i feel like i'm frozen, i'm depressed and cant do anything, what can i do?

Question

my husband doesnt pay much attention to me, my boys are grown and i have no one. there is so much i havent done and feel like i never will.

years ago i was on paxil for a short time, then i felt better and stopped taking it...i also went to therapy because i became anorexic, but i got better. i think i have always had alot of issues, but i'm at a point where i need to do something (also i dont have money for much)

Answer 1

Therapist will talk about your issues, doctors will try and prescribe pills for them but when it's all said and done, you still have the issues.
Often times a marriage that has not been mutual relies on the children to soften the pain. The business of raising kids places on hold a marriage in tatters.
You have to arrange for a very important conversation with your husband and explain what is in your heart. Dont attack him and tell him all he's done wrong just explain to him where your at right now. How empty you are, how he may have hurt you emotionally or physically, your lack of love you feel from him, etc. and make it very clear that you cannot go on in this state. Arrange for a good family counselor to see you, if you can't afford one go see a love Pastor that will help, often times churches will have a person who does counseling for couples, a good bible believing church.
Explain to your husband the urgency of this matter and plan for the counseling whether your husband jumps on board initially or not.
Until then, friends in the church will love you and strengthen you until your husband comes around, until then, trust in the Lord, He will give you strength.

Answer 2

For mild depression, I'd suggest St John's Wort, but your issues seem more serious (relationships, loneliness, regret?). Get in touch with a therapist and see him or her on a regular basis. If the therapist recommends it, see a doctor about the depression too.

You can get better. Hopefully talk therapy will help, but there are other options that your doctor can help you with if need be.

In the meantime, exercise, eat well, socialise. Try to stay active emotionally, spiritually and physically.

All the best.

PS. If therapy and anti-depressants worked before, give them a go again! I think you should stay with your therapy even if you feel better in the short term. There is no harm or shame in having quarterly visits just to keep in touch. You can increase or decrease the number of visits as required.

Couple counselling might help too.

Answer 3

time to try out those things you wish to accomplish.

why not? no better time. you've reach that point now where you've got some 'me' time.

you've been so aclaimated to the chores, tasks of the children and home.. you've lost that sensation of things to do for yourself.

it's hard but you can step forward now, it won't hurt at all. matter of fact you'll feel better about yourself, accomplished and there's that 'high' you'll get from doing something for yourself and doing things you've put off all this time.

try it, you will like it.

who knows the hubby may start paying attention again if you become successful what you want to do.

who knows maybe whatever you'll do will help others and have positive effects on you and the family...

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Don't feel frozen it just seems like you may be depressed. If you feel lonely and depressed maybe you should consult a doctor for help.

Answer 6

maybe you might want to reconsider going back on an anti-depressant.

Answer 7

i'll be ur friend. [e-mail]. try meditation. holisticonline.com is cool for this. try walking. music.

Answer 8

find a close friend or a boyfriend