I want my gf back??

Question

I was in a long term relationship with my gf but 8 months ago she broke up with me. Her reason was that i was not comitting to get married.. Now i am comitted to get married to her but now she is dating someone else. She is in cali and the guy is in NY. They only met twice and kissed once but have been talking over the phone regular basis.

Now she knows that I love her and want to get married but now she does not want to break other guys heart by dumping him.. She said she needs time to take him out of her heart and start loving me again.. What should i do? should i move on or should i wait and put up with her talking to him as bf/gf?

Lisa,

You are being a bi*tch.. I was just not ready to get married to get comitted.. If you can't say something good then keep your stupid mouth SHUT..

It took me eight months because we got into an arument about 8 months ago.. so we kinda stopped talking and i thought we were just mad and need to give each other space.. and then one day she called and said she is out of the relationship.. thats when it hit me.. trust me i am not a bad guy i loved her too..

Sweety,

I dont think phone bill is an issue because they both have cingular which is mobile to mobile free nationwide.. I HATE CINGULAR y they doing this to me :-(

Answer 1

I think giving it some time is a really good idea. I don't know your ex-girlfriend so I only have your version of events to go by, but it sort of sounds like she might be hedging her bets: keeping you "in reserve" while she waits to see whether it's going to work out with the other guy. Then you say you now want to marry her. Do you really? Or do you just feel like you need to say that to tempt her to get back with you?

In your place, I'd give it lots and lots of time. I might be wrong about this, but you sound really young. If so, you have lots of time to sort this relationship out, as well as the question of what you really do want out of a relationship in general. Make sure you are taking care of yourself, and whatever you do, don't let what you're feeling right now lead you into a marriage you'll regret in 6 months. Best of luck.

Answer 2

Eight months later sounds like a long time to realize you really wanted to be with her. What was the single life not treating you well? Hey now it's on her terms so sit and wait if you truly love her, start by sending some Flowers, hey you have an advantage he lives far away and her phone bill must look pricey $$, your more affordable.

Answer 3

Awww, I know it's hard to hear as I am currently in the same sort of situation (it sucks) but I won't give the old everything happens for a reason bs, Simply know and feel that everything works out in the end it's helped me a great deal knowing that

Answer 4

If she honestly loved you before then why cant she go back to you. It seems like if she really loved you in the first place she should of waited and the other thing is now that she moved on she still should of had a place in her heart for you.

Answer 5

SO AFTER 8 MONTHS WHAT HAS CHANGED WITH YOU THAT YOU THINK YOU ARE READY TO COMMIT TO HER NOW? IF SHE IS SO EAGER TO GET MARRIED THAT SHE IS WILLING TO BREAK OFF WITH YOU THEN MAYBE SHE NEEDS TO SET THAT COURSE WITHOUT YOU.

Answer 6

Please Please Please tell me why guys, like you, only realize what they have until it's gone. Don't you realize it's a lose lose situation for your girlfriend??? Either she's with you and you don't give a rats *** or she's not with you and you finally care. So she's screwed not matter what. I hope she forgets you and stays with the new guy or anybody else. You don't deserve her.

Answer 7

man find you someone new and start over and then maybe you can have your space with someone new, and marriage down the line.

Answer 8

Well, you have to ask her who she, deep down, really loves. You or the other dude

Answer 9

well i think u should ask her that u leave him or not