There seems to be no sign of turnaround in my life?

Question

I have been struggling with various mental issues since 16 and now I feel like my life will be miserable and full of struggles till I die. I don't see any sign that indicates my life is on the track for great turnaround.
I am 24-year-old male, still don't have a college degree, unemployed, and obviously I have yet to reach success. I want to be successful, get recognition from people, and live happy life that I always dream about.
I have been trying hard but I keep struggling. I am tired of trying, failing, trying, failing. I am at a point at which I wonder if my life will never turn around and I will suffer till I die.
I have been praying to God every night to help me turn around my life and be free of my mental issues. I feel very hopeless and miserable at the thought that I will suffer like this till I die.
How should I continue to live when I can't find the light at the end of tunnel?

Answer 1

You need to see your doctor as soon as you can.

Answer 2

You state: "I am 24-year-old male, still don't have a college degree, unemployed, and obviously I have yet to reach success...."
If I may be so bold, to break down this statement...
You are 24. I know you don't think so - but this is young.
No college degree: Which is it? Full time student or part time? What path are you on? Is a degree needed in your dream?
Unemployed: There must be a reason? Regroup, rewrite resume, and get beck out there.
Part 2 of your statement: "...I want to be successful, get recognition from people, and live happy life that I always dream about."
You have worked with a career counselor toward this goal? Does your family and friends support your dream.
Your family must have guides to gage what is successful, does this agree with yours?
As you can tell I am not successful, by hollywood standards - but in one area - I have a son. In every other category I am a failure. Oh well. I see my son growing up and the bills are paid - I am happy with that.
After I retired from the Navy, I was working at Sony, making CRTs - at 2am I was standing next to the oven, and it hit me: HOW DID I GET HERE? Funny, sort of, now I'm hundreds of mile north, separated from my wife - but back on my feet. The bills are still paid.
Maybe I aimed to low, or just high enough to find happiness.
Keep focused on your goals. Are they real?
At the end of the month will the bills be paid?
Excuse me but: "I have been praying to God every night to help me turn around my life and be free of my mental issues. I feel very hopeless and miserable at the thought that I will suffer like this till I die." Does this mean you have NOT seen proven medical help? Where is your family? To be really miserable without help is not how GOD wants any of his creations to be - we need support from each other. There must be clinics or something in your city to go to?
"How should I continue to live when I can't find the light at the end of tunnel?" -- I'd say there must be professionals out there to help, I can't say trust in GOD alone - people can't be alone - we need others really. Luckily many people will help you here, and after reading their answers - you may have a path to take to regain your self esteem and make that dream a reality. All the best to you.

Answer 3

I can truly relate. I too suffered from emotional dysfunction, depression, and sexual abuse at the hands of a relative. However, what I can tell u is this too shall pass.....what I mean is you have done the hardest and most important thing for yourself and that is to be realistic about the fact that you have these issues, and you know that they need to be addressed. The next question is are you in therapy and if not why not. A good therapist/counselor can help u successfully map out your goals, ambitions, and put u on the right track for achievement. Don't you dare give up; you sound like a caring and loving individual, and I bet you have so many people who love and care about you....Suicide is one of the most selfish things that we can do; we leave people behind with so much guilt....Also, you mentioned prayers to God; read Psalms 55:22, and also please read Psalms 41:1, and Matthew 11:29. These scriptures I hope will refresh you and make you feel somewhat better. Remember you are a winner and "winners do what they have to, and losers do what they want to!" Please email me through here on my avatar....I want to know how you're doing..............

Answer 4

You may be suffering from depression. You are VERY overwhlemed... You make need to seek perfessional help.

Although, my advice is to work very hard. Do your best even if you fall. Get back up and try it again. If you don't try it over and over again, then you WILL NOT be successful. You must learn that life has many challenges. One of those is trying to be successful. Not everyone may be, but you must TRY it. One day you will be successful. Your life can change, but that is up to you.

If you want to live a good life, make the right choices. Never give up, take on the challenges that come your way. Always and I mean ALWAYS believe in yourself. There is hope for you, but you must find the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you the best of luck.

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Answer 5

First of all, the key to making a turnaround in your life, is to make certain that you have asked God to forgive your sins, and for the Lord Jersus to come into your heart. When you do, you will begin to see things change in a way which you never imagined. You will become a completely new creature in Christ Jesus. (2 Cor. 5:17) You will have new desires, new thoughts, and a completely new outlook on life. As far as the mental issue are concerned, you must realize that it is the devil who is trying to destroy you. And one of his greatest weapons, is to try and break us down mentally. I know this to be a fact, because he tries the very same tricks on me. Sometimes I feel like I am about to lose my mind. But then God reminds me that it is only the work of the devil; and that I am as sane or sensible as any person on the earth. The devil is working harder today, than he has ever worked before. But Jesus is always there to help you. He will never let you down. But simply because you do not have a college degree, does not mean that you have never reached success. It is great to be a college graduate, but God's plan for your life, may not necessarily mean that you have to have a college degree. If He wants you to have one, you can rest assured that there is nothing that can hinder you from having it. I do not have a college degree. But I feel that I have the education that God intended for me to have. And I believe that the greatest education that you or me, or anyone else can have, is the education of the Word of God. The more time we spend in God's Word, the more blessed our lives will be. Just remember that the Holy Spirit is always with you to help you in any struggle that you will ever face. And you will not be misrible until you die, if you just allow Jesus to be your Savior and the Lord of your life. We can not always tell the way that things are going to turn out in the end, but if we trust in God, we can rest assured, that it will be good.

Answer 6

I think you probably need more help than I can give you, although, my advice is sound.
First of all, it is totally up to you to change the things in life that you aren't happy with. This is usually not easy, but it's what HAS TO BE DONE. Get yourself into therapy if you can afford it, if you can't, then contact the Mental Health Dept. in your area. They might be able to provide you with some kind of assistance, at least give you some contact information. You might even find something on-line. If all else fails, call Oprah or Dr. Phil.
After you feel mentally stable enough, get yourself into school. I gurantee you, it's better late than never. I am 45 and I am going to sign up for next semester. There are people a lot older than me going to school.

Answer 7

Perhaps you are like many just homesick. The moneyjungle is pretty hard to survive in, and everyone needs friends, real friends who still appreciate and encourage us when we're minimum wage workers or just getting by, so if it helps, I found some peace in Jesus and some acceptance in Churches and most of what life is never changes much. work of any kind is good and maybe money is a tool or a weapon but we still work as we always have. It's sobering and..even having children is a job so some peple's parents should get a book on childraising.Talk to anyone or a professional. That is their job. But don't give up.

Answer 8

well you sometimes just have to look on the bright side of things if there is one. It seems you are intelligent judging by the fact you write much better than most of the people I encounter on here. You do realize you are only 24 and that is very young still, its is not as if you have wasted your life or anything. You have plenty of time to pretty much do whatever you want in life. By the time you are 28-30 you could have a degree in pretty much anything you wanted. I am curious as to what type of mental illness you suffer from. Best of Luck

Answer 9

The part you've written about praying every night for God to help you ... here's something to think about.

It's a joke, but it has some merit to it. It's an old joke -- way before Katrina -- so I hope no one will be offended.

Once there was a flood. A big one. As the waters rose, a man started praying for divine intervention. The water got up all the way to his front step. A guy came by pulling a rubber boat and offered to help the man out. The man said, "It's okay. God's gonna deliver me."

The water kept on rising, got up to the windows. Another man came by on a rowboat and offered to help. The man said, "It's okay. God's gonna deliver me."

On and on the rains came, and the water kept rising. Soon the man was on the roof, praying. Then a helicopter came by and offered help. "No, it's okay. God's gonna deliver me" the man called back.

Yep. He drowned. When he met God, he said, "God, what happened? I thought you were going to save me!"

God said, "Hey, I sent two boats and a plane! What more did you need?"

Okay, my point here is this: You keep on praying, you keep on trusting God. That's right. But you need to look around and see what's there to help you.

"Mental issues" are real. They are not simply small problems to be dealt with by yourself. God has given people all kinds of gifts -- and some of these people are professionals who can help you tackle the problems you are facing.

Call for help. Find a mental health professional and take charge of getting yourself the help that you need and deserve. Don't worry about the money, that will work out.

You are worth it. Look for God's lifeboats -- you will be surprised, if you really look, to see them in front of you. Check the yellow pages under "mental health". If you are having trouble finding a lifeboat, look near the front of the yellow pages under "crisis center".

You're on the right track. Keep going.

Answer 10

It takes a lot of really hard work to achieve the things you want to achieve. No offense, but I think you are not trying hard enough. Nothing will be handed to you, nor should it.
A lot of people think that because you go through the motions of life that everything should just fall in place, but that is false.
If you want success and recognition, you must earn it.

Answer 11

I'm afraid its still up to you. Whether there's a God or not, your life is YOUR responsibility.

You can't leap to success. Get a meaningless job to get started, and work up from there. Whether you quit or get fired, odds are its you're fault. I think you need to learn from your mistakes and accept the responsibilities you carry in your life. Few people like having a job, but to care for yourself requires money and that requires you to work. You can't just WAIT for success...you must EARN it.

I'm sure having mental issues must make it harder on you, but I'm sure overall you face many of the same hurdles as everyone else. We ALL get lost, scared, frustrated, and feel alone. The difference between the success and the failures is those who succeed worked through their frustrations, those who failed gave up.