my boys 7 years old and 9 years old fight constantly i have no idea what to do.
2006-08-25 15:47:28 · 21 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try some parenting classes on how to deal with sibling rivalry. You need to find more constuctive ways to deal with this before it gets out of hand. I am not saying you aren't a good parent I am just saying there are a alot of people out there that go through the same thing and sometimes the rivalry turns into hatred later on and life and you definatley don't want that. Good Luck on your situation.
2006-08-25 15:50:41 · answer #1 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Been there done that. Mine nearly gave me a nervous breakdown.
My elder boy was the trouble maker, the younger was quiet and just defending himself.
I found it really hard as a single mum who had to work and tried counselling, you name it, nothing worked.
I so feel for you because at that age they can do damage to each other.
I was not a hitter, was sometimes the hittee when I got involved. Do you have a man around? I sometimes wonder if things would have been different if there had been a caring dad on the scene.
All I hope is your kids grow out of it or someone here has a magic cure, if so I would have liked that at the time.
One thing I must say is hitting is just going to justify their behaviour and is not the answer.
2006-08-25 23:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by ***** 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is just nature. I fought with my older brother until we were in our 20's. Now we're great friends. We had some real knock down drag out fights though. Got thrown thru a wall once, went right thru the drywall and passed between the studs and into the next room. One time we busted the front door off the hinges when we slammed into it while fighting. It was a common occurence for one or both of us to have to go to the emergency room.
Even though we fought all the time, god help anyone that messed with either one of us. They were toast.
I wouldn't worry too much about your boys, they're just in training for watching each others back.
2006-08-25 22:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by diggerfloyd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Matters what they are fighting about. You have got to find out what is causing the fights and then target them. My brother and I used to fight but when we got older there wasn't really much to fight about. He's one year older than me so he couldn't do much I couldn't. Try getting them the same thing. Some kids fight about stupid little things like say you buy one of your kids a blue toy and the other one is red. Well there's a problem, they will think one is better! Good luck =)
2006-08-25 22:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by giovanni1928 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Find things for them to do together. Basketball, soccer, video games etc.
Kids with to much free and nonconstructive time on their hands will always fight......lol
And it could be a jealousy issue between the two also, they are both wanting your attention. Make special time for each one of them separately. Take one to the movie and then the next week take the other. Spend one on one quality time with them.
And if all else fails and you are at the end of your rope............when they fight, stop the fight and then make them sit next to each other and hold hands or hug each other for awhile. Make sure you tell them that their behavior is unacceptable and it will not be tolerated. By making them hold hands or hug it will show them that you mean business and you will no longer put up with it. You shouldn't have to do this but a couple of times. It will embarrass them enough that they should learn that it is unacceptable to fight all the time, and that there are consequences for it.
2006-08-25 22:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Find out why they are fighting. Generally it is because one is buggin the other. Seperate them and explain that the are brothers and that its okay to have their differences and what would they do if they did not have each other. It worked on my kids and my nephews
2006-08-25 23:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by jamie s 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 girls ages 10,8 and 6, they are constantly fighting too! I took them all to counseling, it is starting to slow down quite a bit but i am going to read the responses from your question.....i can use a bit of advice myself!
2006-08-25 23:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a 10 year old and 7 year old who do the same thing. Seperate them when it starts. Give them time each day apart - call it private time or personal time Also try to do special things with each of them individually so they can have some alone time with you...
2006-08-25 22:56:38 · answer #8 · answered by fabergirl3677 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can't stop it just make sure they don't hurt each other to bad and make sure they understand that when the fighting is over that they are still family. Eventually they will grow out of it.
2006-08-25 23:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by fin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK i don't have kids but i do baby site a 4and9 and yes they do fight but have them work tougher it's the best way Asa Lego
2006-08-25 22:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by tara h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋