I met him on springbreak and moved down to florida 2 wks after i met him then not long after that (like 2 months) we found out we were gonna be having a baby. I got scared and moved home now i dont know what to do. Stay with my family? or leave my family to be with the father of my child? What should i do?
2006-08-25 14:00:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Ask yourself, Do I love him enough to leave behind my family. Do I love him enough to start a life with him not just because of a baby but because I truly love him and want to be with him. Picking up and just moving somewhere is a big step to take. Do you know anyone in Florida that you can hang out with besides your man. There are going to be times when he wants to hang out with the guys and not you and leave you alone pregnant and miserable. From a woman's prospective move when you are ready, when he says I wants you to move here and live with me so we can be a family. Always know your family will be there for you
2006-08-25 14:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Question: Do you love the child's father?
Better Question: Does the child's father love YOU?
If any of these two questions produce answers of "no" or " I don't know" or "I'm not sure", then no: stay where you are; I'd speak to child's father and see if he'll help support the baby.
If he won't then get tough, retain an attorney and file a paternity suit. DNA can tag him in court and guarantee he'll have to pay child support till the child reaches 18. In such case, it IS best to stay where you are and seek a good job on your own.
If BOTH questions, however, have answers of "yes", then we move on:
Question: Does child's father have a steady job, one with retirement options ahead? Is he a decent man or one with brushes with the law and has one foot in prison already. If "yes" is the answer--and he's a decent man, then you should feel all the more better. Especially if you too can get a good job as well in Florida.....but that again is only if you two LOVE each other. Otherwise, you're entering into a trap of heartache and a broken home for your child....something best avoided.
You have to be bluntly honest about answering these questions....best of luck to you.
2006-08-25 14:16:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family will always be there when no one else is. You never mentioned, What kind of guy is he? How does he feel about you and the pregnancy. Does he have a job to support the both of you? Do you really want to be with this guy? WIll you have a babysitter if you were to move with this guy? You have to ask yourself these questions before making a serious decision like this one and getting you baby involved. Good Luck.
2006-08-25 14:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you really,really need to think about. Do you know this guy well enough to move by yourself to Florida. Find out how much help your family will offer you. Weight the good and the bad and go from there.Good luck with your decision.
2006-08-25 14:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your baby deserves a daddy - that is, if he will support the child and spend time with the baby and if he's a decent guy - i.e. not on drugs, beating you up, etc. If he won't support the child or isn't a decent guy, then you should stay with your family and get emotional support and help from them.
2006-08-25 14:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty, you don't even know this guy. how do you know that once you move down there that he will even be there for you and the baby? if your family supports you, i would stay there. if he really wants to be a father to his child, why can't he move to where you are? when a child is involved, it is always better to go with the stable choice, then the "what if".
2006-08-25 14:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in all do respect if he in any way liked you then he would move where you are so you'll can be a family good luck hope every thing works out
2006-08-25 14:10:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does the father of your child wants you to be with him???
if so, then ask him to pick you up so you can live together again....
2006-08-25 14:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by JTB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he want you and the baby..I mean does he have feelings for you and you have feelings for him...It is entirely up to you
2006-08-25 14:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he has your address, perhaps you should wait to see if he sends you an airline ticket. I'm serious.
2006-08-25 14:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋