I am also 5months pregnant by him, and his wife doesn't know. I live next door to them and i know that i am the only one he's sleeping with, because that's what he say's. Is it really worth all of the drama?
2006-08-25 16:08:59 · 69 answers · asked by NETTA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see some people are blaming you and calling you a home wrecker. THEY SHOULD NOT.
Are you the one who's cheating on your significant other? No. You're a free, single person, who just happened to fall in love with a guy, and that guy happened to be taken. He should be the one to take all the blame. A guy like that does not deserve the attention/the time of any woman, not you, not his wife.
Let's say he leaves his old life behind for you. The thing is, how will you ever be able to trust him? Everytime he'll tell you that he loves you and that there's no one else in his life, you'll have remember how the two of you got together in the first place...
You deserve more than half happiness. Your child is better off with no father figure (well, at least for the beginning of his life) than with a poor excuse for one. My advice to you: Wish him a good life, find another nice place to live and start a new life for you and your baby... No lies and no drama.
2006-08-25 16:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ AnGeL oF cLaRiTy ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
That's funny ! And should u really think about it yourself , you'll probably find just as much humor in the question you asked, also . lol
A guy that has a wife already tells you that you are the only woman he is sleeping with... and you believed him. Have you even bother to ask youself the question "at what point" might this "cheater" changed his cheating ways ? Or did you just assume that when he met you he had all the reasons to ( change) ?? God !... be real !!
As for the question of whether or not it is worth the drama to continue your relationship or not with this married- lover of yours . Woman ,again , be real ! You say you are already impregnated by him.... can you really possibly think that that helps to lessen any potential drama in the future or otherwise ( should you now decide to keep the relationship or break it off)
It's fairly obvious to see that you your-self are the type person that is prone to acting-out first.......and "thinking" later . And therefore, drama would be inescapable & most inevitable in your way-of-life .
However, as for the wife... it is she that I really sympathize with; because it does seem that she is the one that is about to be pulled into a situation & series of unpleasant drama...and that she very well didn't deserve.
Perhaps the very best that could come out of all this for the wife, is eventually having the opportunity to pass her worthless so-called husband off to the next woman & rid herself of the continued stress & unhappiness that he would cause her. Also, she might just consider moving to the other side of town after she does dump him.
And as for yourself, do keep in mind; that usually the way a relationship begins.....is often how it ends! If through his cheating-ways is how you found him... then through his cheating -ways is how you will also eventually lose him. So have fun while it lasts.
And no offense intended!
2006-08-25 17:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by anthony J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you, a Jerry Springer show wannabe? Why would you believe he's not sleeping with his wife just because he says so? He's lying to his wife, no reason he wouldn't be lying to you, too. Guys like that are bottom-feeding algae-sucking scum, although the girls involved often aren't much higher on the food chain. If you have anything at all left resembling morals or a conscience, you'll get out of this.
2006-08-25 16:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by ckmclements 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely i assume that's ok as long as you relatively love him and he rather loves you. You greater efficient be sure he rather does earlier you bypass any farther. additionally in case you have been married and divorced which skill you haven't any longer basic him long. do merely no longer bounce into some thing which you're no longer waiting for. some human beings merely elect to get married and prefer the sensation and so as that they do no longer possibly think of it by way of. You knew you ex for 4 years and did no longer understand who he rather develop into so make an effort to get to renowned this one. additionally i'm a single mothers and fathers and his daughter does not elect a pal she desires a parental parent (no longer mom yet yeah) so I say decrease back off on that too. you have exciting and not be her chum.
2016-12-11 15:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple fact that you have to answer the questrion indicates to me that you know that it's wrong. I do not think you should persue the relationship not only because it is wrong on so many levels but because it shows no promise for growth. As much as you may want to fool yourself he does not show that he is willing to leave his wife for you and even though he says he is not having intercourse with his wife just the act of cheating alone is an act of dishonesty.
You have built yourself quite a web. I believe your only way out may just be to fess up to his wife and then confront him. You should also demand that he take responsibility for the child.
2006-08-25 16:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Should you believe what he is saying to you though? He is cheating on his wife so what makes you think he will only be with you IF he leaves his wife? Maybe he doesnt like to be in monogamous relationships. I think there is too much drama already, but breaking up a marriage is a bad thing to do. What would compel you to date him anyway. And again, if he is married and dating, what makes you think he would be true to you? He probably wouldnt be.
2006-08-25 16:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by Nate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand falling in love with a married man but, getting pregnant? How foolish! No one has to get pregnant these days. You just made one of the biggest blunders in your life. I suspect you will make many more. You just sound like one of those self destructive people. You probably won't heed any good advice so I'm not going to give any. Geez!
2006-08-25 16:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, you need to know if he wants to leave his wife. If not, you got to be happy as his lover and never have a normal relationship. Now if you were both marries, that is a different story. Have a happy married life and a nice deviation on the side.
2006-08-25 16:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a wonderful relationship that could only get better by sitting down with his wife and seeking her support. She might be a good babysitter later on when you and her husband just need a break and need to go off somewhere, either for an evening or a weekend.
2006-08-25 16:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by nothing 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to break it off with him and move. His wife will eventually figure it out. She may already know. Most men won't leave their wives unless she kicks his but to the curb. Besides even if he does and comes to you whats to say that he won't find another woman. He's cheating on his wife ,no offense, why won't he cheat on you. You child needs a positive influence in it's life is this what you want for your baby?
2006-08-25 16:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋