My bf (lets call her Alex) got engaged a year and a half ago. She announced she wanted me to be in her wedding as the MOH. Fast forward to the shower! Alex calls me each and every day to make sure everything is to her liking. Ends up i spend about 400 dollars on the shower myself. No one asked or offered to help.
It was stressfull...At the wedding, she asked each of the wedding party people to spend a whole week at her rentd beach house and party hardy b4 the event. Well, I did, and accidntly flashed the uncle of the groom when my top came off in the hottub. Well, day of wedding, I was given a stern talking to about my "conduct" with one of the other bm's
Day of the wedding, did my thing, things went off without a hitch, gave a wondrful spch, and she hasnt spokn to me since. I applogized for whatever I did wrong but honestly feel I put lots of energy into her wedding. I don't wanna be friends with her either, honestly...bc this shows me she's a total witch! Shld I carry on a frdshp?
2006-08-25 12:09:00 · 12 answers · asked by kiki877 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the thing is, she actually picked about evrythng concrning her shwr, which is a gift..normally you dont get to pick your menu and such. she was pretty high maint. threwout the whole event and orrgnally told me I shldnt bring my fiance. she hu the phone on me after screaming at me a week bfore the wedding. then I just brought him anyway, but we were stuck in a 7 br home sleeping on the deck of the house on a airmatrss which had a leak in it. you can't imagine what that nite was like. then I was late to take the girls for the bachlorette party out on the river, but we made it evn tho we ran late. no one offred to help with either thing..I did this all by myself. bride refuses to believe this, thinks Im playing games, and tells me Im making up this situation in my head. meanwhile, her passive agressive tend. had us sleeping with another couple we didn't even know in the same room.
it was so wierd. anyway, I did my best, she is still angry. I should be the one angry!!
2006-08-25 12:56:18 · update #1
It was an accident...the flashing thing..someone dared one of us to go toppless and i was like ..ok...but had no idea some old dude was hanging around us all. It was not a direct flash..I just took off my shirt. we all were really, in different instances.
2006-08-25 14:02:30 · update #2
You should have been my maid of honor!!! Mine is the total opposite. Has not lifted a finger to help me do anything. I threw my own shower!!
I would be totally appreciative, and thank you for everything.
I would move on to other friends who would not be so ungrateful.
2006-08-25 14:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by rollergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is a bridezilla. I don't blame you for your feelings. I felt the same way before, after and during a wedding I was in. By a month before the wedding I was wanting out and another friend who was a bridesmaid convinced me I should stay in the wedding. I haven't spoken to this woman since her wedding day (by the way I left before the meal was served, the attendants dance, everything including some pictures were taken after I had left and it was very conspicuous that there was someone missing). I don't regret leaving when I did, and I don't regret losing her friendship. It wasn't worth it at this point and I know now that I will never go through this again. Sorry that you had such a horrible experience. Stop apologizing and get on with your life and prepare for your own wedding and if she is in it let her know that you have rethought a lot of things and that you really don't want her in your wedding.
2006-08-25 21:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you feel what you feel. Sounds like you did a good job helping at her wedding.
Don't dwell on the accidental flashing, things happen. Your friend might still be busy taking care of wedding thank you cards. Why not give her a call and clear the air?
Friendship takes understanding, caring, and honesty to last. Talk things out if you want to continue yours with your friend.
2006-08-25 19:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by justagal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is stressing you out this much, maybe you should just forget her and find a new circle of friends. You deserve respect, especially with all the trouble you went to for her! If she doesn't appreciate you and is sapping all your energy with her drama, let her chill a while and see if she eventually calls to make up. If not, you shouldn't have too hard a time finding a friend who does appreciate you and can offer a relationship that YOU can get something out of.
2006-08-25 20:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny Alice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a true friend would forgive u for that if it was just an accident and even if it wasn't, a true friend would actually think that was funny. She cant cant accept that u r human and make mistakes and that u r sorry for what u did, then she is not worth your time and i think that u should just move on and not be friends with that witch anymore.....
2006-08-25 19:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if that was your true friend, she should be kissing the ground that you walk on. i mean, it sounds like you went thru the fire for that grrl. and now she won't even talk to you, that's some ****** up ****. maybe you should call her to see where she stands. hopefully her and her new husband are just trying to wind down after the wedding, but if that's not the case, then go on with your life.
2006-08-26 04:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by ms_mashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you accidentally flash his uncle, or was it a "drunken accident"? If it was an innocent, unplanned accident then she needs to know that. If you did it because you were drunk, then i could understand her anger a bit. Just give her time and if she is a real friend she will forgive you.
2006-08-25 20:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO i wouldn't think you should have to still be friends with her.If she's going to act like that.I wouldn't want to be friends with someone who wont even except my apologia.I mean what else dose she want from you.You told her that you were sorry. and that should have been enough.But know at least you know who you're real friends are.Best of luck
2006-08-25 19:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life. If she comes into it again, good, if not, just keep on moving.
2006-08-25 21:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by Nana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares? Stop bitching about it and stop seeing her, end of story. Obviously she's bridezilla, again, who cares.
2006-08-25 22:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋