Ladies. Describe your ideal mate for life. Have you met him yet?

Question

Are these issues important? Sexual history & experience, children, age, looks, money, education, his family, friends, criminal history, job, intelligence,leadership qualities, has a good heart, ability to relate to women. I ask this question because I've met alot of women who date men who don't match their personality or needs but yet they still hold on them. I know what kind of man I want and I am not going to settle for less.

Answer 1

I have met my ideal...110% :-) He is tall, dark and built. He has a great since of humor and is ambitious and hard working. He loves sports (to watch and play) and had no enemies or a bad temper (<-- that's me!) He's fun to be with and helps me grow as a person, just I do for him. ANYWAYS answering your questions: All issues are important....History & Experience...yes, too many shows an insecure man

Children: depends how the female feels about kids!
Age: just a number
Looks: everyone looks the same after we go to the nursing home, but I will say I prefer taller men and dark hair/eyes
Money: Does not matter to me one bit. If I want to be rich, then I should work my booty off for it. No woman should DEPEND on a man for income. It's stupid. Do it yourself if you want it that bad!
Education: Yes, generally because educated people don't struggle as much through life
Family: Nah, you're not going to like them no matter what :-)
Friends: Tolerable, but not that important
Criminal History: Very important...sometimes history can repeat itself
Job: Nope, as long as he has one, doesn't really matter what it is
Intelligence: I put this above looks, it will out last the nice smile and body any day
Leadership: Not everyone can be a leader, so that shouldn't matter too much
Good Heart: Your heart (physical) is the source of everything you are...this should also be taken metaphorically
Ability to relate to women: I personally don't care as long as he can relate to me.

GOOD LUCK and sorry I wrote you a book, but you asked!!!

Answer 2

Despite the old saying that you can't change a man; I am living proof that you can. But it takes time and forgiveness. I don't believe there is any such categorizing that can be done to create the illustration of the perfect mate. If you are too obsessive over certain characteristics that's something you have to deal with or continue on your long treck of men who don't fit that. I believe you have to take life as it comes, and when Mr. Right comes along he'll have flaws. He'll have bad habits, or say bad words, and unless you are 15 he'll probably have a sexual history. But how can you pass judgement. You aren't perfect either. Children are a blessing and a man shouldn't lose a point on your score board for having some. A good heart is definetly a great thing to have. And as far as relating to women, becareful where you draw that line. If he's too femine he just might get on your nerves or be gay. Men in general however don't relate too well to women. We just try our best, and love them for who they are. And matching personalities is a question, because it is also said that opposites attract. My husband and I are quite opposite. I really love his laugh. Although he laughs at a lot and tells me I don't have a sense of humor. On the movie Guess Who Ashton Kutcher's character gave a great answer as to why he loved his woman who was very opposite him. Watch it, or fast forward to that part just to hear his answer if you'd like, because it's a good one. In conclusion I hope you find exactly who you are looking for, but becareful how stringent you make the qualifications. You might be looking too long. You might be nit picking. Or you might be on the right course, and you just might get who you're after. I don't know exactly, because I don't know you. Good Luck!

Answer 3

You don't have to settle for less, but if you constantly be choosy, you'll be old and lonely. Some of those things were important, but when you find that special someone, you'll look pass most of them. (except criminal history, job, intelligence)
Have I met my ideal mate yet? Yep. I married him.

Answer 4

my ideal mate for life is a born again Christian, he is committed to the cause of Jesus Christ like iam, he is mature, has a sense of humour, intelligent and well educated, not less than 1.75 meters tall, has indeed a good heart and is most certainly not stingy with money, looks, would be good if he is goodlooking, and he should be considerate of others and not self centred. if he has a criminal history i expect that it would be precisely that-history and i would be willing to work with him to build up so money is not too vital but he should be hardworking and responsible.

Answer 5

-completely devoted/in love with me--and accordingly honest, trustworthy, respectful, etc.
-preferrably little sexual history..but whatever, as long as there are no STDs and no exs he likes and no babies...
-around my age, perhaps a few years older
-cute by my standards..i have to think he has a cute face
-he has to be able to support at least himself, i can't be supporting both of us (and children eventually) by myself
-preferrably not religious
-likes his family, but doesn't answer to them constantly
-he should want to be with me a lot, and sometimes invite me out with his friends (as i would with him)
-must be funny
-must be smart
-sensitive to my feelings...knows how to make me feel better, knows what i want

stuff like that...idk...i'm young, but i do love my current bf..he has a lot of these qualities, so i'm hoping

Answer 6

my ideal mate is the woman i'm with now. she's down to earth, beautiful, smart, experienced and well trained in life. she teaches me so much and i simply love her. i never thought i'd find this and i'm glad that God put us together. we fight and go through but i've never regreted being with her. i don't blame you for not settling. we all deserve good love, she taught me that.

Answer 7

well, i mean, it's good to have goals and standards but just remember no guy is perfect, there are going to be fights and problems.......... but i see these women who go with guys they could easily be with better........ i think it's from a lack of self esteem...........

Answer 8

THERE R ALOT OF MEN THAT FIT THAT DISCRIPTION,
AT FIRST,
MOST MEN R MOST OF THOSE THINGS.............
BUT LOSE THEIR ?????????????............
ONCE TOGETHER 4 AWHILE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THE ONLY MEN THAT R REALLY THAT WAY......
R MARRIED, W/ GREAT LIVES......
WHEN I C THEM,
I WISH I COULD FIND A MAN LIKE THAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
THAT'S Y I'M STILL SINGLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

YOU GO GIRL!!!!! Do not settle for less!!!!!!