i hit my girlfriend and shes angry...dont blameher tho. i love her so much it was a mistake snd everytime i try to call her or to go over to her place she wont talk to me. its so not me and i could kill myself.....help plz...serious answers only...
2006-08-25 17:21:46 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get counseling before you accidently wind ip really really hurt her and if it doesn't stop if you really love her you'll leave bfore you do something you regret.
good luck !I hope you make the right decision!
2006-08-25 17:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG okay hun here's my story. I was married to a man for almost 5 years and he cheated on me all the time and he beat me a lot. I never left him because I was too scared that no one else would want to be with me. It was the fear of being alone. I put up with it for too long and I wish that I wouldn't have. I'm not trying to tell you this to get you more upset because it's obvious that you are upset enough. Bottom line honey is don't be surprised if this girl never talks to you again. Being hit by someone you love is the most hurtful thing that will ever happen to you. She probably feels betrayed and mad and upset and now scared of you! They always say that if you've hit her once then you'll do it again and that's probably what she's afraid of. She doesn't want to get hit again. But can you blame her? Nothing that you can say to her right now will make any difference because the trust is already gone. If you really want to prove to her that you will NEVER do that again then you need to get into some counsling pronto!!! Call her and leave a message when you've already got the counsling set up. I'm telling you to leave her a message because more than likely she won't answer your call. Don't be dissapointed if she doesn't answer. Just tell her that you've started counsling and that you are sorry and if she wants to come to one of the sesions then she is more than welcome. Leave it at that and if you hear from her then great but don't quit the counsling just because she gets back together with you and if you don't hear back from her then you know what honey learn from your mistakes and get yourself better. You might just have to cut your losses on this one! If you need someone to talk to then e-mail me sofina_83@yahoo.com. I'll try to help you and our conversations would stay private. I won't judge you but I'd really like to know the reason why this all happened. I know that obviously it was a fight but what brought you to hit her? I'm just wondering. Good luck to you and I hope to hear from you soon via e-mail.
2006-08-25 17:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by sofina_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my husband or boyfriend hit me..i wouldnt get over it to soon..hitting someone is not the way to go. If you have an anger problem maybe you should get some help to get past this because it can sometimes make things worse.. If you have any hope of having anything good in ur life be a man about it take say yea i did it and i am going to stop it..it is not a problem to do this and you realize your wrong it becomes a problem when you do nothing about it and continue and as for you killing yourself is not taking responsibilty and will not impress her as much as you taking action to fix the problem..if you love her you will fix this..that is love, love doesnt hurt, love is kind and gentle..
2006-08-25 17:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by away right now 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hitting never solve anything, try new things when you are heated, like walking and talking, or just walk alone and thing and then if possible come back later and talk it over. We don't hurt the things we love, because the things we love will leave us and then we're left hurting. try to send her some flowers with a nice note of card explaining that it will never happen again. and then get some help unfortunately hitting becomes habit forming for some... (sorry)
2006-08-25 17:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Dee Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here is a serious answer.............if you loved her you wouldn't have hit her and now that you hit her how do you know that thing won't get shaky again and you'll hit her. If i was your girl i'd leave you, cause it seems to me that you don't love her. You may love her but in a crazy guy, who doesn't like parents getting in to business and friends wanting to hang out with your girl. Do you and your girl a favor leave her alone and if she takes you back then she's is just stupid. Is this real or serious enough for you.
2006-08-25 17:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Tomato 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF.. and i repeat IF this is the first time you have hit her rest assured you will do it again. if a man is not a hitter he woud have never done it in the first place. since you've already crossed that line you are obviously disposed to hitting. get a grip before it gets completely out of hand for you. If she's smart . she will never go back to you. You have already shown your true self and it will only get worse with time. I hope she runs as fast as she can to stay away from you and have a normal life with someone else.
2006-08-25 17:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by mylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserved to have her leave if you cannot control your anger any better than to hit her.
Get some anger counseling and learn how to deal with those problems of yours before you try to get a hold of her again. Then, MAYBE she will talk to you after you explain that you seriously sought help to learn how to deal with your unacceptable behaviors.
By the way - if you were drunk when you did it, you may have an additional issue going on there.
Until you get yourself "fixed", leave her alone. If it was me I'd slap a personal protection order on you so fast it would make your head spin.
2006-08-25 17:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Saying "it won't happen again" is such a cliche now. The only thing I can suggest to you is that you seek anger management and inform her of this fact. At least you will be demonstrating to her that you are taking every precaution necessary to prevent such an atrocious act from happening again. She obviously has every right to end the relationship and if she does even after you have begged for her forgiveness and all that, then you must respect her decision and leave her alone.
2006-08-25 17:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by cryingrainbow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You lost control of yourself when you hit your girlfriend. Hopefully this incident helped you discover more about yourself. You have to realize that you are a potential danger to others because of this lack of control...and you need to get help to change that. There's not much you can do to convince her that you'll try to change. All you can do is actually get the help you need make that change and hope she eventually see's it for herself. You can't force her to see this change (and you don't have the right to force her to see anything). All you can do is change yourself andf hope for the best. At the very least this hopefully was a very big life lesson for you.
2006-08-25 17:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by John F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve it, dude, and you're going to have to work hard to win back the trust. Do some research into anger management and spend time thinking about how you can improve your self-control. Seriously, just saying "I won't do it again" isn't very convincing, is it? You did it once - how does she know that you won't do it again? Go and get help, and *show* her that you're taking your transgression very seriously and taking practical steps to prevent it from ever happening again.
2006-08-25 17:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should dump u. If she does get back to you, i'm assuming you'll hit her again. Your kind should get some help. Trying beating on men your own size rather than helpless women.
You're pathetic.
2006-08-28 20:44:25 · answer #11 · answered by Jackal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋