I am fostering newborns I have never done this before but I am excited and nervous.I want to give the baby the love that every child deserves but I am scared about how it will feel when she leaves and goes home does anyone have ideas about how to deal with these feelings
2006-08-25 17:15:22 · 7 answers · asked by thecl8tons 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There's really no way to distance yourself emotionally. Part of being a good foster parent is loving the child. It's perfectly natural. If you're worried about the separation you sound like a wonderful person with a big heart. Don't let it keep you from taking in a child who needs you. The world is better because of people like you.
2006-08-25 17:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by kayla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a foster parent to newborns until we adopted some of them. The first year of their lives is the most important. Well every year of a child's life is important. I bonded with all the babies we had, it was hard to let them go. As soon as you let them go there will be another baby to take care of. Show them love and kindness. Bonding is very important yeah it's harder on us then it is on them. But the benefits will serve them well as they grow up.
Take plenty of pictures, capture their lives as they live with you, so you can always look back on the memories you had with them. Through the years I have kept in touch with the families that ended up with the child.
Talk with other foster families that foster babies, so you can talk about your feelings. Or find a support group for foster families. Blog about how you feel, or just write about how you feel. Being able to express your feelings will help you deal with your feelings. Its normal to feel the lose, we all go through it when we are fostering.
The best gifts you can give the babies is your love, bonding and trust oh and of course food.
I wish you luck and a lot of enjoyment and a busy life with lots of babies. :)
2006-08-26 00:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by duh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't say I've been in your shoes! But perhaps when she is eventually adopted, her new parents will 'keep in touch' and allow you contact, or at least let you know on a regular basis how she's doing? If not, just please remember, while you're taking care of the little angel, that although you may be hurt now, you will surely be rewarded when you 'meet our maker'. Probably won't make it easier now, and I'm sure it's easy for me to say. But, you will have done such a wonderful thing for her. May God bless you:-)
2006-08-26 00:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something which is very difficult and I assure you, you will never be able to maintain distance emotionally and still do a good job. Just try and tell yourself that you are just a part time angel on their way to their new life and you are just helping.
2006-08-26 00:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need self reassurance, and self confidence _ you have the motivation to give bub the love and care needed.
Now all you need is self control.
God bless
2006-08-26 00:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't. Unless you don't allow your self to get to close and keep rules the same.
2006-08-26 00:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up thinking and do your duty for them very casually.
2006-08-26 00:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by unisoul 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋