Is he a player? I asked this question before but needed more answers...i met this guy online...?

Question

He found me on a site similar to myspace. He initiates all contact and wants to either call or chat practically 24 hours per day. We have a great connection. He is american but his parents are pakistani. He said he was once hurt in a relationship and has his emotions locked away. He told me his parents have a few people in mind for him to marry but he is not sure. He wants me to call his cell phone blocked and he is at his nosey sisters house so he is always sneaking around. His parents pay for his phone bill. He wants to meet me and says he looks forward to talking to me everyday and that I make him happier than hes been in a long time. He cant fall asleep without talking to me or seeing me on camera. Im a being played here? Is this just a waste of time? Why the blocked number? The sister I could understand because she read one of our racey conversations...she called me and said he has a girlfriend. He said no that he was dating one of her friends but they broke up.

Answer 1

Yes young lady,be careful.

Answer 2

I don't meet people online, but if I did I know I would be completly honest and never portray myself as less than the wonderful caring considerate person I am. If I was mentally or emotionally unhealthy, or prone to obssesive behaviour like stalking, or becoming way too posessive, well I don't know about him but i would sure tell you. Yeah right!
Just from the little i hear about him he seems to have several classic problems.
He has never met you? Yet he has to hear from you constantly? Can you say desperation? He says you make him happier than he's been in a long time? Can you say low self esteem?
If it isn't that, it could be he has enough snap to know that is what you want to hear because you have some issues yourself. He could be playing on your insecurities to manipulate you, but either way something is wrong, and you know it because otherwise you wouldn't be questioning it.
There may be a small chance all is well with this but are you willing to gamble that chance with your heart, or your life? Leave the drama for HBO

Answer 3

The golden rule is "If he did it with you he will do it to you". If indeed he is cheating on someone with you, even if you don't know it, (yes, intimate conversation with somone else is cheating) then in time he will cheat on you. I am not familiar with the whole situation (does he live in the same town as you, age difference, last time he was in a relationship) so try the following. I have put others to this and every answer from their mouths will shout a response you are in need of......tell him you will not block your number when you call, he can erase it himself if he wants and you have a standing friendship with him so there is nothing to hide. "Noisy sister?" ......Sweetly demand a land line (home#) and where he works and a work #...if he gives ANY reason why not this is strike #2. Every job has a place of start.....Last and more importantly is to tell him you are going to spend time with your folks, a girlfriend for her birthday, create a situation, where you will be shutting off you phone for the week end more than a day. Tell him of course you will check your phone once or twice for messages (do not indicate when that will be). DO NOT TELL HIM YOU WILL CHECK IN WITH HIM, TELL HIM IT'S NOT NECESSARY TO CALL (you did not say he cannot you only are telling him because the phone will be off you won't be there to answer it). Tell him you want to have special time with your friend "girlie time" or a family time with no interuptions. This would be showing respect to the ones you will be with. I am sure you think this is some kind of head game, I assure you it is not. You are about to delve into his psyche. You are about to find out if he is a predator, potantial abuser, liar or just really lonely. If he immediately raises his voice, yells, denies you this then you have just given yourself a wake up call to any future situations with him. If he asks alot of personal questions; who is your friend, you've never mentioned her before, you're always with me on the phone you don't need to do that, since when do you hang out with your folks, where are you going, when will you be back, out of town, who else is going, any others, etc. then he's displaying jealously and this is a clear sign of an abuser. Give only general answers...."She's a good friend of mine, we're meeting up to hang out, no I don't know where we're going yet because she does all the trip planning. As for family; we're going to visit x relatives in ( do not tell him a town that any relative could live), do not give specific responses. If he does not hear what he wants he will get upset, jealouse and this is another clear sign. The biggest red flag is the fact he initiates all conact and wants this about 24 hours a day. This is someone who is starting to be Co-Dependent. This is a serious thing. He will depend on your for his happiness, if you do not come through and disappoint him there will be repercusions. You may be thinking I am someone who is just mad at an old boyfriend and thinking every male is bad news. Not true. I am the only girl in 3 generations in my family, I have been blessed to learn from many great men and yes, I am blessed to be in a good christian relationship. I know what I speak of because I work with a violence prevention service and a battered women's and childrens shelter. I am an advocate and have been trained to notice these things. Please, I beg of you to try this. You have nothting to lose except a high risk of being hurt either emotionally or worse yet, physically. Oh, by the way, Talking to you before he goes to bed is the way to make sure he knows where you are in the evening. This is called a "Bed Check". Please let me know what happens.

Answer 4

When I was dating my husband at the time, we used to talk almost 24 hours a day and it was a long distance relationship, we used to stay on cam 24/7 and we still do it now that we're married, it's not a weird thing, me and my husband were serious about our relationship and we trust eachother. We're just waiting for his visa to get through, so he can come and be with me forever.

But for your situation isn't anywhere different, except for the blocked number, I'm not sure why though. you should ask him about it.

Answer 5

I knw someone almost like the guy you are describing,only he is from India and lives in New York we e-mailed and im'd daily and every night and he called me on his cell. He moved to Boston and is living with his Uncle now, he djoesn't e-mail me anymore or anything He just stopped,yeah, you are being played. I was and boy I'll never do that again. I am not a teen-ager, I should have known better

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Yes... He is behaving suspiciously, and you have already caught him in one lie.

Do not let him manipulate you into being his plaything. Some people out there that have low self-esteem prey on other's vulnerabilty in hopes of boosting their egos. He sounds married too.

He's probably a midget and has bad acne. If I were you I'd cut him like a poundcake.

Answer 8

He has a girlfriend. Denial is very ugly and we believe what our hearts want us to believe. Move on, besides he sounds like a douche anyways... Ok, you obviously have feelings for him so I take the "douche" call back. Some of the things he's doing sound kinda lame though.

Answer 9

might block to avoid parent knowing of an ouside relationship but still everyone is allowed to have friends if woman can get around cheating by just saying he is just a friend there is no excuse for blocking your calls unless he has a woman. just my opinion!

Answer 10

Do not meet freaks on line.
As a woman you can only get hurt or hurt bad by man online