ok, My bf treats me like i am the best thing ever. he says he likes spending time with me but whenever he has something more important like his friends "all the sudden" come over he just dumps me, or his older sister constantly interupts our phone calls 24/7..... and he just lets her...... i have told him how i felt about this but he still does it. Any other time he treats me like he cares.......
2006-08-25 13:33:59 · 29 answers · asked by prometida 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to get real and stop this,"My BF treats me so good." He treats you like crap and you accept it and you deny it because you dont' want to look the fool. Being disrespectful to you while your on the phone and dumping you if something better (like his friends) comes along is treating you good?
You then talk about it to him and he doesn't care about your feelings and keeps doing it? Wow, what a catch. Your a princess to him. Get real.
Tell him straight up if it doesn't stop your through with him. He obviously doesn't respect you or your feelings and feels that your not secure enough to do anything about it. You teach people how they treat you and you've taught him that your not to be respected. Check him now or get used to it.
2006-08-25 13:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, what really helps in all relationships is communication. If you don't let him know how you feel about this and how serious you are, he'll never know coz guess whst it'll all be bottled up inside of you. Release your emotions and tell him that you appreciate his relationship with his friends but he should respect your feelings as well and you don't appreciate being left out. About his sister, maybe you should talk to her yourself if she's approachable, since he's not listening to you. Tell her that you would like her to give you a little time with him. I'm sure she'll understand, if she has a boyfriend she'll probably be more reasonable. This guy really cares.. give him a chance... be optimistic and hopeful.. It'll all work out just fine... Good luck!
2006-08-25 20:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by Natasha O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously giving too much of your time and attention to him. If he saw less of you and had to work harder to get to be with you, he might not take you as much for "granted" as he currently does. Find out why his older sister must be calling him so often? Is this really his sister or a girlfriend on the side? Do not settle for second place in the life of your boyfriend or of your spouse. You come first or not at all. Make yourself scarce or invisible for a while and see what happens.
2006-08-25 20:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a step back for a second and look at this situation as if it was happening to your best friend. What would you tell her to do, if her bf treated her great but there were a few MINOR details of their relationship she wasn't liking too much?? What I would tell you is that you need to stop being so critical of your bf. He treats you right, he's pretty much respectful. Understand that just because you're dating him doesn't mean he can't have friends and a family. He has obligations with them just like he does with you. Just be happy that he loves you for who you are and isn't so overly obsessed over you that he's ALWAYS glued to your hip. Trust me that gets old FAST. Chill out girl, things are fine.
2006-08-25 20:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
X I think your boyfriend is playing an emotional game with you. If he really care about you he wouldn't get turned off and on so quickly. He's only telling you what you want to hear for the sake of keeping the relationship going, but you really see his true self when he is easily distracted when you are still in the picture. I think you need to re evaluate what you want in a boyfriend and let him know how you feel and don't settle for less. Good luck hun XXXXXXXXXX
2006-08-25 20:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me as if he needs to do a little growing up. he's to worried about impressing his friends and in the process leaves you out of the mix or flat out ignores you...NOT COOL. What's worse is that you've already explain to him that this behavior hurts you so he knows yet still does this dispite how it effects you. He might treat you well and he might SEEM as if he cares for you babe, but he doesn't, the sooner you realize this the better off you'll be.
2006-08-25 20:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is am immature twit, he does not respect you, you should be the most important person in his life, he is treating you like a second class twit. Dump him and find someone that will love and respect you and be happy to be with you, to laugh with you and yes, even cry with you. You deserve to be loved.
2006-08-25 20:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, just because he's your boyfriend doesn't mean he cant have other things to do does it? If you smother him too much you will find yourself without him. Just be glad he even said he likes to spend all his time with you. Sometimes its the thought that counts. Don't smother him, men tend to run away from that quickly.
2006-08-25 20:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by Mee Mee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK it's time for a serious face to face to let this boy know what n how u feel. If after this heart to heart he still act like an fool,get rid of him.
2006-08-25 20:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by Barbie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
his not the problem, you are. your not giving him much of spaces. it sounds like you want his attension 16 hours out of 24. real lovers don't spent every moment careing for each other. not sayign the ydon't care about eacho ther. they just have to spent time on everything
2006-08-25 20:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by dot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋