Ok, so I was with my boyfriend for about 9 months and we had a great relationship, then about a month ago we started having problems and he has "issues" with my past. Well I have a 4 year old daughter and got divorced from her dad (whom I havent talked to since Oct 2005)before I started dating this. Well now it bothers him that I have a kid and am divorced and he needs to take some time off of our relationship to "rethink" things. But he still wants to be friends and texting and instant messaing me everyday, trying to talk like we are just friends now. He says he still loves me and hopes he doesnt lose me and hopes we can work things out. I any totally devistated by this because I have such strong feelings for him and and truly in love with him...now I dont know what to do? Should I just be his friend, should I stop talking to him all together and give him his space? I miss him like hell when we dont talk because we were friends before all of this. What am I supposed to do?
2006-08-25 19:31:28 · 4 answers · asked by ssshhhhhh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I told him no sex until he makes up his mind and he said that is fine and we are still talking every day..and now he has invited me to go camping with him and his family/friends for the weekend and they all know that we have broken up. Only differene in our relationship now, we dont say we love each other now...but talk like we did when we were together.
2006-08-31 17:35:53 · update #1
He stepped into a relationship that surprised him. He's known you had a child all along and Now he decides that it bothers him? It sounds like he was just having fun and when he saw you getting serious and possibly your daughter, too he backed off and left you feeling abandoned and stranded. What a schmuck!
If he is willing to drop you so quickly and go back to his family. He asked you to go on a family camping trip? Find something else to do. Have other family things you need to do. Become involved in your daughter's daycare or pre-school. Go out with your girl friends. Take up a night class, maybe you can get a degree and become a professional. Spend more time with your family so your daughter can get to know them.
You need to become more independent and not so co-dependent on his wants and needs especially since he has issues. You can develop issues of your own. If you get together can you trust him not to do this again?
2006-09-02 17:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know something? He's affraid of that, he doesn't want to make a steady relationship.
I htink that you should stop talking to him, it will just hurt you. I don't think that he will feel confortable or steady. Of course, I can be wrong. Good luck!
2006-08-25 19:36:13 · answer #2 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be friends, and you start being busy by spending more time with your daughter and start dating other men immediately.
2006-08-25 19:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me that he is keeping you around for emergency sex.
2006-08-31 09:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋