Alright, i know its stupid to ask people to help me, but no one knows what to do. my bf and i broke up recently cause i found out he cheated on me multiple times. now he realizes that hes still in love with me and wants to get back together. but i'm starting to like this other guy who treats me amazing. my ex has so many problems wrong with him and the new person i like is so nice. the problem is, i'm still in love with my ex. i don't know if i should get back together with him or, move on. cause i like my ex alot more than this other guy. and according to him, he has changed. but there is the possibility that if we get back together, he will go back to acting like a jerk. i know the majority of you will say i should move on but i still really love him, especially since we've been seeing eachother alot lately. and he will stop at nothing. who do you think i should pick and why?
2006-08-25 19:04:02 · 8 answers · asked by confuzzled 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Re examine yourself and determine whether you really love your ex or you are just addicted to chaos. Some women are just attracted to "bad boys". You may be one of those women who find it boring to be with a nice guy. They will always be drawn to the guy who cheats on them and beats them. Can't tell you who to pick. If it is not obvious to you then maybe you should get some counseling.
2006-08-25 19:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he don't love you, if he did , he would never have cheated on you. he will come back be nice and sweet for a few weeks, and after he gets you to let your guard down, then he will be back to his old ways. There is a saying, once a cheater always a cheater, and it is true. I bet if you give this new guy a chance, you will like him even more then the cheater. I bet your ex just wants you back so that you will not go out with this other guy. if you guys were together for a long time, then are you really in love with him. or the idea of him being around. My ex was like a habit, and I did not want to move on because I was comfortable with the old habit.. thing long and hard, you deserve to be happy, not get cheated on.
2006-08-26 02:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do not change. No matter how much they say they will, once a cheater, always a cheater. That's cold hard fact. He didn't respect you enough to be only yours, he does not deserve you. I know thats everything you didn't want to hear but it will only happen again and again. He'll tell you everything you want to hear right now in order for you to be the person he knows he always has back home if he can't get with other girls.
You're definately going to be in love with him still, especially if you keep talking to him. I would reccomend going N/C and focusing on this other guy a bit more. Even if you're not 100% sure about this new guy he's a good way to get you away from someone who will only hurt you again. Love really is a ***** sometimes.
2006-08-26 02:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mintminty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, move on. You can love your ex still but you don't have to be with him. If he (your ex) is still so hung up on you then he will be there after you get to know this new guy. You know what they say, once a cheat always a cheat. If your going to take a chance at something, take a chance on something that is healthy and good for you not something that has already hurt you/
2006-08-26 02:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by ladylunamina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he reallllllly knew what he had, he wouldnt have messed it up in the first place! Also, being cheated on once or twice is bad, but you can still find a way to forgive, but you said it was multiple times?? Girllll, looks like he wasnt serious about you at all. You dont need any headaches, if you want to move on, get to know this other guy, if not then the hell w/ them and do you!
2006-08-26 02:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by Informer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go back to your ex. One of the reasons you would be missing him is that humans are creatures of habit. You miss him because you are used to him. You need to stop seeing him. He did not treat you right so he does not deserve you. If he knew how special you were and how much he loved you hten he would never have cheated on you in the first place. he just realised that he is going to lose you and he doesnty want to so he is trying to get you back anyway you can.
Tell him that you dont want to hear from him for six months. See if he calls back after that.
2006-08-26 02:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Just John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pass up another chance with your problematic, cheating ex to be with a guy who treats you amazing and is so nice? No contest! Hurry back to that ex! It's a match made in hell and it sounds like you like it HOT! Burn baby, burn!
Do the nice and amazing guy a favor and leave him for someone who can appreciate him.
2006-08-26 02:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pick the amazing guy. lose that zero for a new hero!!!!!!!! u deserve so much better!!! i could have slapped you for not being firm and letting ppl treat u like shi t.
2006-08-26 08:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by NOTurBFF!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋