commment arripp_eh

Who keeps giving me thumbs down.

Again, comments about wicca. I am not wicca, I dont even understand it or did any kind of research on it.

Answer 1

Dating is pretty much prohibited in Islam, but mostly by Sharia law and the Hadith, not necesarily the Qur'an. The Qur'anic view of dating is a simple one, be modest and don't have sex until marraige. This leaves some room for relationships like dating that do not involve actual intercourse. It is understandable that he would change his views on dating living in America. Dating is almost the only way to meet your spouse in this country as you wil have a hard time getting to know them any other way. As for you converting to Islam, you do not have to convert to marry (or date in your case) a Muslim man becuase Islam permits relationships like this between Muslims and "People of the Book" or Jews and Christians. It is in the Quran itself:
"This day all good things are made lawful for you. And the foods of those who have been given the Book (the Torah, Gospel and/or Qur'an) is lawful for you and your foos is lawful for them. And so are the chaste from among the believing woman and those who have been given the Book before you when you have given them their dowries, taken them in marriage, not fornicating nor taking them parmours in secret." (Q. 5:5)
Also, on the "People of the Book":
"Surely those who believe, and those who are Jews, and the Christians, and the Sabians, whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day and does good, they shall have their reward from thier Lord, and there is no fear for them, nor sahll they grieve." (Q. 2:62)
Keep in mind, I am a Muslim convert and have had American ideas imprinted in me through my upbringing. I may or may not be more lenient on such laws that the man you wish to see. I hope this helps you, Inshaala.

(edit): I reccommend the Book "The Religion of Islam" by Maulana Muhammad Ali. It is very informative and spreads over alot of material.

Answer 2

To have a complete understanding in the bible is a really good thing, and if you have all the informations on muslims you would probably know that muslims and christians are some what similar to the other. but anyway muslims are suppose to be the same no matter where the person comes from, there are only diffrent types of muslims or something like that but im sure u already know that.
for you a christian to be thinking to convert into a muslim is a major change and i suggest that you throughly understand that religion first before even thinking about converting.
to better understand the religion is very difficult for anyone but i don know
i dont think i answered ur question

Answer 3

You don't have to convert to marry a Muslim man. Muslim men can and do marry Christian women. Marrying a Christian is not against Islam for a Muslim man. So convert because you've done your research and you're convinced that Islam is the right religion for you, not because you're in love with a Muslim.

I think Islam is a beautiful religion, even though extremists are really hurting it by using it to terrorize people and everything we hear in the media about it is ugly. But remember, when you change your religion, you're changing your way of life, so take your time and make sure this is right for you.

Also, while dating him, pay attention to how much you're both willing to respect and understand each others cultures as well. And pay attention to how willing his family is to embrace you. Alot of men end up going with their families wishes for them as opposed to their own when it comes to serious things like marriage. That's not for religious religions - it's for cultural reasons. I know you're only dating right now, but ask him a ton of questions early on and let him know of any concerns you have. Like you would going into any relationship, regardless of religious, ethnic or cultural differences or similiarities, you gotta protect your heart before you get too deep into it.

A website you might find interesting: http://www.muslimwakeup.com/

**Edit: Michael M - great info.

Answer 4

Is he looking for a religious Muslim wife or just a wife of just any religion? Islam is the natural successor to Christianity. If I were you, I would visit Abique in New Mexico, or just contact some Muslim women who are born in America. I don't think this is the right forum to answer your questions. Here is another link that may help you... it is a school founded by Americans who accepted Islam and became scholars:

http://www.zaytuna.org/

Usually, faithful Muslims drift towards the feeling that their wife should be a Muslim to raise a Muslim family and to not cause strife with the parents. Non-religious Muslims don't necessarily care.

Answer 5

If he is a faithful Muslim, then he is NOT permitted to date, not even if he was looking for a wife.

Where northern region! it does not matter if he was Arabic or not, he is Muslims and that all it comes down to it. think very hard about dating him, think even harder about converting for a guy. If you want to convert for the religion, that is the one good reason to do it, other than that, don't you will regret it, and before you do convert, learn all you can about the religion. It may look good to you because of the guy, but it is not for everyone. He might be a great guy, but if things are good with both of you, and you do get married. Your life will not be the same. Even if you decided not to convert. Your kids will be Muslims, you will not have the choice about it.
Take a second look at him, and ask him serious questions, such as what if you got married what will happen, would he force you later on to cover up. If he is faith full as you say, he will make you cover up. If you convert to Islam, and wanted to convert back to your previous religion, you will not be able to. In Islam it is a sin to convert to other religion, therefore, it is punishable by death if you do so. Check the news, the latest was a many who converted to Christianity in Pakistan was sentence to death. Another in Indonesia, a man a two women before the trial, people were waiting out side to kill them, whether or not the court rules for the death penalty. as they say you can come in but you can't come out. even if you didn't marry him.

Good luck to you

Answer 6

You only want answers from "openminded" people who agree with you? Well, first off, I AM one of those Christians whom you don't seem to want advice from, but I'm answering your question anyway as if you were my daughter. Besides being Christian, I'm also Baptist, but that is mostly because I like the Baptist church near where we live. I have several Catholic friends and I didn't know that "Catholic" beliefs were all that different from Christian beliefs. Do you have a different Jesus? OK, OK, your mind is made up to do as you please and you will NOT change for God nor man; here are some questions about your future: You SAY that marriage is the LAST thing on your mind; yet you insist on THIS guy. Whether or not he is a little green leprechaun besides being muslim, if you DON'T consider him a possible marriage partner, why are you wasting your time with him? Are you thinking with your libido? Are you being honest with YOURSELF? Have you discussed where you will attend church together as a married couple? Will you raise your children Catholic or Muslim? Do you mind if your children are raised to worship Allah? What DOES attract you to him? Are your common interests things that you believe will last? I don't expect Best Answer; I'd be thrilled if you'd just THINK about some of my questions. I have teenaged kids myself whom I love more than my own life, and I think my own responsibilities to be honest at all times outweigh any silly Yahoo points. The Voice

Answer 7

Dear friend,

I life in Northern Africa, & I tell u, all Northern Africa countries are arab countries... If he told u different, then he might be using ur lack of knowledge about the area...

There is nothing also called faithful but accepts dating.. & te reason he gave is not good at all except for him to try to justify something wrong he wants to do while still looking good!!

I know of true christians & muslims living in Europe & America & never committing adultery coz they are faithful beleivers.

But your friend is from the kind who wants all together, satisfy all his temptations & at the same time appear to be a good faithful fellow...

I am sorry, but I guess you need to reconsider trusting that guy!

About conversion into Islam, this is merely ur personal decision, I have no right to comment on that... I will only ask you two question:
1. Wd u have considered that if u never met ur guy? If there is a need in ur life to Islam, it shouldn't be related 2 ur friend!
2. Did u try to live ur Christianity in full before turning yr back to it & shifting to another religion?

Finally, plz forgive me for my frank reply.. I wish God helps you find the right answer from within your heart

Answer 8

To have a brief illustrated guide to understanding Islam go to this site. It helped me a lot.
http://www.islam-guide.com

Here are the basics of Islam
http://www.islamtomorrow.com/islam/definition.htm

Afterward I would sit down and read the Quran. That will take you to where you want to be and help you understand Islam

Now, about this guy you like. I don't think dating him will benefit you or him. You can ask questions about his lifestyle and customs. Dating is prohibited in both Islam and Christianity. Dating leads to many other major sins that you cannot avoid no matter how strong you are or how much restrain you use. If this person is not the one then it will cause a lot of remorse, regret in your life. Experience life in a healthy way and develop a strong relationship with the guy from the start. It is your choice to make just think it through and make it the one you will not regret.

Answer 9

Hi
i read your question but really i could not locate what you really need to know so if you want to ask some specific questions i am ready to help you.one more thing people from north africa are arabs as well dear, so if you really like this man and want to date him you need to start accepting his religion and nationality the same way he did yours.
islam is great and i mean real moderate islam.
again if you send me your questions i will be happy to help, first because i like to help people to come together, second because i want people to know what is islam and who are the arabs.
wish you all the luck

Answer 10

do you think you should date a man of other faiths? if you should marry this person later on in life then you will have to change your religion to that of the Muslim faith thus turning your back on Jesus. then if you can change his beliefs then praise the lord for that. i know that all things are possible through Christ Jesus our lord