Do you love someone unconditionally...... I mean, if you truly love someone, whether they deserve it or not.............. should it be unconditional............ Does someone deserve unconditional love............. How can someone, how can I love someone who doesn't deserve it, someone who doesn't give it back,,,,,,, and what makes someone so hard to get over..............
2006-08-25 18:47:59 · 9 answers · asked by ijustdontknowanymore 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is no such thing as unconditional love except what a baby has for its mother
2006-08-25 18:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by jac 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally love quite a few people unconditionally. I dont just throw around my love at just anyone either, so I dont understand the "deserve it or not". Plenty of people are not even worth my time, let alone my love- conditional or not. Maybe the reason this person is so hard to get over is because you cant have them. I think that you requesting the love in return is a condition. What exactly was your question???? I have one for you: Have you looked up unconditional yet???????
2006-08-26 01:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have alot've questions here. I'll try and answer the 2 that I think you're getting at:
Everyone thinks they know what it means "I can do anything and you will still love me"
Yes...that's it.
That love isn't always expressed in the ways we all might think.
Unconditional love includes hard love. Like refusing to cover for someone if they are cheating, or lying, or stealing.
If you love someone uncoditionally you aren't doing nice things for them just so they will love you back. Unconditional love means you will do what is best for them even if they hate you in return.
Unconditional love is a state of emiotional maturity that the giver achieves. It has much less to do with the reciever.
It is very possible to be afraid/disgusted/upset and love a person unconditionally. Imagine your son or daughter starts doing crack and is smelly, violent, and steals from you. The one thing this person needs is unconditional love.
You other question. What makes someone so hard to get over...
There is a big difference between falling in love with a feeling and falling in love with a person.
When you fall in love with a person it means that you love the 'whole' person. Their quirks, their flaws as much as their attractive attributes.
When you are trying to get over someone ask yourself a few questions:
-Did I love the attractive parts of this person aswell as the quirks and flaws?
-Do I only look back at the 'honeymoon' phase of our relationship?
-Did this person make me a better person? Did I love who I was while I was around them?
Ask yourself these hard questions. You will quickly start to see if it's hard to get over the person you miss or the feeling of being in a relationship.
Good luck kiddo :) Things will look better soon *wink*
-R
2006-08-26 02:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rustomji 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love is not a complete reality. Wh always expect something in return and often we should, like, monogomy, kindness, etc. Even when we cook something we want them to like it. If you look hard enough you will see that you may have some type of condition od every aspect of life includung the person. Even parents are dissapointed and feel betrayed by their children conditional love is there it is important to notice it and try relieve yourself of some of them or choose what you wamt to keep...sorry for run on...it happened to me....REAL unconditional love is not human. Hey but we try.
2006-08-26 01:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think family and friends who've always had good intentions deserve unconditional love.
ive had lots of issues with my father and brothers, but i know that they love me, and that they never intended to hurt me, no matter how harsh they could be.
i just try to except them, flaws and all. and believe me its NOT easy, and it never will be. but thats love.
here's a quote:
"We like someone because. We love someone although."
~ Henri de Montherlant
2006-08-26 01:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by MRose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you might love someone unconditionally, but it's usually for just a period of time. Unless you're talking about your children, usually something comes up that it shatters that idea of incondittionally. I think that love is something you must fuel always as a couple, and prove.
2006-08-26 01:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deserves a chance to be loved... if they don't use it well, then use your own judgement on wheather to give them a second chance or not. If they don't give it back, they probably don't know how much it means... its up to you how you show them
2006-08-26 01:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by DeAd DiScO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do, and she absolutely deserves every drop of it!
2006-08-26 01:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you naive or ignorant – it’s really not a choice.
2006-08-26 01:51:44 · answer #9 · answered by ★Greed★ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋