Does the innocent suffer because of the parent?

Question

When I was a teenager I tried to kill myself not once but twice. Since then I have given birth to three children and I am yet unwed. All 3 kids have the same father. We were able to get one child baptised. The other two we were waiting to find a church that would forgive our unwedded bliss. Since then I have lost my only son. Is he suffering for my sins? His father has plenty of his own sins. Does this god give only to take? Why let me live twice only to take from me 12 yrs later?

Answer 1

If you do not want to believe you are suffering from your sins, then you are not. If you believe that you are suffering from your sins, then you are. It is a matter of perspective and what you believe in.

Answer 2

your outlook and perspective need to change,this is not about god it is about you.no one sits up in the sky and says okay I am killing that kid the parents are unwed,your dad was bad,so I will punish you instead.
life is not rosy peachy keen and those who you believe have great lives have their own issues they do not broadcast for you to see,there is one thing you can count on and that is change, death is part of the cycle of life unfortunately some of us dont survive as long or long enough,
your decisions you made in life were poor to ineffective at times ,because you use the behavior you were taught at home
using a 2 sided wrong or right lens to view life and assigning away responsibilty and blame to god,leave you in a world of confusion.
sometimes life is not right and there is no one to blame,and if you choose to meet these needs becuase you must have a wrong or right ,does not gain you anything nor does it create change.
there are millions of people all over the world who have been sexually physically ,emtionally brutalized or chronically abused, children of alcoholics,prostitutes and prisoners too, and from all this ugly some have not just survived but thrive and live in upper class society and no it is not a rare few,.
you are a powerful person and it is you who must control your life and keep your focus on the outcome and your plan to move ahead, rather than stagnate and rot in misery that will stay with you until you decide to leave and walk away from it, you must love yourself and create the compassion in your life and world you do not find, analyzing your family tree looking for a scapegoat is ineffective has does this take you anywhere ?people live and die ,I have lost everyone I was closest to my grandfather,uncle and father,everyman I loved I have lost,I hadf an abusive childhood ,yet I choose no9t to wallow and blame why me and why does he keep taking away and what have I done wrong in the past and my father to ,this will not answer your why,the day they died a part of them lived ,me and I cannot stop and keep looking back asking why and cry,that is not living and I am not hopeless or hopeless, I did not make my mom pregnant it is not my fault I am alive any more than it is when someone else dies ,it is just life that I endure and I casnnnot expect to have none of these issues while the whole world does, like some princees pet of some god, I must save myself and own my power and look ahead and if I do not have role models in my life to follow success or satisfaction in my life I get off my butt and go find some.I am not trying to insult you or invalidate your pain but if you used a wider lens to view yourself and some different perspective you might find some sense of control or understanding you seem to be seeking,it begins with you and the first thing that you must do is forgive yourself and all who have wronged you including your son who abandoned you and died, face every guilt and anger no matter how selfish or unjustified it seems and forgive ,so you can let go and accept and live feel real instead of surviving in a dream

Answer 3

one of your son's died? Hon, my son died four years ago. Only those of us who lose a child can comprehend the pain of that loss.

Please..hon, God is love. Nothing bad comes from God. You have been dealing with legalistic Christians. True Christians know that only God can pass judgment on a person. And God is way more forgiving than humans are. God is not punishing you for your suside attempt or you not being married.

In the bible where is discusses the "sin's of the father." it is talking about mankind as a whole. One perfect example is AIDS.
A man had sex with a monkey in Africa, he was a flight attendent who was gay. He traveled the world spreading AIDS. AIDS used to be only in apes, his sin was sexing with an animal.......therefor his son is sent upon innocent humans around the world. Let's say 20 yrs ago when aids was not tested in blood a young sick child had a blood transfusion....and caught aids and died. That child was innocent of the sin. It was part of mankind that brought the AIDS to humans. God never punishes, He is pure love. He might let us walk through the shawdows but his hand is always out there for us. All we have to do it take it.

My daughter is not married and she has two kids. She goes to a church that loves her and all her family. She had her baby dedicated and when the child is older can make own decision to baptise or not.

Keep trying churches hon. Or baptise the children your self. My son who died was sick once in the hospital. Because of rebellion he chose to never be baptized. So one night sitting by his bedside at Standford Childrens hospital I baptized him myself. All water is holy if it is used in God's name.

Humans are legalistic and dogmatic. God has open arms for us all. He is the only one who takes us just as we are and he takes in to consideration our circumstances. It is man kind that is judgmental. Only look to God for what you need.

And let me know ok, how things are.If you need to talk to another parent who has lost a child....email me ok.

Answer 4

Children arn`t punished for their parents sins.We only answer for our own.I`m sorry about your son.God didn`t punish your son and he`s not punishing you for past sins.Mankind can be very harsh and not letting your children be babtized I really don`t understand.As far as a church forgiving you ,that isn`t their place each of us has enough to do to keep ourselfs straight with out standing in judgement if someone else.God forgives us of all our sins.He is the only one who can. He is a loving God.Why things happen to us is hard to say sometimes it seems that theres no light at the end of the tunnel.But a passage in the Bible ,in Proverbs helped me understand.It rains on the just and the unjust.In other words as long as we`re here good and bad things will happen to each of us.

Answer 5

You need to speak to Jehovah's Witnesses. Don't look for a church that will tickle your ears. You can be forgiven that is why Jesus suffered his death the price paid was ultimate.
If you repent and correct your state of sin you can be forgiven that is what the sacrifice Jesus made was for. And no God does not punish you by taking your child away because God cannot commit sin and he wants all to repent and be saved. God has nothing against an innocent child. Get a free bible study you will never regret it.

Answer 6

no God would not make the innocent suffer because every person is only accountable by their own sins but maybe God took your son to save him from actually suffering from like maybe a disease or an accident all things are in God's plan don't blame yourself he is probably happy in heaven

i hope this helps i know what it is like to lose a family loved one

Answer 7

Parents actions reflect on children, I believe that.

Answer 8

No one knows, we will never really understand. I believe that your child is in heaven. If you want you should repent and continuously pray.