Me and my g/f been together for three years. We got in a big fight about a dumb thing and she said if i dont change she doesnt want to be with me and hung up on me. She didnt call me or answer my calls for two days, then finally we talked she said she loves me and never wants to leave me, so i calmed down and thought everything was good i was wrong, I had gone over her house to see if she was there and she wasnt so i left. then her dad called my parents and said she doesnt want to see me and to leave her alone. I was very confused, this had happened before i seen her. Since then shes not the same she said we broke up on the day we fought but she didnt tell me. Now her dad and brothers are influincing her not to be with me. Shes not the same she use to be so loving and caring now she says she wants to be safe so she doesnt get hurt again. O and during those 2 days she didnt call me she was crying and thats why her dad and brothers were pissed off. Im really confused i need help.
2006-08-25 11:26:45 · 25 answers · asked by southside_209 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like she is confused about what she wants. Just give her some time and space and see what happens.
2006-08-25 11:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very confusing situation, but there's only one thing you can do: just leave her alone. I don't mean to be so blunt about it, but if she's doing this for pratically no reason (or if there is a reason, I don't know it), then you can only do as you've been asked and back off.
If she doesn't come back to you, then it obviously wasn't meant to be. Three years is a long time, so I can understand how you feel - my heart would be broken if my girlfriend broke up with me, and we've only been together for a month.
To be honest, she is acting in a way that just cannot be explained and only she has the power to fix things now. I wish you good luck in whatever happens, but just try to leave her alone and hopefully she will realise how strange she is being and come back to you.
Whether you take her back after it all is up to you, kid.
2006-08-25 11:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay...i'm going to try to give good girl advice....
If I ever did anything like that, it would be because I was trying very hard to get over the guy but couldn't. But that's just me. The girl's parents might be influencing her behavior too; they probably don't like to see her so upset and think that since the relationship has lasted so long, she should try to find someone new. I mean, parents always want what's best for their kids (or so i've heard), so maybe since they think that you "hurt" your girlfriend, she should just go ahead and find someone new and to see new people. The problem is is that the girl can't get over you.
I'm not exactly sure tho, since I don't know you and your girlfriend and what you've been through. I'd just try to talk to her and get things straight. Hopefully things work out for the best!
2006-08-25 11:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she just doesnt want to be with you anymore and is using her bros and dad to scare you away....sounds to me like she plain and simple doesnt want to be w. you anymore but it may have nothing to do w. you. i have a cousin who moved here to california from arizona and she was like so inlove w. this guy there but he was the reason she had to move in w. us cuz her parents wouldnt let her be w. him so when she came here she started dating a new guy and he was sooooo inlove w. her. he would have died for her thats how much he loved her but she didnt feel the same way, she said she cared about him but still. they fought everysingle day and he would try and do everything to get her to talk to him again like calling non stop and coming over to the house un-invited but she said if he kept it up she would have my uncle do something about it...point is that no matter what you do, it may be that theres just something really twisted going on w. her that you will never find out what it is....anyways good luck
2006-08-25 11:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it honestly sounds very complicated and sticky and that she is an over exaggerater. but all i can say is dont push anything on her like ur relationship with her and when she is calm and her family is get her alone like tell her to meet u at a park or something or at skool and just talk it all out and ask her what happend and if u want to make it work ask her if she would also and that u r sorry for pissing her off cuz whatever happend she took it hard....good luck!
2006-08-25 11:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter. She can avoid phone calls and DO NOT go over to her place, if she has dad and brothers on the look out. But write her a letter apologizing for the fight and telling her how you feel, and see if that brings her around.
2006-08-25 11:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to work it out, she needs to talk - not leave you hanging, not knowing what to do. It's always better to not react to any given situation, but to think about things, calm down, but ALWAYS come back to the table after thinking about it, and discuss it in a calm manner. If she is unable to do this - and continues to avoid working on the issue(s), RUN! Picture your life these last several days, magnified at least 10 times - that's how life would be in future years with someone unable to deal with life's issues. A true partner is willing to work on "US" in the relationship.
2006-08-25 11:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by jasmine828_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are blabbering.........you need to stop this. Do not mess with the parents! It is over.......what part of this don't you understand??? Leave her alone......got it???? Grow up and stop crying like a baby. You have some serious problems that you need to deal with. Obviously there is a side to the story that you did not tell us. In this day and age......you could end up in jail for stalking!
2006-08-25 11:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the drama!
Baby, I think that you would be a lot better off just moving on! I know that it is hard but, nobody deserves to be treated like that!!!
It sounds like she has some "issues", that you really should not have to deal with!
2006-08-25 11:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a female, in other words completely void of rational thought and or reasoning. Unless they are figuring out what flavor haagan daas to get then some thought is used.
2006-08-25 11:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋