My godchild and his brother have been living with me since May. Well it's that time again for school and my godchild started Pre-K. and his brother is in 3rd grade. They see each other for lunch everyday and then my godchild starts to cry because he misses his brother. What can I do to maybe help him. I have done sitting down with him and telling him that it will be ok and that he will see his brother on the bus but it did not work. Is there anything I can do or he will just have to get over it himself.
2006-08-25 12:31:44 · 7 answers · asked by Amy L 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
best thing i can suggest is tell your godchilds bro to give him something and tell the godchild to hold onto it when he misses his bro?
2006-08-25 12:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by aznxpranksta69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already started out doing the right thing, which is talking to him. Sometimes when little kids are missing their parents while at school, a picture of the parents helps get them through the day. Try giving him a picture of his big brother to keep in his lunch box and see if that helps (tape it in there so he won't lose it) If there's a way for him to have a different lunch schedule than his big brother, that might be a good idea. Just as it's not recommended for parents to drop in at lunch time to see their daycare kids, the same would apply to this situation. It's a reminder to the little guy that he's got to say goodbye to his protector and go face the world by himself again. He's just a little scared. Poor little punkin'! Hope this helps!
2006-08-25 12:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Answers to Nurse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The poor kid has attatchment issues. Being separated from his parents not long ago, and now not being able to see his bro at school. That's tough on a 4-5yr old! See if he can visit his older brother in class in the afternoon (5 minutes max.) so he knows where he is and what he's doing. Or maybe let him walk his bro to class after lunch and then say goodbye see you later. Could work?!
2006-08-25 12:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by snowy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving him a small photo album with all your photos in it. For a pre-K kid, out of sight means "gone." Sounds like some separation issues, given the circumstances you provided, that might be helped by the school counselor or a social worker. It's a fearful age anyway - my own daughter was sure somebody was going to come through her ceiling and steal her at that age. We invented a magic spell to "seal off" the ceiling! If it doesn't pass, I would ask the school about community resources...Good luck!
2006-08-25 12:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by losteph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just seperation anxiety . If the parents are not around this is a very delicate sitiuation all you can do is reasure him for now and i would let his teacher know . I hope things get better for you and your godchild Good luck
2006-08-25 12:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by shaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may have abandonment issues considering he has changed housing. Talk to his teacher and see if they make make an extra effort to distract/comfort him or something. He will be OK eventually. He could have much worse problems, he is lucky to have you helping him.
2006-08-25 12:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll get over it, becuase he's still attached to people he knows; once he starts making friends, he should be ok...and then you have a real problem
2006-08-25 12:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by KingRichard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋