I live w/my mom, grandma, and an older brother! but he is in confuse state. Me and him never get a long.......So i prefer not to talk to him because every time we talk we has two completely different oppinion and we would start argue and it lead to a fight....My brother he is very irresponsible and he never really help out in our family and my mom tend to spoile him, soo he doesn't have to work all the do is go to school (it seem like he'll never be graduated) because he would go a couple of semester and quit a couple. He also a big dreamer and never actually do anything about it. anybody get any advice so i actually get the messages in his head so he can be a real man and stop depend on his mom and his sister
2006-08-25 18:29:41 · 23 answers · asked by samie n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His mom and his sister need to stop enabling him and force him to make his own way.
If you continue to support him and his behavior then he has no reason to ever change, things are working out great from his point of view
2006-08-25 18:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by TLJaguar 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun, but I am a mom myself and being a sister there isn't much you can do, not if you two fight like that. The only thing that you can really do is let him screw up. You take care of your life and get good grades and make it to college. Meet your potential. I know that it is hard to let someone in your family fail but you can't fix everything. I had to go through issues as a kid too and made stupid mistakes. I learned soon enough that you don't get very far and now I am thirty going to college to fix my mistake and it isn't easy when you are trying to raise kids as well. You can yell or even talk with your brother all day until your face turns blue but it won't do much good. Your parents should have a talk with him and give him ultimatums. either get good grades or get out. Things of that nature. tough love hurts but it does work. Don't get to upset. just worry about you ok. Good luck.
2006-09-02 21:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by turtle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are...Maybe english isn't your first language...but in any case...don't worry about what they do, worry about what you do. I've read some of the answers and I agree when they say to better yourself. If you are not old enough to be on your own, study hard get good grades and as soon as you are old enough, get out. I have a brother that my dad has helped his whole life...you know what...it doesn't matter. He's nothing but a leach and will never be anything more. He will never take responsibility for his own actions. I just stay the hell away from him. You can't save everyone. Let it go.
2006-09-03 01:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Feel you there right on Just run away from home for a day do something fun that you like to do I have to deal with 2 older brothers and my parents I do everything for my mom but she dosn't give me credit for it!!!!!
2006-09-02 18:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by pinklepord 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to your mom and see what she says, make her realize that he will never grow up if you keep babying him all the time. try to talk to him about the future and see what his plans ar, if hes like a big dreamer like you say then let him know that he must stay in school to achieve his dreams.. instead of putting your opinion in this time just listen to what he has to say and let him know that your not judging hinm or telling him what to do, just that you wanted to know and inform him of how you feel maybe
well good luck
2006-08-26 01:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To ever be able to influence him....you have to build a relationship with him. A person who trusts someone also hears that person. As you said so yourself- you guys quarrel the moment you guys interact. So plan A: make friends with bro (listen more- agree more- bite your tongue more)...plan B: influence him in a calm mature manner (no belittling-no judging- be matter- of- fact and serious when he starts hearing what you have to say).
2006-09-02 21:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi tell you a joke. The jokes goes:
-Doctor! I have a serious problem, I can never remember what i just said.
-When did you first notice this problem?
-What problem?
One more joke:
A guy calls his vet and says "What should I do with my cat?Vet says "What do you mean? Guy says "I had a leak in my lawnmowers gas tank and the cat drank the gas. Then the cat began to run around and around the yard, climbed a tree. then fell out of the tree stiff. Vet says "Is the cat dead? Guy replies "nope he ran out of gas.
Wish you all the best and good luck!!
2006-09-02 05:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is a mama's boy and will continue to be that way til your mom steps up and stops treating him like an infant,
as for you finish school, and join the military for the education and pay, then go out on your own and develop your own realistic dreams
2006-09-02 23:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by free2chat_tou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to tell him to get a job and she needs to quit spoiling him
2006-08-26 01:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is just like my sister, sorry i still cant get it figured out if you do let me know ill have to try it. honestly tho i have tried everything my sister is 19 and still hasent finished her high school stuff( the brat got to be home schooled) all you can do is wait and prove yourself to be better than him maybe then he'll get motivated
2006-09-01 00:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by annabella b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋