2006-08-25 18:47:24 · 20 answers · asked by Kaylie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Chances are your Dad already knows but doesn't want to confront your Mom for fear of losing her. This is between them and if you get involved, it will force them to make decisions they may not be ready to make such as a divorce. I know this may make you feel disloyal to your Dad but keep your knowledge to yourself and this will play out the way it was meant to. Does your Mom know that you know and tried to get you to cover for her? If she does,it is OK to refuse to take sides like that. Your parents are people with weaknesses just like everyone else and maybe your Mom's affair is a reaction to something else going on in her life. I was in the same situation as a teenager but I took sides, gave away secrets and forced their hand and I live with the guilt to this day. They may have been able to work things out on their own but my intervention forced them into action.
2006-08-25 19:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by jidwg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age, but that is a very difficult situation you are in. In my opinion, the worst thing to do is to get caught up in the middle , even though you actually are. By this I mean that these two are making decisions being adults. Right or wrong, they will have to face the consequences. I don't think what you need is the "he/she" told me attitude from either of them. It's going to be hard enough. Your dad is going to find out. Better that it be on his own and he can deal with it, other than having resentment for you because you told him and "hurt" him even though you are not the cause.
Unfortunately you are going to have to prepare yourself emotionally when things are found out. As you know, they won't be the same. For whatever reason, your mom has chosen a different path and as an adult she must know that she can't have two worlds and will face repercussions.
When I say that things will be found out on there own, I don't mean to lie about anything either such as the fact that she was missing. Don't hide anything from one or the other, that again puts you in the middle. Just go on with the truth such as mom wasn't home. Let him find out why.
2006-08-26 09:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK my sweet, This will whatever you do go pear shaped, your world is gunna be turned up side down and inside out, there is no easy way out of this one. So my advice to you would be to get them both together and lay it on the line put your mum in the spot light and leave the decision up to your dad. He will do one of two things, 1- yell and scream at your mum for a good 3 hours and they will sort it out eventually. Or 2- leave with a few things and you'll see him every other weekend. But whichever he does just remember that they both love you and and with time things will become normal again. Well to a certain degree. No; 2 happened to me with my mum leaving after cheating. All my luck and thoughts to you.
2006-08-26 02:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is an amazingly unfair position for you to be in. its sad really. but tell your mom you know and tell her you are dissapointed in her and that you do not agree with what she is doing to your dad. then say that your dad has a right to know and it really should come from her but if she wont tell him then you will. normally i would say stay out of your parents marriage but your dad's health is at risk. if your mom has an affair with anyone with an STD, not only could she get it, but she could pass it on to a completely innocent person, your dad. thats is why he needs to know so he can confront your mom about it then go get tested.
2006-08-26 02:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT black mail. Make sure you have your facts right and then try and talk to your mom. It depends on your age as to how much you are going to get from her in the information department. There might be circumstances that you are unaware of (not that cheating is right) You are a child and it is not really something that your folks might feel is any of your business. Do not interfere with something that they consider adult. You might have wires crossed and could be stepping into something that is not the right information.
2006-08-26 02:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by peacocktrail 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recomend a girl to my dad, so that he also can have an affair...
at least both are equal.. dont have to argue anymore..
2006-08-28 05:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Love69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your mom first. inform her that you already know about her affair. if you feel that you need to tell your dad about it, tell her that too.
but i guess the best thing to do is wait. after talking to your mom, see how she reacts and go from there.
good luck :)
2006-08-26 01:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That actually happened to me. The reason i never told my dad is because he was on his death bed. If you're going to tell him, just do it. If you tell her that you know first she'll make ome story up about how you're lying. If you're not going to say anything, don't blackmail her, it's not right!
2006-08-26 01:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by sarahbeth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Urge her to tell your dad. If she doesn't know you know, let her know you know. Don't tell your dad unless she doesn't for a certain amount of time. Tell your mom she has one week to tell him, and if she continues to see the other guy, tell your dad asap. Don't blackmail your mom, that's immature.
2006-08-26 01:56:11 · answer #9 · answered by zosoo7 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are you, if old nuf, talk to her and get an understanding. its not as simple as you think.
or if you're too young, let it be for relationships are comlicated and dad maybe aware of it.
let dad know if you have to, it maybe a family matter now.
good luck.
2006-08-26 10:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by dream_drifter05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋