I would like to get your input on this...what should i do?

Question

I've been working with a woman at a pt job that i have for about a month. We get along very well, talk and joke around a lot. She's said that we're friends and she's torn on deciding whether or not she wants to go back to Florida in about 3 months for other reasons. The thing is, I'm pretty sure she only thinks of us as friends. I've been in love in the past and I'm not saying I am, but I do really like her and I don't know how well I can be her friend when I want to be more than that. I'm 25 and she's 36, but our age difference doesn't matter to either one of us. I've always had this annoying little fear of rejection with things like this so I don't know if I should tell her how I feel cuz I don't want her to feel uncomfortable around me after knowing how I feel if she doesn't feel the same way...or should I wait a little longer and see what happens down the road? Thanks

Answer 1

Well, think of it this way. If she did leave to Florida and you never told her...wouldnt it drive you insane about the possibilities of what could have happened if you told her? Just tell her. Not all woman are direct and would like to hear it from the guy first that there is feelings. Don't come on too strong though because she will get scared and avoid it most likely. Good luck!

Answer 2

If you wait any longer, your chance might be getting slimmer. So, do things while you can. Don't get fear of being rejected. You're already 25. I'm a sixteen year old lass and I'm already all peppered up to face rejections. That's life. You can't always expect it to give something. Just give your best shot and muster up all your courage to tell her how you feel about her. Time's ticking and yeah, woman of that age wouldn't feel uncomfortable if you tell her that. If she doesn't mind the age gap, go for it. And yeah, do remember, even though you've got rejected by any possibility, don't act quiet. Remain that as friends. It'll be cool.
Good luck.

Answer 3

If you really like this woman then ask her if you might be able to get to know her better outside of work, still as friends but in a different social setting coffee dinner or something like that if you like her as much as you think you do you don't want to wait to long or your opportunity may no longer be there if she is really a friend she won't be uncomfortable around you at work as long as you don't come on to strong or push the issue if she says no. take it slow and easy, good luck.

Answer 4

hmm i think you should tell her..trust me you'll regret it if you dont and you could never be so sure she doesnt see you as more..maybe shes feeling exactly what you're feeling right now. and you know what..if shes 36 and it turns out she doesnt feel anything more than a friend for you..shes mature enough to not make a big deal you know? i think if you tell her and you do get rejected you'll realize shes off limits and you'll be able to move on. if you never try to ask her on a date..you'll always be wondering whether she would've said yeah or not. i think you should overcome the fear of rejection..it happens to everyone. i used to be afraid of being broken up with but heywhen it happened all i needed was onee carton of ben and jerrys..haha dont worry take a chance..everytime you get rejected, you're just gonna get stronger. and rejected..isnt the right word really..sounds kind of harsh..it just means she wasnt interested thats all =) really give it a try! never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game. dont be afraid of rejection!

Answer 5

If you only know her at work then it is hard to make a choice. I would maybe hang out with her after work or on a weekend and see how it goes. People are different at work than out socially. You may change your mind after you see her eat, or relate to others in public other than work. She may have an annoying habit you are unaware of. You still have time before you have to tell her anything.

Answer 6

Tough Question.She might b looking for a reson not to go back to florida or your right she sharing with you as a friend. You know the answer. So be a friend and dont complicate the situation.

Answer 7

there's no way you will know how she feels about you unless you told her how you feel about her! she's not a seer that will guess your special gestures to her.. tell her before it's too late! and if you tell her and she dont feel the same way to you, then be glad to be her friend and be glad that you met someone like her that made your heart beat a little bit more...(what's the adjective for it? oh whatever! for sure you know it) good luck!

Answer 8

Curiousity kills the cat. Then your left with "what if". Life shoots you with dilemma everyday of our lives, but it's up to us to leap and take chances. Unfortunately alot of people are afraid of taking a chance... are you one of them? Then what are you waiting for? There is nothing to it, but just to do it and life moves on. Live your life and take that chance and see what door opens for you. Besides doors opens and closes all the time.

Answer 9

don't let fear of rejection come your way... it's better to tell her and get the answer, whatever it may be, than to never have tried it at all and may end up regretting...

Answer 10

My dad always used to say They can kill you but they cant eat you. let her know how you feel,rejection wont kill you but do you really want to always be wondering what might have been?