How come I cant find a girl thats serious about me?

Question

I have been havin some trouble lately with dating. The last two gfs were terrible, each in their own way, and my current, well Im just confused about her. Shes always telling me about what kinds of things shes done with guys before she met me. How she goes out and gets drunk and makes out with like 7-8 guys all at the same party when shes single. All of these really bad things that are ok to do, just dont flaunt them in front of your significant other when youre not single, cause it can depress them yknow? Well, because of these things that she tells me, very graphic at times, I have a hard time trusting her. Often she dosnt answer the phone when I call but she always has a decent excuse for it. The real killer here though is that I practically have to beg her to tell me she loves me. Im just so confused, she sends me so many mixed messages. Like, whenever I make an advance on her, she takes an attitude that seems like "back off buddy!" Its really weird and I dont know what to think.

The other thing is, whenever she does this, she goes, "Just kidding". Whenever I ask her if shes happy or not, she says shes fine and she wouldnt lose me for the world. She say all these things that make me smile, but her actions prove otherwise. Its so confusing. SHe was really nice before we started dating, then she got mean.

Well, I am serious about her, I pour my innermost thoughts and sentiments out for her, things that noone knows about me, and I am honest, utmostly honest. I am not any kind of coward either. Most girls tell me Im a dream man, but when they get me, things change.

Answer 1

Try to have alot of friends and have them introduce you to girls who they feel are worth your time. Also try to join social clubs, at school church and in your neighbourhood. This is so that you can meet people. Donot rush inot giving your heart to anyone. I have been through hell in my past relationships that now, I donot rush into sleeping with anyone or dating them.

Answer 2

Be serious about yourself and she will be serious about you. Do your thing (your job or your studies) and pay less attention to her. If she loves you, then sooner or later she'll get curious and pay more attention. You can achieve a lot if you just exercise a little patience. And I wouldn't tolerate that old boyfriend BS. That's just nastiness--let her know that this kind of talk is destructive to the relationship and you won't tolerate it.

Above all: enjoy yourself and take it easy. We have girlfriends to make life pleasant and rewarding, not to get stressed out over.

Answer 3

1 Corinthians 13
1If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2And if I have prophecy, and know ◙all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3And if I shall dole out all my goods in food, and if I deliver up my body that I may be burned, but have not love, I profit nothing. 4Love has long patience, is kind; love is not emulous [of others]; love is not insolent and rash, ◙is not puffed up, 5does not behave in an unseemly manner, does not seek what is its own, is not quickly provoked, does not impute evil, 6does not rejoice at iniquity but rejoices with the truth, 7bears ◙all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8Love never fails; but whether prophecies, they shall be done away; or tongues, they shall cease; or knowledge, it shall be done away. 9For we know ◙in part, and we prophesy in part: 10but when that which is perfect has come, that which is in part shall be done away. 11When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I felt ◙as a child, I reasoned as a child; when I became a man, I had done with what belonged to the child. 12For we see now through a dim window ◙obscurely, but then face to face; now I know partially, but then I shall know according as I also have been known. 13And now abide faith, hope, love; these three things; and the greater of these [is] love.

Answer 4

i really think u find a wrong girl to be your gf. According to some details u gave i find her behaviour very strange , i dont think she as much into u as u r . she give a damn abt your emotions.
Move on, life is so beautiful & i m sure lots of beatiful girls waitin for a nice, caring man like u.
dont lose hope, i m sure u goin to find a right , faithful,serious girl one fine day.
So, think poitive & be optimistic.

Answer 5

Women are scared and spinless in general.
THey want and need the strength of a man.
If you are not serious about your self, she will not be serious about you either!
Be Strong! Not mean, abuse or a jerk, but Be unafraid to be honest, be unafraid to be a man.

Answer 6

Simple.That's because youre not serious