How do you know if you'r dude is cheatin?

Answer 1

Since you posted your question in the Food & drink section the answer is

if he comes home drunk and don't want to eat what you have cooked for him.

Answer 2

What makes you ask? Did he do or say something that made you wonder? Or did the idea just come out of nowhere into your mind?

You will never KNOW unless you ask him and he answers "yes" or if you catch him.

But if you suspect it, then ask yourself why? If he's changed his attitude, talks to you less, wants sex less, etc. then you might have grounds to confront him. If it's your own insecurities, you need to find out why, because confronting him will show him that you don't trust him -- and if you don't have grounds to not trust him, this can kill a relationship even if he has been the most faithfull man ever.

Figure out why you feel the way you do, and then talk with him about it. If he takes your fears seriously and works with you to address them, then there is a good chance that he's not cheating on you. If he responds violently or with vehement denials and a change of subject, then you have to decide if you trust him or not. And if you can't, then you have to decide if you should stay with him.

As a guy, I can say that if my gf aproached me and said something like "Look, I've been having some questions because you seem to be withdrawing, and I want to make sure that it's not something serious... I want to help you and to make sure we're ok" I wouldn't be upset. If I was cheating (something I don't think I'm capable of, but I know myself enough to know that I'm not positive) then I would realize that I had to make a choice and stick with it. And if I wasn't cheating, then I would want to help convince her that I wasn't because she cared enough to ask as opposed to blowing up or doing something drastic.

Emotional outbursts and demonstrations rarely work... figure out why you are curious and, if it's justifiable, ask him... but don't make it confrontational unless you have proof, because confrontational will usually lead to fights and break ups, not to understanding and reconcilliation.

Answer 3

My husband cheated on me once, but he left edvance around, anyways I asked him about it and he didn't look me in the eyes when he gave me answer. I got more info 3 months later that in fact that he had cheated on me. To this day we are still together, but the trust between has come back up again. You are the only one who will know what is going on, what is your gut telling you? Are you finding little clues here and there? Did you ever ask your boyfriend about it? Do you feel that you aren't good enough for him? I felt the same way, but now its been almost 7 years since we got together, I still love him and I want to be with him for the rest of my life. If you find out that he has been lying to you, you should really think about what you want and do you really want to be with him.

Answer 4

He starts practicing better hygiene.
He isn't as interested in sex with you or he wants to try new things with you.
He's gone more often.
He starts going on more errands.
The mileage goes up faster than it should on the car for him just going back and forth to work.
Keep an eye on the money and credit cards. Is it going faster than usual?
He stops looking you in the eye.
Things you used to fight over he doesn't care about anymore.
He starts working out or losing weight.
He keeps the car cleaned inside and washed on the outside.
He starts worrying about nose hair and ear wax.
He grows facial hair or shaves if he's had facial hair for a long time.
He starts bringing you presents for no reason.
Your mutual friends start avoiding you.
He doesn't want to take you out or be seen with you in public.

Answer 5

Now, here is a little short story I wrote. It's called Nick Jr. goes Jerry Springer. Yay! I just reread it and it's not that good and not that funny, so I'll probably replace it if I'm not too lazy.

Nick Jr. Goes Jerry Springer

[Stage is dark. Camera pans over audience, who are screaming.]
Audience: Jerry! Jerry! Jerry!
[Camera pans to behind the set. Jerry is talking with Steve (the bodyguard, not the moron from Blue's Clues. He'll be on later);Jerry stands up.]
Announcer dude: And now welcome the 8th Wonder of the World, Jerry Springer!"
[Jerry comes out; audience goes crazy.]
Jerry: Welcome back, everybody! Today we are going to experience tales of desolation and despair, accompanied by lesbian animals, lots of
swearing, and plenty of violence.
[Audience cheers loudly. Camera pans back on Jerry.]
Jerry [reading off of card]: Okay, today we have Magenta,, and Magetna says that her girlfriend Blue brought her here on the show, and she doesn't
know why. Magenta, how do you feel about this?
Magenta: Well Jerry, I thought that Blue and I were getting along fine. Then one day out of the blue, no pun intended, she comes up and says that
she's taking me to Jerry Springer. And, no offense Jerry, but whenever you go on the Springer show, it's never good, and...and....I don' know what
to do!!!!!!!! [starts bawling]
Jerry: Well, why don't we bring
Weenie: Aw, shut the up, you _______s!
[Audience boos some more. Magenta is close to tears.]
Magenta: You AHEM! How could you?! You saidher out and see what happens? Let's meet your girlfriend, Blue!
[Blue comes hopping out from behind the set and sits in the chair.]
Blue [turns to Magenta]: Hi, baby.
Magenta: Hi.
Blue: You're probably wondering why I brought you out here.
Magenta: Yes I am.
Blue: Well,...[turns to Magenta] Magenta, I love you, I really do, but recently things have been starting go a little off course, if you know what I mean.
What I'm trying to say is that...for the last two months...I've been cheatin' on ya'.
Magenta [bursts out of chair]: WHAT?! You piece of cartoon trash! I gave you my love and and dedication, and you repay me by messin'
around? With who?! Do I know her?!
Blue: Well, she is a sort of co-worker...
Magenta: DAMN IT! JUST TELL ME WHO THE HELL IT IS ALREADY!!!!
Jerry: Okay, let's bring out your girlfriend, Blue. Bring out...Weenie!
[Weenie from the show "oswald", appeares on the set. She and Blue make out. Audience boos.]
you loved me, and then you leave me for a HOT DOG?!?! I thought you loved me!
Weenie: Hey, I'm female, alright? FE. MALE. See? [moons Magenta]
Magenta: Oh, you're gonna pay for that.
Weenie: Bring it on, AHEM! *deletes a word from script*! [She and Magenta duke it out]
Jerry: Oh, man, we gotta stop this. Let's meet Steve and Miranda, Blue and Magenta owners!
[Steve and Miranda come running out.]
Steve: Uh, oh. They're fighting!
Miranda [nodding]: Yes, they are.
Steve and Miranda [turn to audience] What should we do?
Kids: (A/N : I don't know how the heck they got there either, but hey, It's one of my stories, after all.) : GET OFF THE STAGE, MORON!!!!!!"
Steve: Boy, they sure are rude.
Miranda: You're right. They are.
Steve: [gasps] Miranda, we were thinking the same thing!
Miranda [gazes at Steve lovingly] We really are ment for each other!
Steve: Oh, Miranda! [Opens arms]
Miranda: Oh, Steve! [Runs to him]
[They skip merrily off the stage hand-in-hand while Magenta and Weenie continue to tear each other to shreads.]
Jerry: [groans] That didn't do anything, now did it? [Turns to camera and smiles] We'll be right back.





Wasn't it puuurtyful? I thinking of writing another blues clues related story! yay! More lists and possibly another story or any craziness stuff which if funny soon!

Answer 6

He starts to act different doesn't do the things he use to. gets real secretive about stuff.

Answer 7

I would be told by the private detective i've hired LOL

Answer 8

Does he accuse you of cheating?
Does he not come home at night?

Answer 9

if you look, you shall find. anytime i've had a bad feeling,i'll admit it, i've snooped.and i always found somthing.. check phone bill records or his cell phone.

Answer 10

If you're asking yourself this question its time to ask him this question!!!! Don't waste any time!!!