His punishment included making him go in to the nursery/toddler room 1 sunday and apologizing to the staff. He came back and told us he needed to either do chores for them for an entire morning and if he refused or gave them a hard time then he should maybe spend the rest of the time there as 1 of the kids so he could see what it was really like to be a baby and maybe he would think differently about what he did. Is this reasonable punishment?
2006-08-25 16:53:01 · 17 answers · asked by Luke J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think what's most strange here is the fact that your teenage son stole diapers. What was the reason behind that?
Besides that, I do think apologizing to the staff and doing chores one morning for them would be a decent punishment. I think you should punish him yourself though, as well. Like someone else mentioned, stealing is a crime and if you don't nip it now, it may get worse.
2006-08-25 17:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by avBlue 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it is very reasonable. He could have been given a lot worse for what he did. He is lucky it was a church nursery instead of somewhere else that may have reported him to the police or something like that where his punishment could be more severe.
Maybe if he has to go to the nursery and be treated as one of the kids he will know what the consequences of his actions would be.
I would hope he would learn a valuable lesson from the experience and maybe teach him some responsibility.
I would also ask him why he wanted the diapers. Does he want them for someone that is needy and couldn't afford to buy them? In that case then he just needs to be taught how the church deals with people that have that and other types of need.
If he wants them for himself to wear then you need to figure out why. Does he have a problem and need to wear them or does he have a desire to be in diapers again? He may have too much stress in his life and wants to go back to a time when he didn't have to worry about anything, back to when he was in diapers and every need was taked care of for him and he didn't have to make decisions.
Talk with him and find out what is going on in his life, it sounds to me like you may be out of touch with him a little bit too much.
Good luck and may God bless all of you.
2006-08-26 04:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by wetsaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it's reasonable to expect him apologize (of course) and also to do chores for a morning. If he refuses, yes, he should spend the rest of the time there. For a boy not to apologize for stealing (even though it was diapers) just isn't right. Honestly, I can see my son doing something like that. He's a real clown lately, so I feel for you. Just make sure he does know those diapers = church money. Good luck
2006-08-25 17:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by violindiva72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should do chores for them to repay for what he took... which i don't really understand anyway, why would a 14 year old want diapers??
I also don't think that he should get away with this at home either and you should do something to punish him at home as well. I would suggest having him purchase diapers for the nursery with his own money and if he doesn't have his own money, then he can work for you around the house to earn money. Stealing is against the law and he should be punished for it before it becomes a habit and he gets in real trouble.
2006-08-25 16:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
More of the issue is why did he steal ? He is 13 and old enough to know better let alone stealing from a church. Helping in the nursery may be a good idea. Let him change a few dirty nappies and he will never want to see another one again
2006-08-26 03:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 14 year old daughter did just about the same thing-only it wasnt diapers,it was the plastic pants[rubberpants] that are sometimes worn over the diapers! There was 3 pair of them in toddler size and she didnot get caught by our church,but i found them hidden in her room.She told me a friend of hers wears rubberpants and likes them so she took them to try them also.I made her take them back to the church and confess what she did.As her punishment,i bought her a package of toddler size rubberpants that she has to wear every day for three months!
2016-07-24 02:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a 13 year old boy steal diapers from a church nursery? If I were you I would just make him apologize and ground him for a week.
2006-08-25 16:57:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should have to apologize,but he should also have to in there as one of the kids. He should wear the diapers in there every Sunday until he can buy a package of diapers for the church.
2015-02-27 13:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by benjamin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda wonder why would he stole diapers for?
1st-He must apologize to the staff
2nd- u must counsel him about stolen. he may stole diapers now, but who knows one day, he might steal something more valuable
3rd- doing chores as a punishment, that's ok
every bad behaviour has a punishment
overall, Reasonable
2006-08-25 17:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by *SugaryLips* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stealing diapers? You may have a boy with a fetish on your hands. You might want to find out why he was taking dapers. But don't shame him for having a strange desire, he is still your boy.
2006-08-26 08:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋