This girl I talk too online well lets say i devoted so much of my time i told her and offered to do anything for her, i sent her letters,flowers, etc..... lets say a 2 year friendship which I wanted to turn into a relationship....
Well basically she ignores me now cause well i was a bit of a jerk to her and did some bad things,which i explained why and said i was sorry and did everything i could to make up for it but still ignored...
The reason i ask ifnot mentally right, is because really does a person with a heart really do this to a person, just plain out ignore them after one has given so much time, tears, and love to them.
I know its online but still this confuses me, because she says shes a virgin, so if she is not interested in other guys, then what the heck could be the problem? How am i suppose to convince her that hey i want u because of u, i want to do things with u that other guys wouldnt dare do with you, i can give u anything that anyone else can... How???
2006-08-25 16:45:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know who she says she is... i know that for a fact.... Identity isnt a problem.... the problem is knowing what she wants....
2006-08-25 16:54:39 · update #1
Trust takes years to build and only seconds to destroy. You're going to have to casually build up your friendship and relationship and trust, so don't expect her to magically fall in love with you. You may need to start slow, but start steady. Explain to her why you did those things you did and that people make mistakes. Use "I" statements intstead of "you," because they seem much less accusing and more apologizing and discussing. Realize that if it was you in her situation you would probably be very angry, and maybe she tends to be a slow forgiver. Just check up on her but don't push it, that will only make her madder. Show you're interested without being pushy. Lasting trust takes time, and if it's worth it, you'll wait.
2006-08-25 16:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Reina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy do the same to me because someone with my same last name sent him an icebreaker ant thought I was trying to "test" him. I was innocent and hurt. I now refer to him as tri-polar. On line relationships are not solid because some shallow people don't regard these relationships as real or the people in them. I hope you find a real girl, who knows how to forgive or at least be honest about her feelings.
2006-08-25 23:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason these people are on the internet is because they can be whomever they want to be. You don't really know anyone from the internet.
Most of them aren't who they say they are. The photos they share may not be them, the stories they tell you may not be true. If she's not willing to go to the next step with you, I think it is because she isn't who she said she is. I'd move on.
2006-08-25 16:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow dude, you sound like you are the one off your rocker to be honest. She doesn't want anything to do with you. You need to except that and move on with your life.
P.S. Just because this girl is a virgin it does not mean she doesn't like, or is interested in other guys.
2006-08-25 16:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by mixwithanything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u were a jerk to her..and she has the right to forgive you or not forgive you....i know being ignored sucks..its the worse..i have been there done that..u need to just move on..and not drive yourself nuts over it..nothing you can do if she is ignoring you.
2006-08-25 16:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to meet someone in real life...you haven't met her in 2 years...it's time to move on. How do you know you weren't being played?
2006-08-25 16:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Ivyvine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could not have been as serious as you thought if it was online only for 2 years...it sounds like she was stringing you along. you should try to meet a real person (i mean not over the internet) please do not obsess over her - you should want someone that treats you as well as you treat them. good luck
2006-08-25 16:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by bonbon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes afraid... an i think if u really cared for her u'd b out of ur mind wondering what the heck u did wrong, not whats wrong with her.
2006-08-25 17:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an unforgiving person who want a change. i would forget it and go on with life.
2006-08-25 16:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by Tony T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably did stuff you won't admit to. I think she is smart to unload someone that lies to everyone that reads your question
2006-08-25 16:54:53 · answer #10 · answered by mary texas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋