i ave just moved to america with my mum n little brother! my dad has lived out here for 2 years now for work! i really didnt want to come but i did as i didnt want to hurt my mums feels! but i really dont like it out here im turning 16 in less than a month and i am alowed to go home and live with my sister and her boyfriend! but without my mum n dad! i love them to bits but im missing my family back home so much!i have a boyfriend to and he is so grate! i just dont want my mum to hate me a feel like i dont want to be with her anymore! Please help me!
2006-08-25 17:36:15 · 12 answers · asked by xXxShortyYxXx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mum knows how i feel and she understands that i want to go home and she is letting me! buh im sacred of losing her to! shes my mum ya no! i love her to bits! she begs me not to go sometimes and its breaking my hart to leave her! but i really want to go home!!!!!<3
2006-08-25 17:43:35 · update #1
your parent brought you here probably because they wanted to give you a chance at a better life, better schooling and in the future a better job. a few years of culture shock are worth the price. believe me i was in a similar situation. besides the people you left behind in your home country are moving on with their lives, things wont "return to normal" when you get back. this is a chance for you to have a fresh start, take advantage of your opportunity, especially since every year many immigrants are denied entrance into this country.
2006-08-25 17:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back for a 3 month vacation, then decide if you want to stay permanently. I know how you feel, I moved away and could not wait to go home. But when I did, the first month was great. Everyone missed me and would buy me drinks at the bar - like I was a celebrity. But after the first month, people were moving one with their lives and I had missed so much that I could not relate. My friends had new friends that I never have experiences with and I always felt left out. After the second month, I thought about going away again. At the end of the third month, I left and returned to what in now my new home. Good luck to you!!
2006-08-26 00:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you need to stay with your mom hun. It takes a long time to adjust to a new place, and I can't imagine having to adjust to a new country. Sounds like you are going through what they call "culture shock." You are 16 and need to be with your parents. They really love you. I know you miss your sister and your home alot, but believe me, your sister is not going to want her little sister living with her and her husband forever and your gonna get real tired of her too. Maybe you could go and stay with her during some holidays for a few eeks then come back home. That would be a better option then just moving away from your parents who you need, and who need you. Give it some time here, you will adjust. Good luck hun.
2006-08-26 00:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choosing between loved ones will be the most difficult decision of your life, but in the end, it has to be done if you are to find happiness in yourself. The first thing you Must ask yourself is:Did I try to make the most of this new Land and honestly if you have and still feel the same way, then you owe it to yourself to sit your mom down and express your feelings of returning to your homeland. But be gentle! Let her know that she and your Dad are your parents and no matter where in the world you live, You will always loved them. You can always return at a later date if you find that things are not the same back home, but please allow you the opportunity to find it out yourself. Good Luck and Thanks for asking. Aloha from Hawaii
2006-08-26 01:04:00 · answer #4 · answered by rechsteiner1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my brother, his girlfriend, and their little girl and I hate it. You might want to go home right now but once you get there you are going to get tired of living with them and then you will be stranded there. You will be saving more money just staying where you are right now. You need to be with your parents in my opinion because you are still their daughter and you will be an adult in a couple of years. I actually miss living with my parents. I hardly ever get to talk to them because I have to work. I always wish that I could spend more time with parents.
2006-08-26 00:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seem like you and your mom are very close, and that is great it's should make it easy for you to talk with her. I feel she love you as much as you love her and she will understand it may take awhile but the love she have for you, she would want you to be happy, even if you are not with her. Family is great and it help to get through life when your family is close but sometime a mother close is too close for the kids, (smile) When you leave call her to reasure her that you are ok, she have taken care of you for 16yrs, it hard to let go but we have to some time,
2006-08-26 00:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dee Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK TAKE IT EASY, try to understand that the age of 16 you can do anything but if you really want to move away from there you can if you were at least 17 year's old you can do some stuff on your own decissions!
2006-08-26 00:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by pldjrftb@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart back to you bf, stay in touch with your parents.
explain why you don't want to stay in america, even if your mom and dad don't understand right away once theyve had a chance to think about it they will, they too once were your age remember :)
2006-08-26 00:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by plainwolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mum and she if she will understand about what you want. Than tell her what you want and tell her not to worry about you and tell her you loove her and your family but does she want what is best for you or what she thinks is best for you. Talk To Her!!!
2006-08-26 00:41:54 · answer #9 · answered by Faith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mum is your mum... no matter what contenent you live on....... you need to sit and talk and be honest with her and dad too...... they need to know what and how you feel .... tell them what you wrote here...... let them help you decide what is right...... they dont know until you tell them how you feel..... we parents dont read minds, wish we could, so until you TALK she wont know....... speak up !!!!!!!!! God bless
2006-08-26 00:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋