i have been dating this guy for a yr and a half. he has told me from day 1 that he didn't want a girl friend but i have said from day one that i wanted a boyfriend. we get along really well, the only fights we have are about his commitment to me. we talk about being together in the future all the time marriage, kids the whole nine. But he has yet to make things official. He has promised me that he is not seeing anyone else and i know he cares alot for me beacuse we have both been through alot over the past year, and he is the only person that i really have to depend on in my life. he says that we are boyfriend and girlfriend in every way except for the title. and this is a title that i really want, i have been really good to him and i feel like i deserve it, i want to know that he loves me. Bottom line i am really tired of waiting and i have met someone else who is breaking their neck to be with me. Should i move on???
2006-08-25 13:04:27 · 15 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl!!!...what is that guy thinking?...Yes...he may care about you lots but why can't he make this official?...i think you really should talk to him and tell him: I care about you but i really have to be sure you love me enough for me to be your girlfriend. He should prove you he loves you by taking this step towards maturity and commitment!...and if he is not ready...well...you have already given him a year! that's a lot don't you think?...how many more years are you going to give to someone that may never be ready to make a decision?..Maybe he has mentioned he wants to marry you but...do you think that if he can't call you girlfriend...he is going to call you as his wife?
2006-08-25 13:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by There! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely move on...If this guy is telling you that you are boyfriend/girlfriend in every way except for the title then if he really cares for you, then there should be no problem with him taking that step to actually commit to you.
Of course he is saying that he isn't dating anyone else...but if he wasn't, then why is it so hard to just commit. And maybe he isn't seeing anyone else, but you know what? He's leaving his options open because he doesn't actually want to be with you...He's on some bs...
You have finally come to the point where you are tired of hurting yourself. You know you care about this guy and you made it clear in the beginning you wanted a man, but he also made it clear he didn't want a woman...So you should have listened to him instead of thinking you would be different and thinking that he might change his mind...
It's been a year and he still hasn't so that should tell you something...
Definitely break things off...Good luck
2006-08-25 13:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. Your current boyfriend doesnt feel the same way about commitment as you do hence the reason why youve even met another man.
Move on...but move slowly with the new guy and dont look back.
2006-08-25 13:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not satisfied with how the relationship currently stands then move on (if you feel you've given it all the time your willing to give it). He may very well be afraid to make that leap and your having mentioned it from day one may not be very comforting to him.
You've mentioned that this other person is "breaking their neck" to be with you. That's no reason for you to be with them.
2006-08-26 01:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by BrianR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's odd behavior he exhibits isn't it? It's probably long past time to have a little heart to heart chat wherein you tell him you want to either go forward or go out. That it will be very painful for you but that's the deal.
2006-08-25 13:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was honest with you from the beginning. I don't know why the title would be such a big thing for him. That's silly. Move on. You obviously don't want the same things for your futures.
2006-08-25 13:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should not break things off, cause you and this guy have a history together, this other guy you met you don't know much about him, the real question do you want to give up what you have for something you THINK you might have with this other guy ?
2006-08-25 13:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by neisha_a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have broken up in week one. He obviously never wanted you as a girlfriend, and yet somehow you stuck with him. Go with the guy who actually wants you, not the loser who can't say you are his girlfriend.
2006-08-25 13:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by noircorazon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
2006-08-25 13:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, move on. Give the other guy a shot.
2006-08-25 13:15:00 · answer #10 · answered by trouble08132000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋