My boyfriends smoking?

Question

Okay Im 12 and my boyfriends 13 Anyway my boyfriend had been smoking since he was 8... i knew this b4 i went out with him but at the time he told me he quit. After I went out with him i found out he sitll smokes like a pack a day or sometin. He said he quit. Then when i told him i knew he didnt quit he said he only smoked with his 16 year old friend and they would split the pack everytime they hung out.He went on vacation and came back and said that he quit for me and he hadnt had one since the week he left for vacation (3 weeks ago) then today his friend was over when we were tlaking online and i asked if his friend knew and he was like yeah he knows he saw me smoke one today. I was shocked. i had though for so long that he had quit. I asked him y he lied and he said he didnt know and that he hasnt smoked cigs but a water bong pipe... which i dont know what it is. plz help me. i dont kno if i shoul get help or not... plz plz plz

Answer 1

dear lord...!!! smokin' at a young and tender age and smokin' since 8!!! terrible!!! anyway try to give him some moral support and try to put in some will power in him and some counselling could be handy toooo..i know that this will be a tough time to adjust and try to stop smokin' but this cant be done in a day, besides it is impossible to stop at once and needs to be done slowly and step by step. try reducing the number of cigar per week, then to per day..nicotine patch should not hurt, try doing other useful and interesting things whenever the urge to need to smoke comes..give your self and your boyfriend a pat or treat in a good and useful manner..i know at this tender age it is very very difficult to do so and it takes a lot of time and patience too...trust me it it eventually succeed and take it from someone who has experience in this and came thru finally for quit smokin'...do not give up hope and find many ways to help out...it's better to be safe than sorry...

Answer 2

If you went into the relationship knowing he was a smoker, then you have little room to complain.

I used to smoke quite heavily. I once went on a date with a girl whose number I procured in a library. However, as soon as she saw me light up my first cigarette she said "Listen, I don't mean to be rude, but I really can't take smoking. I have to be honest and say if you're going to smoke, then we should part ways now."

At first I thought she was incredibly rude. But in hindsight, I appreciate her honesty. I would have really hated it if she hid those feelings, dated me, entered into a full-time relationship and THEN tried to make me stop the habit. That is deceit.

Be honest with your boyfriend. You can't make him stop, and you shouldn't hold it against him if he continues. You knew what you were getting into when you started dating him. But if the smoking is affecting you, then there is no shame in leaving the relationship behind.

P.S. I know many people who smoke, but who also do countless charity work, provide a shoulder to cry on for anybody, who are fine humanists, have faultless manners and consideration. They aren't "scumbags".

Answer 3

A water bong is used to smoke marijuana. Don't waste your time with him. He is going to grow up to be a drugy looser. Tell a school councilor that he is doing drugs and she will take care of it. He must be having some family problems if he is starting all this so young. You can't help him. He needs a professional. You need to get yourself away from him.

Answer 4

Get out of his hair!! Let him do what he wants, and a water bong pipe is something you use to smoke weed(marijuana). You shouldn't get help unless he wants it. Also having a bf at 12 is very young.

Answer 5

Girl, you cannot make him stop smoking. Only he can do that and it sounds like he's already hooked. You're going to have to decide if you want to date a smoker. A water bong pipe is used to smoke pot. Personally, I'd dump his a**.

Answer 6

my WHOLE family smokes. and i must say its addictive. cigarettes no matter at what age are addictive. but 8yrs old is young and he's been doing it for 5years. you couldnt expect him to quit because of you, its a mental thing. he has to be WILLING to quit for his self. but trust me.it'll hit him sooner or later. b/c i smoked for 4yrs but never cigarettes. and a reality check is soon to come. but you cant help someone that doesnt want to be helped. if your boy wanted to quit. it would of happend. but its a difficult thing to break

oh yea.. about the pipe.. its weed, green, marijuana, mary jane, pot,. it alwaaays start off with the cigarettes. my b/f smokes weed. i really dnt care. but weed isnt addictive as cigs. so if you want to help him. its a little to late. you gotta let him live his life. by the time he's 16 he'll grow out of it somewhat.

Answer 7

If you tell an adult he will not be happy, I'd say he needs help...I'm wondering who is buying him the cigarettes? he started really young, it will be hard for him to stop, give him an incentive if you really like him...I think u should leave him and tell him that Ur leaving him BC he has lied to u and BC he still smokes., but that is just my opinion, i wish u luck in trying to help him... you'll need to be strong if you really want him to stop BC it won't be pretty.

Answer 8

He probably can't just stop smoking that easily. He's way too young to have started poisoning his body like that.

Answer 9

He is smoking the pot..... Bongs are usually for pot, you're not going to get him to quit. He has to decide that on his own.... except him for who he is or dump his a*s

Answer 10

this guy is not faithful to you. he lied to you so rethink is he a true boyfriend. what ever you do not smoke. he might want you do it. he is an asshole 4 saying he had stopped think what you should do