abortion i became obsess wit trying 2 get pregnant again becuz i felt like a baby killer (tho i was forced to do this) n also stupid for letting ppl force me to do it.. well neway i kept tryin to get pregnant a week after my abortion up until august 20 which is the day i got my period but it started brown so i thought it was spotting from a new pregnancy n then it turned red like normal blood and lasted now its friday n well it stopped and so i put a panty-liner instead of pad and have brown spots now. is this a new pregnancy? is it just my period finishing cuz that never happened be4? also am scared i wont be able to get pregnant again :( i kno i made a mistake, i allowed my father (he is a cop) to force me into getting abortion cuz he said he wouldnt support me in any means but now i realized if i kept my baby, even if he didnt support me i wouldve found support in my bf's family (we been together for a yr) so yes i made a mistake i am aware of that and i am pro-life now so i think
2006-08-25 14:18:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i think the experience having abortion was a turn for me which made me realize abortion shouldnt be legal its something u will seriously regret n i have now learned that sadly thru my own experience.. so plz just let me kno whats going on n if im not pregnant but i do have sex on my ovulation days which are i believe aug 31 sept1 and sept 2 then can i get pregnant again? it would be almost 2 months since the abortion by then
2006-08-25 14:19:41 · update #1
First of all sorry that you had to go through this experience. Are you underage? If so, I recommend that you wait until you are able to support yourself on your own. I know you are remorseful, but would you rather raise a child while struggling to make ends meet or be able to offer that child everything he/she needs. Best of Luck.
2006-08-25 14:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
hey girl, listen to an older woman, many many women have been forced into abortion and thats a fact, it may not be widespread knowledge but it has and does happen.
Your life is in utter confusion right now and you have learned from this experience. You are not the first and not the last to have an abortion either by choice or force. If you can get a good therapist and dont let anyone pass judgement on you. Work your way through this confusion and let this turn into a positive experience for you. If you are in a position to train for after abortion care or pre abortion counseling you would make a great candidate.
Wait a while before you try pregnancy again, right now it would be just another mistake added to the last one. Get your head straight and your life back in order before making any critical decisions regarding another persons(baby and b/f ) life.
Good Luck to you and dont be so hard on yourself.
2006-08-25 15:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one forced you. Stop making excuse for you getting an abortion. You the one that walked in and procedded with it. At any given time you could of said no. You didn't, therefore it was 100% your choice.
Not every female will regret it. Because you regret it doesn't mean it should be illegal to do. It was your experience. Not every one else's.
You may experience a wide range of emotions (relief, sadness, etc.). Call the clinic if you have any distressing or uncomfortable feelings that do not pass. There is no charge for a counseling session following an abortion.
A normal period should begin within 4 to 8 weeks (the bleeding may be heavier, darker or lighter than you usually experience).
Pregnancy can occur any time after an abortion.
Return to the Clinic or see your referring physician for a checkup 2 to 3 weeks following your abortion.
Trying to have a baby just to fill in the void of the first pregnancy is wrong. It will not make the abortion issue go away.
2006-08-25 16:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is understandable to feel the way you are feeling, however I don't think that getting pregnant again is a way to resolve the situation. Getting pregnant (which is not recommended right after an abortion anyway) is not going to change the fact that you had the abortion in any way. You obviously had the abortion for a certain reason whatever that may have been. Right now I think you need to think things over and decide if you really want a child or not. Also you shouldn't try to get pregnant right after an abortion or a miscarriage. You should wait a couple months and let your body recouperate.
2006-08-25 14:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let guilt be the reason for a next pregnancy. Cry. Be sad. But try not to be irrational, baby girl. It was very hard for me when I got pregnant. But I prayed on it. It's nice to know that your bf's family SAID that they would have supported you, but where were they during your time of need? Talk to the Lord about it, and if you feel guilty, repent. Chances are, you can conceive again. Sometimes its hard to when your nerves are frazzled. Girl, you are going to become stronger, and things will get better. Whether or not your bf's family would have actually helped or not should not have been the deciding factor. Nor should have your father's decision. You were scared and not ready and when you get older and in a better situation, you'll have your beautiful baby. Okay, Sugar Plum? I wish I could give you my shoulder to cry on, Butterfly, but you'll be o.k. I know a lot of people who had an abortion or two, and now they have beautiful kids and no regrets.
2006-08-25 15:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your more than likely not pregnant but should take a test anyways. you didnt mention your age in the post, but i just would like to say (i know you've probably heard it hundreds of times) that babies are a real life changer and a huge responsibility they are a ton of work and while they are all worth it, i think it may benefit you to wait, first off you body has been through a big change recently and you should give it time to recover along with your emotional well being. you have plenty of time to have children, i had my first one at 30 and my second 3 months ago and wow, am i glad i waited, i had time to enjoy being young and time to mature and that makes me enjoy my kids so much more now, i think if i had had then 10 years ago i may have resented it because i was still wanting to go out and have a good time every night. i just hope you really sit and think about it before you go and get pregnant again. make sure this is what you really want and not just something to get back at your father or just a way to emotionally get over what has recently happened. Best of luck
2006-08-25 14:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
FIRST of all you need to stop putting blame on other people, had you of wanted that child you WOULD have had it. Second I personally think getting pregnant again so you WON"T feel like a baby killer is just LUDICRIS!!! You did what you wanted to do for your OWN selfish reason (and I'm very much Pro Choice) In other words I gain NOTHING for telling the facts here. What you need is a J O B and a life of your own. Why would your Father OR your Bf's family have to support your AsSeS? Your the ones laying and playing take care of your own responsibilities. Get counseling , DO your unborn (future) children a favor and NEVER get pregnant until you have been counseled. LORD what is wrong with you people always putting the blame on another so you "look" better!!!GROW UP!!!
2006-08-25 14:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Angel B 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Replacing one child for another will not solve the problem, you need counseling from a doctor, most likely the clinic you had the abortion will also help you find that help. But you are very susceptible to getting pregnant right after a abortion . Please see a doctor and if you are not count your blessing and wait till you can afford a baby. One of my stepdaughter wanted a baby with her bf and once the relationship was over her love for the child was over, he is a beautiful 7yr old now, & mom never see's him he lives with the fathers mother. Please think if you have to raise a child in someone elses house you will regret it. If you believe in God ask for forgiveness and he will do it the moment you ask, your little one is safe from this horrible world & will see you again.Please forgive yourself.
2006-08-25 14:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you . . . You are probably not pregnant. It is just your body having a cycle after an abortion. It will be a different type of cycle. I don't know you but from what you told us you are not ready to have a baby. Your hormones are going crazy right now and you need to take a step back for a second. Please, please, please do not purposely get pregnant so soon after an abortion. Your body has been though a lot and it may not be able to handle a pregnancy right not. Yes, chances are very high you will be able to get pregnant in the future. You will seriously regret getting pregnant if you do right now. You never know if the fecus will not be able to survive because your body is trying to figure out what in the heck happened. Please for your sake and that possible baby that will grow in your stomach . . . please wait!
2006-08-25 14:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Tara N 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need to let your body recover a little longer, before you try getting pregnant again. Even if not carried to full term, pregnancy takes awhile to wind down, and there is always some bleeding afterward for awhile.
I'm concerned about your emotional situation, too. I think that right now, you need to recover mentally from this thing, and another pregnancy will put you right back on the same track.
Your boyfriend may be very good to you, but he is not a husband and that will limit his ability to help you. Think about this. Your future children will be happier, if you wait until you and your boyfriend are older, more settled, and hopefully married.
2006-08-25 14:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
forget about punishing yourself about having the abortion, it's over and can't be changed ,i don't think you are pregnant at the moment but a pregnancy test could be a help there . take your time to get pregnant again .your body is just recovering from surgery remember. it needs to adjust to the fact that the pregnancy has ceased to exist. forget about trying, just live your life as best you can and if you are going to get pregnant you will do so when your body is healed inside . .your mind needs to be healed as well as you have been punishing yourself about the surgery so do nice things for yourself and pamper yourself for awhile and you will see it will all turn out right in the end .
2006-08-25 14:26:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋