I'm 14 and duh I know basic table manners but i've been invited to a friend's wedding.We are going to have a special dinner and stuff-it's going to be really fancy.So I need to know basic stuff like why do I need all those forks and spoons-what do I use them for?Can you give me some websites or something?Please help!
2006-08-25 15:57:58 · 16 answers · asked by charmed_ones_lover 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
1. Do introduce yourself and your guests using full names. Remember: young to old, men to women, and by "rank."
2. Do firmly shake hands (not crushing fingers) using the web to web, two pump method.
3. Do make positive comments about your surroundings and the event. Ask open-ended questions to begin conversations. Do avoid controversial topics with new acquaintances.
4. Do politely and graciously accept any and all compliments offered to you with a smile, a nod and a thank you.
5. Do identify your place setting when sitting down. (Remember: plate - center; knives, spoons and glasses - right; forks and bread plate - left.)
6. Do place your napkin on your lap when seated. If you leave the table during the meal, place your napkin on your chair. Your napkin returns to the table only at the conclusion of the meal.
7. Do be courteous of the waitstaff. (Remember: they leave food from the left and remove food from the right.)
8. Do use the proper utensil to eat. Begin with the one furthest from the plate. (If you make a mistake, don't worry, keep eating! If a utensil falls to the floor, mention it to the waiter and ask for a clean utensil.)
9. Do ask for items out of your reach to be passed to you. Do pass items requested by other diners.
10. Do take small bites and chew with your mouth shut. Do speak with others only when your mouth is empty.
11. Do thank the host in writing for inviting you.
12. Remember - Manners Matter!
Have fun at the wedding and I hope this helps.
2006-08-25 16:03:20 · answer #1 · answered by ttti 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Start at the outside and work your way in. By this I mean the knife and fork at the end of the table you start it depend on how many courses will be served. Sorry they are no website I know of by my old Swiss finishing school we taught all this etc. Napkin is use between you and the glass you are drinking to prevent stains on the glass you are using. Chew your food, and don't speak with your mouth full. How ones know when someone is finish ones meal you put the knife and fork facing straight both together if for some reason we say you are called for a phone call and had to leave the table and the other guest you can put the fork and knife in a cross positon so that the butler would know that you are not finish eating. The proper way to eat desert is not a spoon but actually a fork
2006-08-25 17:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the butter dish is always on your left and your glass is always on your right. The small fork on the side of the plate is the salad fork and the larger on the entree fork. If there is a large spoon that is for soup and the small spoon would be for coffee or tea. The small fork at the top of the plate is your dessert fork.
Just relax and watch the adults if you are not sure of what to do. No one will even notice if you use the wrong fork or spoon so don't worry.
2006-08-25 16:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by RoZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all- one spoon is for soup. That's the biggest spoon.
And one of the forks is for salad. Antoher is for meat or whatever. The smallest fork is for dessert. The other spoon is for jello, or peas. Even if you drink sparkling apple cider, you can join in on, the toasts or even make a toast, to the wedding couple. For some websites on this subject, try typping wedding table manners and table manners into your browser.
2006-08-25 16:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basic table manners:
Don't put your elbows on the table.
Bring the food to your mouth; don't lean over the plate.
Don't talk with your mouth full.
Chew with your mouth closed.
As far as silverware is concerned, there are usually two spoons: one for soup and one for coffee and other food.
Forks: one for salad, one for main dish.
Knives: usually one, unless there is a butter knife.
When you are done, place your silverware on the plate with the cutting edge of the knife toward the center of the plate.
Don't burp.
The server should serve you from your left side.
Don't reach for the salt & pepper or other condiments. Ask politely that they be passed to you.
Don't comb or play with your hair at the table. Nobody knows for sure what is in your hair and they don't want to find your hair on their plate.
If you must sneeze, turn away from the table and cover your mouth and nose with the napkin.
2006-08-25 16:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really not that hard. There will be people around who have been to wedding before. You can imitate them. With the forks and spoons, you start with one farthest from the plate and move in with each course.
2006-08-25 16:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The rule of thumb is to use the outer-most utensils first and work your way in towards the plate with each susequent course. If it's a fancy dinner your waiter will fill your glasses for you with the appropriate drinks.
2006-08-25 16:00:25 · answer #7 · answered by pwoodrow2354 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start from the outside and work ur way in....that includes anything above the plate (dessert spoons or something) start at the top and work ur way towards the plate
2006-08-25 16:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This website will give you all the help you need. Read it carefully. She is one of the most respected authorities in etiquette in the USA. Good Luck!
2006-08-25 16:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by Professor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u eat don't put or elbow on the table.say please and thank u.don't talk when ur mouth is full.don't eat ur meat fork with a salad fork and so more u need to learn and i 4got somethem.sorry i hope i help.if u do that it would be rude so don't!
2006-08-25 16:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by lilxlala 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋