someone i love is falling really bad...and he thinks smoking weed, hooking up with girls, and drinking will make things better. i told him it doesnt, but he says,"Yeah for that moment it does." He use to be a strong christian, now hes really bad...Curses really bad...into wordly things. I care for him a lot, but...
He came to me today, saying he hates his life cause the girl hes with cheated on him many times...and hooks up with guys. and i told him hes going to find a girl who will do that.
He also said his life is so bad, friends turn on him, and that he needs to get high and drunk.
I have a strong boyfriend now, and when he calls, he keeps hinting, he needs me singing songs that say,"I keep coming back to you, cause i need you." and just saying stuff bout love. and getting upset that i have a bouyfriend.
What do i say as a christian to him to make him realize Choosing the road to Jesus is the best...and what do i say to him the consequences of what hes doing?
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2006-08-25 18:22:59 · 12 answers · asked by inthisskin22x 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Keep away he is trouble!
He doesn't want to get saved, he wants to get laid. This guy sounds like a stalker in the making, and your faith is no protection from wackos like this....
trust that your god will find a way to Carry the message to him that does not involve you. You can't save him, the best you can do is live a life as a positive example.
Cut him off before you get hurt. Trust me on this.
2006-08-25 18:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yikes - that is a really really tough question. Maybe this will seem trite, but sometimes people have to travel down that road to see that the need God in their lives. It also sounds like you're getting tangled up with him emotionally too. You're in a hard spot because it seems that he sees you as a way to help him because you're a "good girl". I know you are great friends with him, but let me as you this, is it hurting your relationship with your boyfriend? Is it hurting your friendship with him?
I know it's really hard to do - but friends need to level with friends. It sounds like you have a bit, but I think maybe you should try it once more. Let him know how much you care for him as a friend and how you're worried about him. Be specific about the things he has done. Sometimes, when people are really feeling like their lives suck, they don't want to hear a lot about God. That's how I feel sometimes. The best you can do is to be the best human example of Jesus. If he listens to what you are saying and seems remorseful and wants his life to get better, perhaps praying together would be a good start, and take him to church with you next week.
Keep praying, keeping being a great friend.
2006-08-25 18:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by natureutt78 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very hard question because substance abuse clouds the thinking of even the very strongest of people. Keep being a good example of a Christian and whatever you do, don't compromise your integrity. Remind your friend of the benefits of staying clean in God's eyes and that his true friends are others that love God and Jesus like you do.
2006-08-25 18:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him, pray for him, leave him to God. They've got to work it out, together. He's trying to be manipulative. You can't save him. Only God can--but he's got to want to be saved. He knows what you're telling him is right. He's just got to make the decision, himself.
Tell him he's in serious trouble, and that if he can't be serious when he calls you, you'd prefer he didn't call. Tell him you're there for him if/when he wants to talk seriously; but, not personally, because you have a God-oriented boyfriend whom you respect. You've said all you can say; now, you've got to let him go and entrust him to God.
Sometimes people have to go all the way to the bottom, hit bottom, and end up flat on their backs before they're ready to look up. Just continued to pray for him, and be there for him when he wants to talk ,seriously.
2006-08-25 18:33:26 · answer #4 · answered by GypsyGr-ranny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he needs to be askd wat would he think would happen in the future instead of the moment and its not always just spur of the moment thing that u need to see to get through life. ask wat made him become this way. does he want to look 50 when hes 30? does he want to get a disease wit random girls or maybe even breakones heart and world. u need to get the reasons y he all of a sudden change. does he not want to be a person who enters heaven in the future any more to a better and greater life than ever imagined? ur body is ur temple and the people u share it with should be special and one of a kind
2006-08-25 18:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by tt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it and just give it to God to deal with. You can't do or say much to make someone realize anything. Only God The Father can touch minds and hearts. Just leave it in His hands.
2006-08-26 08:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by rhanjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him God loves him. He died for him so he can have eternal life. Tell him to repent of his sins in prayer and ask God to come into his life.
Pray out loud with him.
Tell him God can save him from this life of sin. All he has to do is give everything to God in prayer and repent and truly be sorry for his sins.
Read John 3:16 to him.
2006-08-25 18:46:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you prayed for your friend?
When you feel you can't handle it no more, hand it over to the Father in Heaven.
Sometimes you have to let friends go. Give them room to find what ever they are looking for. Sometimes they have to hit rock bottom in order for them to find God.
Pray to God and ask Him in Jesus' name for wisdom and guidance.
2006-08-25 18:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by LP S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him you will tell him the truth.
But before you do, pray and ask for God's guidance..then open your mouth and God will fill it with what needs to be said.
Prayers and blessings
2006-08-25 18:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by Judah's voice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice and just talk to him that his life will be worse if he keeps those things up!!!
2006-08-25 18:29:38 · answer #10 · answered by meekyle22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋