i have had the same gf for 15 years now,i do really care a'lot for her,but i do not love her,i have a Son 13 hes the main reason i stay with her.is it so wrong that i tell her i only want sex about once everyother week? i mean shes good in a'lot of way's,no drugs,no drinking, a good Mother to my son! we do nothing but fight, she thinks i see other women,and i never have in the 15 years i've been with her, i tell her if i had the money for a Polygraph i'de take one to prove to her i havent cheated. but it's never ending i look at other women, she accuses me of wanting her, i just like looking any suggestions here and serious ones please
2006-08-25 13:06:28 · 10 answers · asked by rpoker 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you dont love her..then don't continue to be with her.
my parents were married 20 years..and my mom became really unhappy in their marriage and left.my dad has a lot of money and supported her..but some things he did made her unhappy and depressed..so they divorced.my mom has now been dating a guy for 2 years and i haven't seen her happier.my dad has also moved on.so..follow your heart..and do what you think would be best.
your son should be old enough to know whats best for his dad.
2006-08-25 13:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a profoundly good man. And you're right that your son needs you to stay, he does need you, especially now that he's a teenager.
Don't get caught appreciating other women when your wife is around. Don't be sarcastic, don't offer to take a polygraph, don't try to prove anything to her. Use your imagination to think of something to have sex with her more often than once every two weeks.
Try to do some romantic things like buying her flowers occasionally or taking her to dinner.
Spend a lot of time with your son, especially on the weekends. His mother doesn't trust him, either, I promise you.
You are on a hard, stony path and you are doing a great job. I admire that.
2006-08-25 13:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you being with her because she is a good mother and all that, but if you really don't love her and all you do if fight, then I would advise you to just leave. As good as a mother she may be, and as much as you may not want to break up the family, is having your son listen to all these fights doing any good? And don't try to say that you two don't fight in front of him, because even if you don't he still knows when you two are having issues. Don't teach your son to stay in something even if all it does is hurts.
2006-08-25 13:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nixxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not always best to " stay together for the kids". if you aren't happy then you should go. Make sure your son knows that you love him though. You and your woman may find that you are better friends than partners but you can still raise your son together without really being together, Just be a good man and pay your support if you split.
I find if you always accuse someone of doing something it eventually drives them to do it.
2006-08-25 13:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love her, tell her and stop using her for sex. Treat her with respect for the sake of your child, but don't stay in a relationship you'd rather not be in. Let her go, and she can find someone else who will care. So will you. The fighting is having a negative effect on the child even if he doesnt see it happening.
2006-08-25 13:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to put the spark back into the relationship? I do See how she might just need a little reassurance form you that she is still attractive and that you really care about her, she sounds jealous to you, but she is really feeling bad about herself, because of the lack of sex drive, you have. If you want to make it work try counseling, but if you don't it is better for all involved to end it as smoothly as possible and move on.
2006-08-25 13:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that your sex drive has been low and you are not sure of the cause. Explain to her that trust is a very big issue to you and it is hard to confide in her your lack of libido, her accusations are making things worse. Explain to her that until she has valid reason to blame you then she needs to be fully aware that her accusations are infact like being called a liar, cheater, betrayer, immoral jackass. Tell her with that kind of disrespect being shown to you, well it's just hard to feel loving. I would also tell her that she is insecure if that you don't like being blamed to her lack of confidence in you and in herself.
2006-08-25 13:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and move on so everyone can finally be happy! Don't stay with someone just because of kids.
2006-08-25 13:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes insecure cause she can feel that you have no love or passion for her and shes trying to figure out why.
2006-08-25 13:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love her then you shouldn't be with her.
2006-08-25 13:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋