Is there such a type of psychological disorder or whatnot, that causes a person to be turned away from being affectionate, intimate, desiring marriage or a relationship. I've begun to notice that I never wanted a girlfriend and I still don't. I don't feel as though I have the capabilities of being affectionate, intimate, etc. I've studied my sexual orientation, concluding that, yes I do find women attractive I have nothing inside of me that says ''go get her.' What would have caused this because everyone makes me feel odd when they are shocked that I've never had a girlfriend, don't want one and never want to be married. I am 21-years-old... this just something in the "stage's of being a young adult."
2006-08-25 13:27:42 · 19 answers · asked by daledeloy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
usually (and im sorry to get all deep, this might be touchy) kids who are abused, espesh sexually tend to do that, but if you werent no biggie!!!!!!
i dont think theres anything wrong with you and if you grow out of it, you grow out of it, if you dont you dont
are you just asking this cos "other people" say its wierd, you should know by now that this society is SO prejudice agianst ideas and beliefs that are different to theirs,
like if you move to a new place and your the only one with an accent like yours, you should change it cos you want to, not cos other people say you should cos they "dont understand what ur saying"
nothing wrong with you dude, i'd actually appreciate a guy friend who didnt have ulterior motives
mail me if you want, i wouldnt mind chatting some more!!!
2006-08-25 13:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by punkrockprincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want a relationship but cannot become friendly, intimate or close to anyone, then that is cause for concern, since you might want that in your life.
However, if you have absolutely no desire for a relationship, than that might be ok for now.
Remember, you are only 21. However, the question is, what kind of environment did you grow up in? Was there love and nurturing? Were there good feelings?
You are a mirror of your family and your household. What happened there will tell you what is happening inside yourself.
2006-08-25 13:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in your 30's or 40's I would say you have some sort of issues. But you are only 21. Not everyone progresses at the same rate. Perhaps you are just preoccupied with other things. Dont let other people make you feel like there is something wrong with you. Make that determination on your own. If you feel there is really something wrong, make an appointment with a psychologist or a counselor. They can assess your situation and determine if you are simply maturing slowly or truly have a problem.
2006-08-25 13:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by tmills883 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the other answers. Just be yourself. Too many people say they have disorders, when trying to get through life is a disorder in itself. We all have our issues and you are young; there is no need in rushing by being committed to someone. Relationships take a lot of work and if you're not up for it just brush other people's comments under the rug. The fact that you are concerned about your seemingly lack of affection shows that you do have affection; you just haven't met the right woman to get it out of you. You don't want to give your heart away too easily. Just live your life. Be happy. Be yourself. Don't go pay some quack to listen to you. That's a waste of money. You can use that money to go out and have fun. Then while having fun you just might run in to a woman whom you find interesting. You never know. You don't have a disorder. Just be yourself please.
2006-08-25 13:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by justthinking 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I won't lie it is a bit odd but I don't think it's uncurable and necessarily abnormal. Don't put yourself down. Maybe you just haven't found the right person yet. Sometimes you need that spark to be ignited before you realize there's a fire somewhere inside of you. Believe in yourself at all times and someday you'll find that right girl and you never know those church bells might just start ringing and you'll realize maybe you were just being a little paranoid. Relax dude.. She'll come.
Good luck though!
2006-08-25 13:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Natasha O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXX You are only 21. I din't find true love til I was 45. Hope it doesn't take as long for you but I'm not complaining. Had I found someone before that, i wouldn't have my husband or the great kids I have today. Good luck to you hun. There is a great companion and life long mate out there waiting for you. XXXXXXX
2006-08-25 13:32:03 · answer #6 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind I'm not a guy, but I've heard that when you find the one for you, that special woman, you will want to have a relationship. I don't think there's anything wrong with you, I just think that you haven't found the woman that makes your heart skip.
2006-08-25 13:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, maybe there is a problem. maybe not. you could talk to a therapist or a doctor could refer you to some one if you'd like to pursue this. Maybe you have a problem with being close to someone for fear of rejection or maybe you didn't have close relationships as a child. I know nothing. i am guessing-wildly. So if you are the least bit concerned or curious, talk to some one who would know.
2006-08-25 13:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like a problem. It takes all kinds of different people to make the world go around. Society tells us we should want certain things, but what the hell does society know??
2006-08-25 13:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be suffering from a fear of rejection and/or abandonment... I'd get some professional help or, at the least, check for a pulse...! LOL
2006-08-25 13:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by KnowhereMan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋