Is this typical for parents, or am I the only one with parents who do this?

Question

First when a child is very young, the parents do whatever it takes to satisfy their every want and need. Then, when the child is older, the parents realize that they've completely spoiled the child, and resort to fascist policies where the child has to do whatever the parents say, no matter what the child thinks about it. The child, raised as a spoiled jerk, is confused and incapable of doing all of what the parents order them to do, and so they whine. Then, the parents' realization of how wrong they were years ago hits even harder and so they become even more fascist and start taking away things that the child's life revolves around (also due to the child being spoiled, because the parents let it revolve around those things). The child, now confused and angry, starts complaining more and more until their complaining reaches Yahoo! Answers in the form of a question as to whether or not other parents do the same thing. So tell me, has this happened to you?

Note that I am the kid, not the parent.

Answer 1

Avoid all of the above by breastfeeding until said child is in college, cloth diaper, wear the kid in a sling (even if he is a 139 lb. teenager) and for the love of blue smurfs and their jolly mushroom homes, NEVER spank...we all know that will scar kids for life. Gosh golly, George, how did all of us old fogeys survive? Make sure you do everything your kid tells you to do, and don't ever set them straight or discipline them.

Answer 2

This hasn't happened to me because I was never spoiled. However, I have seen many parents react this way. I'm not saying it's right, but if you are old enough to ask the question then you are old enough to understand what's happening and why. Therefore, there is no need for whine or get yourself in a position of having your things taken away. Only stand up for the issues that are truly important to you otherwise just do what you are told and life will be much simpler for you and your parents. Also, there is such a thing as communication... sit down with your parents and explain how you feel at the times you feel you are in the right.

Answer 3

Okay, first of all, you answer your own question in the form of the first question you asked: are you the only one? Of course you aren't the only one! 6.2 billion people on the planet, every one of which has or had parents, and you think you're the only one, totally unique! How absurd and utterly self-centered!
Second, you also answer your own question by clearly stating that you are the spoiled rotten jerk who is looking for sympathizers who will agree with him, and using the term "fascist" to describe your parents actions.
Parents, unlike you, are mere human beings who can and do make mistakes. The difference between you and your parents is that they are mature enough to realize that they have made a mistake, and then take the steps they deem appropriate to correct the situation. You, on the other hand, although clearly acknowledge that you are a spoiled rotten little whiny jerk of a kid, seem to see no reason to change your behavior at all.

Answer 4

Some really shitty things happend to people in thier lives, but thier comes a point when we realize that we can either

a) Continue to feel angry at others for the shitty things they did to you, thus giving away all of your power to make your life happy

b) Accept the shitty things, let go of the blame and pain, know that everyone make mistakes and take your power back over your own happiness.

I know this is easier said than done, but through my life expereinces I have learnt this to be truth.

I know where you are coming from, I have expereinced many similiar things in my childhood and it sucked, but now I am a parent and have learnt some things from my own parents mistakes and am able to do a better job in some regards when it comes to my own child. There is for sure, many positive perpectives for every crappy thing that happens. No doubt your parents made some mistakes and they are probably just scared and dont really know how to fix things. Beleive it or not, they do this cause they love you. I was spoiled quite a bit as a kid and you know what I lack now...discipline... when it comes to some really important things in life. I think they know this and are trying desperately to fix things.

Good luck

Answer 5

This behavior sounds typical and sounds completely fine to me. Parents are supposed to fulfill their infant child's every want and need because the child is completely dependent on them for life and this helps the child to know that it has a loving support system. As the child grows older, parents are supposed to set boundaries and limitations so that child realizes that they need to learn to respect authority figures and that instant gratification is not always an option, you need to set goals and work hard to get the things you want. Rarely will everything be handed to you as an adult. Parents do these things to help their kids learn responsibility and the way the real world works. These behaviors will help them grow into a well rounded adult later in life. It sounds as though you have a misguided view of what your parents are trying to do for you and you are being rebellious. Be proud that your parents care enough to teach you these important life lessons.

Answer 6

Ha. The problem lies with society. We can't let our kids cry, we spank them without getting dirty looks from others, and we want them to have more than we did growing up. Yes, I have a spoiled child and yes, I am paying the price for my actions. Lots of regret and wishes that I would have done things differently, however, if you are able to ask questions on Yahoo you are able to take responsiblity for your actions. You know when you are behaving badly so it's now up to you to correct yourself and start by not blaming your parents.

Answer 7

Okay..so you were a spoilt child.. now is the time to get over it.. Try being reasonable with your parents..Try not acting selfish and self centred.. the world really does not revolve around you. You seem to realize this in your statement.. Walk the walk and talk the talk. slow down.. give your parents a break..kids don't come with a manual.. nobody wants their kids to hate them, that's why they spoil them..then they figure it out..we hate them anyways..lol.. enjoy your youth.. it will end soon enough.

Answer 8

its the parents fault for making u into a spoiled, unbearable, human being that no one wants to be bothered with...god know i wouldn't....

but lots of other parents do that as well....they don't know how to parent and then when they finally realize that their child is a spoiled little monster who refuses to grow the hell up and become responsible..then they want to complain about it..

i have no sympathy for parents like that..they should have realized spoiling a child rears an unbearable, selfish, mean, spoiled, human being that NO ONE really likes in the end....as for you the child..well u should have been DISCIPLINED YEARS AGO...so don't come crying to yahoo now...its time to GROW UP ..you will learn VERY SOON that in the end the world DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND YOU..nor does the world really care about your SUPERFICIAL PROBLEMS...

Answer 9

I think if you are old enough to be on yahoo answers asking this question then you are old enough to understand that parents make mistakes. Noone teaches us how to parent and we do the best we know how with what we have at the time. You'll just have to get over it and learn from it for when you get to be a parent so you can make different mistakes. :)

Answer 10

Well not to this extreme and I was never spoiled. Sorry cant say it happened to me this way.